Shame & Core Beliefs

In this episode of the Untethering Shame podcast, Kyira and Sabrina Trobek delve into the intricate relationship between core beliefs, shame, and anxiety. They explore how core beliefs shape our self-perception and influence our behaviors, often leading to feelings of inadequacy. Sabrina explains the development of these beliefs, emphasizing the impact of childhood experiences and cultural norms. The conversation highlights the significance of setting boundaries, taking responsibility for our emotions, and navigating relationships that reinforce our core beliefs. Sabrina shares her four pillars of change and emphasizes the need for self-compassion and gradual growth in the journey towards emotional resilience. We covered: Core beliefs can either empower or undermine our self-worth. Shame and anxiety are deeply interconnected with core beliefs. Changing core beliefs is a long-term process that requires effort. Cultural influences play a significant role in shaping our self-perception. Recognizing and challenging negative thoughts is crucial for growth. Anxiety often stems from a lack of belief in our own capabilities. We can build resilience by addressing our fears and worries. Understanding the origins of our beliefs can help in their transformation. It's important to create a supportive environment for ourselves and others. Self-acceptance is a key component in overcoming feelings of inadequacy. Anxiety is often rooted in our beliefs about our ability to handle situations. Avoiding triggers can reinforce anxiety rather than alleviate it. Creating a strategy to manage anxiety can boost confidence. Understanding the origins of our core beliefs is crucial for change. Awareness is the first step in changing behavior and beliefs. Self-worth is tied to our ability to set healthy boundaries. Taking responsibility for our feelings empowers us to make changes. Relationships can reinforce negative core beliefs, requiring careful navigation. It's important to differentiate between our emotions and our reactions. Gradual change is more sustainable than drastic shifts. More about Sabrina: I am a registered counsellor and is the author of Not Good Enough: Understanding your Core Belief and Anxiety. I am also a clinical supervisor and public speaker with a masters in counseling psychology. Prior to becoming a counsellor, I was a teacher, vice principal and school counselor for over 20 years. I have extensive training in resolving past trauma and the impact trauma has on a person including anxiety and core belief. Connect with Sabrina: Website Facebook Instagram LinkedIn Not Good Enough: Understanding your Core Belief and Anxiety Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Chapters: 00:00 - Understanding Core Beliefs and Shame 06:02 - The Development of Core Beliefs 11:48 - Cultural Influences on Self-Worth 18:00 - Challenging Anxiety and Core Beliefs 23:51 - Connecting Anxiety to Core Beliefs 25:57 - Understanding Anxiety and Core Beliefs 27:29 - The Importance of Awareness in Therapy 29:24 - The Four Pillars of Change 30:48 - Navigating Boundaries and Self-Worth 34:33 - Taking Responsibility and Avoiding Blame 39:44 - Relationships and Core Beliefs 46:57 - Resources for Further Growth