Self-Worth: The Hidden Pattern Behind Your Relationships, Friendships and Success | E29

In this solo episode of P.S I Love Me, Lynda gets personal about the one thing that can shape how we find real love on our level: self-worth. Not confidence. Not self-esteem. The deeper, often subconscious belief about what you deserve, what you tolerate, and what you accept as “normal”.Lynda shares how early experiences, bullying, a grief planted a belief that she “wasn’t quite worth showing up for”, and how that belief went on to influence the relationships she chose, the way she over-gave, tolerated what wasn’t right, and the kind of love she thought she had to earn.You’ll hear why low self-worth can lead you towards emotionally unavailable partners, why calm can feel “boring” when your nervous system is used to chaos, and the three foundations that actually shift self-worth at the root.To learn more about Lynda and her transformative coaching check out: https://www.lyndawilliamscoaching.com/homeConnect with Lynda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lyndawilliamscoach/Follow Lynda on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lyndajw/Join her Evolved Woman Program: https://www.lyndawilliamscoaching.com/lwc-evolved-woman-program🌟 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and comment! If this episode hit home, share it with a high-achieving woman who needs the reminder: she’s not broken, she’s just been running an old programme.The content of this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended as professional medical advice. Always consult a qualified healthcare professional regarding any health concerns or before making changes to your wellness routine.You Will Hear:• Why self-worth affects results, not just feelings• The difference between confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth (and why it matters)• How early rejection and bullying can create “I’m unlovable” beliefs• A personal story about grief, loss, and the belief “I wasn’t worth showing up for”• How low self-worth shows up in friendships: over-giving, rescuing, and hiding your own needs• How low self-worth shows up in business: undercharging, overdelivering, and fear-based yeses• Why “chaos feels like chemistry” when your nervous system is wired for anxiety• The pattern: being indispensable feels safer than simply being wanted• The three shifts that move the needle: nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries• A practical prompt to use this week: “What would I do if I genuinely believed I was enough?”Key Moments:00:00 – Teaser: the self-worth belief that nearly made Lynda miss real love00:54 – Intro: what PS I Love Me is and who it’s for01:36 – Today’s topic: self-worth (not confidence, not self-esteem)02:33 – Growing up on a farm, school bullying, and the early “mate zone” imprint03:48 – The “glow up” effect and confusing other people’s reactions with your worth04:35 – Trigger warning and a personal story about suicide and grief06:08 – The success chapter: travel, PR career, and still carrying the old belief06:59 – Marriage and choosing a partner that confirmed the belief08:00 – Divorce and repeating the same emotionally unavailable pattern in dating09:13 – Defining confidence vs self-esteem vs self-worth10:31 – Self-worth as your operating system: when it’s faulty, nothing runs right11:07 – MID-ROLL AD: The Evolved Woman programme11:30 – How low self-worth shows up in friendships (over-giver patterns)12:51 – How low self-worth shows up in business (undercharging, overdelivering)14:23 – How low self-worth shows up in love: earning love, minimising needs, chasing15:41 – Calm feels suspicious: when safety gets mistaken for boredom17:25 – Research and the gender self-worth gap19:09 – What actually shifts self-worth (not affirmations): real rewiring work20:23 – The three foundations: nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries24:15 – Weekly practice: notice where you override yourself, then ask the “enough” question25:16 – Closing message: you are already enough, right now