Shame & "The Work"

In this episode, Alicia Jacobson and Kyira Wackett discuss the relentless impact of shame and the challenges of navigating daily life while contending with shame and trauma. They explore the compounding effect of shame and the importance of finding respite in music. They also delve into the universality of shame and the process of unpacking and recognizing personal shame. The conversation highlights the need to reevaluate success and worthiness and emphasizes the continuous journey of healing and shame resilience. The conversation explores the process of starting and not being afraid, practicing gratitude and balancing the good and the bad, being grateful for the opportunities in relationships, control and people-pleasing as avoidance, inconveniences and the need for control, the fragility of personal systems and structures, losing adaptability as we get older, fear and pressure in maintaining order, learning to be okay with inconveniences, self-management and being present in difficult moments, not needing to have all the answers, and cultivating emotional and body intelligence. Takeaways Shame can relentlessly impact daily life, making each day feel like an uphill battle. Finding respite in music can temporarily escape the weight of shame. Shame is a universal experience that everyone deals with in different ways. The journey of healing and shame resilience is ongoing and requires continuous work and self-reflection. More about Alecia: Alecia Jacobson’s passion is helping women uncover their hidden strength and power to be the Badasses they truly are. A wife, mom, stepmom, motivational speaker, fitness trainer and women's mind and body coach, Alecia understands the many roles and missions that drive her clients. She deeply loves 90’s rap music, which pairs nicely with her six kids and mom car! When her bass is not bumping, you’ll find her listening to books or podcasts, gathering information and tools to serve her clients better. Serving women lights her fire almost as much as Tupac does!  Connect with Alecia: Website Instagram Podcast Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.  Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.  Stay Connected: Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode.  YouTube Website  Chapters 00:00 - Introduction 00:30 - The Impact of Shame 01:18 - Navigating the Daily Grind 02:40 - Finding Respite in Music 03:25 - Dealing with Shame on a Daily Basis 04:34 - The Universality of Shame 05:19 - Unpacking Shame and Self-Worth 06:09 - Recognizing Personal Shame 06:38 - The Awakening to Hidden Shame 07:15 - The Complexity of Shame and Self-Perception 08:17 - Reevaluating Success and Worthiness 09:12 - The Journey of Self-Discovery 10:35 - The Continuous Process of Healing 13:18 - Accepting the Presence of Shame 16:07 - The Illusion of Complete Recovery 23:45 - Starting Point and Acceptance 24:07 - The Process of Starting and Not Being Afraid 25:18 - Practicing Gratitude and Balancing the Good and the Bad 27:09 - Being Grateful for the Opportunities in Relationships 29:14 - Control and People-Pleasing as Avoidance 31:08 - Inconveniences and the Need for Control 33:19 - The Fragility of Personal Systems and Structures 35:23 - Losing Adaptability as We Get Older 37:12 - Fear and Pressure in Maintaining Order 38:32 - Learning to Be Okay with Inconveniences 41:41 - Self-Management and Being Present in Difficult Moments 44:08 - Not Needing to Have All the Answers 46:18 - Cultivating Emotional and Body Intelligence