Shame and the legacy of feeling othered, with Martin Lathbury

☕ Support the show through Buy Me A Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/goodenoughchatsMartin Lathbury is a social media professional and retro gaming fan who grew up feeling like he didn’t quite fit. In this episode, he talks openly about the long shadow of childhood bullying, the experience of being “othered” as a gay man, and how years of internalised shame left him emotionally detached, anxious, and isolated.It was only after things started to spiral – withdrawing from friends, struggling at work, and questioning everything – that Martin realised something needed to change, and he started to go to therapy sessions as a result.In this conversation, Martin reflects on why he thought he was “built wrong”, the hollow feeling of depression, the patterns therapy is helping him to spot, and what he’s doing now to reconnectMartin doesn’t claim to have everything figured out – but his honesty, self-awareness, and quiet resilience make this a conversation well worth listening to.Here are the timestamps for the core questions:0:00 Dan’s overview and intro to Martin04:37 Why Martin came forward to share his experiences05:41 How Martin’s last week has been14:19 How his relationship with his mental health has evolved33:30 The lightbulb moments he’s experienced along the way52:20 The most important thing you can do if you’re experiencing something similarIf you’d like to connect with Martin, you can find him here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/martin-lathbury-34703742/ For more info on GoodEnoughChats, visit:https://goodenoughchats.com If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode, please know you’re not alone. You can speak to someone at:NHS: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/mental-health-services/ CALM: https://www.thecalmzone.net/ Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/ Mind: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/seeking-help-for-a-mental-health-problem/where-to-start/