Shame & Eating Disorders

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Erika Malm discuss the barriers to embracing eating disorders and why they are not talked about enough. They explore the misconceptions and myths surrounding eating disorders and the need for validation and empathy. They also discuss the role of control and the underlying pain that drives disordered eating behaviors. The conversation highlights the importance of addressing the emotional needs underlying eating disorders and the need for a compassionate and understanding approach. In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Erika Malm discuss the deep emotional and psychological aspects of eating disorders. They explore the importance of understanding the underlying pain and trauma that often drive disordered eating behaviors. They emphasize the need for empathy, validation, and emotional processing in the healing process. They also highlight the role of the therapeutic relationship and the importance of creating a strong healing container. The conversation encourages listeners to hold onto hope and to be patient with themselves as they navigate their own healing journeys. Takeaways Eating disorders are often stigmatized and not talked about enough, leading to misinformation and barriers to treatment. The focus should be on understanding and validating the underlying emotional needs that drive disordered eating behaviors. Control is often associated with eating disorders, but it is important to recognize the pain and fear that underlie these behaviors. Shifting the language and perspective around eating disorders can help reduce stigma and promote open conversations. Compassion and empathy are crucial in supporting individuals with eating disorders and addressing the emotional pain they experience. Eating disorders are not simply about food or body image; they are often rooted in deep emotional pain and trauma. Empathy and validation are crucial in the healing process, as they help individuals feel seen, heard, and understood. Creating a strong healing container, whether through therapy or supportive relationships, is essential for recovery. It is important to hold onto hope and to be patient with oneself during the healing journey. Emotional processing and allowing oneself to feel and heal are key components of recovery. More About Erika: In my work with couples, individuals & families, my goal is to help you to connect or reconnect with your sense of meaning to carve out a life that is fulfilling. Through our work together, you can develop successful strategies to address daily challenges and find avenues to thrive instead of merely survive in life. I have spent 20 years focusing on the treatment of trauma. I work from a foundation of Attachment Theory — with the premise that people thrive emotionally and physically when in healthy, connected relationships. The first of which is with yourself. I am also deeply informed by Interpersonal Neurobiology and Internal Family Systems (IFS). Connect: Website Instagram Facebook Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. YouTube Website Keywords eating disorders, misconceptions, myths, empathy, control, pain, emotional needs, compassionate approach, emotional processing, empathy, validation, healing, therapeutic relationship, hope Chapters 00:00 - Introduction and Feelings Check 09:29 - Shifting Perspectives and Language 27:42 - Understanding the Emotional Roots of Eating Disorders 39:38 - The Importance of Trust and Validation in Healing 50:29 - Holding onto Hope and Patience in the Healing Journey