Shame & Suppression: Breaking the Cycle of Avoidance

In this conversation, Kyira and Jennifer Ginty explore the deep connection between emotions, shame, and healing. Jennifer shares her personal journey of surviving childhood trauma, navigating Complex PTSD and depression, and ultimately creating My Moody Monster — a tool designed to help both children and adults externalize and regulate big emotions. Together, they discuss how society teaches us to suppress feelings, the generational cycles that keep us from emotional regulation, and why learning to face and integrate emotions is central to healing.Emotions are information, not problems. Every feeling serves a purpose, but judgment and suppression turn them into sources of shame.Healing is not linear. Growth is a roller coaster of highs and lows — giving yourself grace is essential.Generational patterns matter. Families and micro-societies teach us to stuff emotions, but we can choose to break the cycle.Toolboxes are personal. From therapy skills to creative outlets like Moody, what matters is finding tools that work for you.Kids need safe outlets. Tools like Moody help children (and adults) externalize frustration, communicate about feelings, and rebuild after emotional outbursts.Building a team is key. Surrounding yourself with supportive professionals and loved ones helps reinforce that you matter too.More about Jen:Jen is the creator of Moody, a project born from her journey of living with Complex PTSD and Major Depressive Disorder. Refusing to be defined by suffering, Jen sees Moody as a love story to her healing — a tool that has not only supported her through challenges but also helped children navigate their big feelings. Today, she is on a mission to bring Moody to first responders, social workers, and children facing traumatic events, ensuring they are met with care, support, and hope.Connect with Jen:YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@mymoodymonsterInstagram: http://www.instagram.com/mymoodymonsterFacebook: http://www.facebook.com/my-moody-monsterTikTok: http://www.tiktok.com/@mymoodymonsterLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/93141440My Moody Monster – Learn more about Jennifer’s creation, pre-order a Moody, or explore donation options to support kids and families through first responders and social workers.Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) – An evidence-based therapy that teaches skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and mindfulness.Internal Family Systems (IFS) – A therapeutic approach that helps people explore and heal different “parts” of themselves shaped by past experiences.Find a Therapist – Building your own “team” is essential. You can search for licensed therapists near you through directories like Psychology Today or GoodTherapy.In Crisis? – If you’re struggling with trauma or overwhelming emotions, help is available. In the U.S., call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If outside the U.S., please look up your local crisis hotline for immediate support.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.Stay Connected:Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode.YouTubeWebsiteKey TakeawaysResources & Additional Information