Shame & Boundaries: Reclaiming Hope, Choice, and the Courage to Stop Tolerating What Drains You with Elizabeth Webb

What happens when you have done all the things, read the books, attended the webinars, and still feel disconnected from yourself? In this episode I sit down with Elizabeth Webb, positive psychology expert, coach, and author of Made for Magic, to talk about why so many of us stay stuck in patterns that drain us, and how we start choosing differently.We get into self-abandonment and the quiet ways we spend our time and energy on everyone but ourselves. We name the trap of toxic toleration, the shadowy side of being the fixer, and why unasked-for help is often a form of control. Elizabeth gets honest about people-pleasing, the line "when you stop people pleasing, people are not pleased," and the grief that shows up when you start renegotiating the invisible relational contracts you never knew you signed.We also talk about the shame spiral that keeps you stuck, how hope and choice rebuild your agency, and the practical, body-based tools you can use in the moment when breaking a pattern feels scary.In this conversation:Why self-abandonment quietly runs your week, and how to track itToxic toleration and the cost of being the one who holds everyone's stuffThe shadowy side of caretaking and unasked-for helpHow the shame spiral keeps you out of actionElizabeth's energy reclamation practice for ruminationBreaking and rewriting relational contracts without ghosting peopleThe grief that follows boundary work, and how to be with itIn-the-moment distress tolerance: walks, nature, grounding, bilateral stimulationWhy hope is always available, because choice is always availableAbout Elizabeth:Elizabeth Webb is The Practical Priestess and an expert in positive psychology and human behavior. For over two decades she has helped leaders, celebrities, and change-makers break free from life's shackles, make empowered choices, and build a life they are excited to wake up to. Her debut book, Made for Magic, is out now in paperback and audiobook, narrated by Elizabeth.Connect with Elizabeth:Website: http://positivelyelizabeth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/positivelyelizabeth/Get the first chapter of Made for Magic free: http://madeformagicbook.com/Ready to take the next step?Download the free handout, 5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day, and start making the daily shifts that break the shame cycle keeping you stuck: http://www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilientBook a free 25-minute discovery call to talk through program options and find the support that fits you best: https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-callIf this one landed, comment POD and let me know what hit home.Stay connected:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d8cdfcb925ce4c9cApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@adversityrisingWebsite: https://www.adversityrising.com