Shame & Co-Dependency

In this episode, Jessica Parente joins us to discuss the topic of codependency and its connection to shame. Codependency is a psychological condition that intertwines a person's self-worth and identity with the needs and behaviors of others. The conversation explores the roots of codependency, its effects on our lives, and how breaking free from these patterns can help us reclaim our sense of self and reduce the burden of shame. The guests share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the importance of understanding and healing codependency. In this conversation, Kyira and Jess discuss the challenges of setting boundaries and the role of shame in maintaining them. They also explore the impact of codependency and narcissism in relationships, particularly with parents. Jess shares her personal journey of healing from codependency and offers resources for those who want to start their own healing journey. The conversation emphasizes the importance of reconnecting with the body, trusting gut feelings, and allowing oneself to feel without apology. It concludes with the reminder that healing is a personal journey and that it's okay to be wherever you are. Takeaways What is co-dependency? Where does co-dependency come from Breaking free from codependent patterns can help individuals reclaim their sense of self and reduce the burden of shame. Understanding and healing codependency requires addressing the underlying wounds and trauma that contribute to these patterns. The intersection between co-dependency and narcissism Reconnecting with the body and trusting gut feelings are essential in healing. Healing from codependency is a deconstruction of one's entire way of being Everyone's healing journey is unique, and it's important to meet yourself where you are and seek support when needed. Keywords codependency, shame, psychological condition, self-worth, identity, roots, effects, breaking free, healing, boundaries, codependency, narcissism, healing journey, bodywork More About Jessica: Jessica Parente is an ANCC-certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner, an ICF Accredited Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach, a Level IV Brainspotting Provider & a Best-Selling Author. Her chapter, “Lather, Rinse, Repeat… Until You Don’t” outlines her struggles with Codependency & is featured in Narcissistic Abuse Specialist Caroline Strawson’s most recent book, “The Unseen Wounds of Women.” As the founder of It Ends With You LLC, she is passionate about helping others identify their own subconscious and Codependent patterns so that they can heal, shift and step into a life that is authentic, intentional and true to themselves. As a Recovered Codependent & a Survivor of Grief, Trauma, Generational Trauma & Narcissistic Abuse, Jess pulls from her own journey to normalize client experiences and to instill hope these challenges are NOT a life sentence. Connect: Website Email: [email protected] Facebook Instagram: @generational.jess; @jessmolikewhoa (personal) Book: https://www.lulu.com/shop/jessica-parente/the-unseen-wounds-of-women/paperback/product-jgv6zd.html?page=1&pageSize=4 Resources: Co-Dependent No More; Melody Beetie Find a support group through CODA Check out the Co-Dependency No More and the Co-Dependent Millenial Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters 00:00 — Understanding Codependency 17:59 — Codependency and Narcissism 25:59 — Navigating Boundaries and Shame 37:03 — The Deconstruction of Codependency 46:31 — Meeting Yourself Where You Are