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EPISODE · Jan 11, 2026 · 55 MIN

Shame & Perimenopause: Breaking the Silence and Embracing the Evolution

from Untethering Shame · host Kyira Wackett

Do you feel a sense of silent shame around aging or the changes happening in your body? In this episode, I sit down with relationship strategist Katie Rössler to discuss the often unspoken shame surrounding perimenopause.We explore how cultural perceptions of aging impact our identity and relationships, and why open communication is so critical during these transitions. We discuss the concept of "decision fatigue" and how it affects intimacy, the importance of maintaining curiosity, and why personal growth is 50% of a successful long-term relationship. This conversation provides tools to help you foster deeper connections and understanding during this significant life phase.Key Takeaways:How Katie helps couples navigate perimenopause and its emotional impacts.Why cultural perceptions of aging have shifted and created shame around growing older.How perimenopause affects identity and relationships.Why communication is essential in long-term relationships, especially during transitions.How curiosity about yourself and your partner can enhance your connection.The societal pressures women face regarding aging and desirability.Why personal growth is essential for maintaining healthy relationships (and how ignoring it can lead to "emotional divorce" or the Four Horsemen).Understanding hormonal changes, such as progesterone shifts, to help manage emotional responses and sleep issues.The importance of having open conversations about desires and needs.More about Katie:Katie Rössler is a relationship strategist, licensed therapist, and creator of the REBUILD method, a transformational relationship alignment program for high-achieving, international couples. She is the author of The Face of Grief and Who Am I Now?, host of the Relationship Reset podcast, and has spoken on stages around the world. With over 15 years of clinical and coaching experience, Katie guides couples from silent resentment to deep reconnection and supports women in perimenopause as they evolve into the powerful, grounded leaders they are becoming.Connect with Katie:Website: katierossler.comInstagram: instagram.com/katie.rosslerFacebook: facebook.com/RelationshipResetwithKatieLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/katierosslerVision Workbook: www.katierossler.com/vision-workbookReady to take the next step?Download the FREE handout: "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that is keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.Work with me: Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support that best fits your needs.Stay Connected:Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode.YouTube: youtube.com/@adversityrisingWebsite: www.adversityrising.comIn this clip, 5 Ways Shame Is Affecting Your Daily Life, I break down how shame manifests in our everyday actions, which complements today's discussion on the silent shame of aging.

Do you feel a sense of silent shame around aging or the changes happening in your body? In this episode, I sit down with relationship strategist Katie Rössler to discuss the often unspoken shame surrounding perimenopause.We explore how cultural perceptions of aging impact our identity and relationships, and why open communication is so critical during these transitions. We discuss the concept of "decision fatigue" and how it affects intimacy, the importance of maintaining curiosity, and why personal growth is 50% of a successful long-term relationship. This conversation provides tools to help you foster deeper connections and understanding during this significant life phase.Key Takeaways:How Katie helps couples navigate perimenopause and its emotional impacts.Why cultural perceptions of aging have shifted and created shame around growing older.How perimenopause affects identity and relationships.Why communication is essential in long-term relationships, especially during transitions.How curiosity about yourself and your partner can enhance your connection.The societal pressures women face regarding aging and desirability.Why personal growth is essential for maintaining healthy relationships (and how ignoring it can lead to "emotional divorce" or the Four Horsemen).Understanding hormonal changes, such as progesterone shifts, to help manage emotional responses and sleep issues.The importance of having open conversations about desires and needs.More about Katie:Katie Rössler is a relationship strategist, licensed therapist, and creator of the REBUILD method, a transformational relationship alignment program for high-achieving, international couples. She is the author of The Face of Grief and Who Am I Now?, host of the Relationship Reset podcast, and has spoken on stages around the world. With over 15 years of clinical and coaching experience, Katie guides couples from silent resentment to deep reconnection and supports women in perimenopause as they evolve into the powerful, grounded leaders they are becoming.Connect with Katie:Website: katierossler.comInstagram: instagram.com/katie.rosslerFacebook: facebook.com/RelationshipResetwithKatieLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/katierosslerVision Workbook: www.katierossler.com/vision-workbookReady to take the next step?Download the FREE handout: "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that is keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.Work with me: Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support that best fits your needs.Stay Connected:Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode.YouTube: youtube.com/@adversityrisingWebsite: www.adversityrising.comIn this clip, 5 Ways Shame Is Affecting Your Daily Life, I break down how shame manifests in our everyday actions, which complements today's discussion on the silent shame of aging.

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