Shame & Doing It All: Who Am I If I Am Not This?

It will come as no surprise I've known Jessica Meisner for 14 years when you listen to our episode. Such a powerful conversation - with a little silly bonus talk at the end - that we all need to reflect on. Some of the key takeaways included: Where the narrative comes from that we need to be something for everyone The pendulum swing Jessica took after she burnt out on trying to be everything for everyone The interplay between feeling stuck in “being everything” but also striving to control everything The protective role of trying to control everything What leads us to be resentful of others and how sometimes it is not a “them” problem The lightbulb moment Jessica had in our conversation that is one of the truest realizations for all of us What not asking for what you need actually says about you Where that need to be needed comes from The difference between needing or choosing the people in your life The 1-liner my mother-in-law said that felt like I got drop-kicked in the gut The key questions I ask myself whenever I get stuck in those spaces of resentment and frustration The different types of boredom and why we need to be bored to thrive More about Jes: "I am so many things all at once. A mother, wife, boss, friend, sister, daughter. But also, just "me" and that one takes some work. "Me" I don't know all of yet. I have spent my adult life raising children and fixing problems for everyone. Currently, I am passionate about defining "me" to myself and no one else. I am making choices that are mine and maybe a little selfish, but could we redefine that word? Maybe selfish doesn't have to be so bad?"