Sex Ed: From Roommates to R-Rated (how to get the spark back)

Send us Fan MailHouseKeeping:Let's Upgrade Your ID: Let to the root of what’s running in the background — the belief, the fear, the childhood wiring, whatever it is — and we rewire it.  reserve a personal 1:1 coaching session with me hereFollow Michelle on Instagram @Mish_MindsetThis week’s question:Dear Mish,I have been with my partner for a while, and while i love him, sex has become a complete chore. We still do it,  I feel bad turning him down, but I dread it every time. I feel like it was exciting the first maybe year we were together, but now it feels like something he always wants, but i am never in the mood. What are your thoughts? Is there any way to get the spark back? This one is for anyone who loves their partner… but the second they initiate sex you’re like umm no thank youBecause WHY does this happen?In the beginning of a relationship, sex is fun. It’s exciting. It’s new. You can’t keep your hands off each other.And then one day you wake up and you’re like… wait… when did this turn into something I dread?In this episode, I’m breaking down why sex starts to feel like a chore in long-term relationships (especially for women), why men experience it completely differently, and how couples end up stuck in this weird cycle of pressure → guilt → resentment → obligation sex → even less desire.We get into:why sex doesn’t usually stop because love is gonewhy women need to be mentally turned on, not just physically availablewhy pressure is literally the biggest libido killer on the planetresentment + mental load (aka why it’s hard to want to sleep with someone you secretly feel annoyed at)why men take rejection way more personally than women realizewhy “just do it to keep the peace” is actually the WORST solutionhow to bring the spark back without making it weird, scheduled, or forcedand why desire is basically like a cat… chase it and it disappearsIf you’ve been feeling like something is wrong with you because you’re “never in the mood” you’re not broken. There’s usually a reason. And once you understand what’s actually going on, it becomes way easier to fix.If this episode hits home, send it to your friend who’s always like “I love him but I could honestly go 6 months without sex” 💀Let's Connect:Let's Upgrade Your ID: Let to the root of what’s running in the background — the belief, the fear, the childhood wiring, whatever it is — and we rewire it.  reserve a personal 1:1 coaching session with me hereInstagram: @Mish_Blum Drop into my DMs or check mFollow Michelle on Instagram @mish_BlumFollow Michelle on Instagram @Mish_Blum