She Was in a Sexless Marriage for 26 Years — Here's How She Fixed It | ft. Xanet Pailet

Send us Fan MailAt 50, after 26 years in a sexless marriage, Xanet Pailet found herself single, living in New York City, and facing an uncomfortable truth: she had never enjoyed sex. Not once. Her imaginary dating profile read: "Smart, successful, cute — I just really hate sex."That was the wake-up call that changed everything.In this episode of Between the Sheets with Dr. Z, Dr. Stephanie Zwonitzer, DNP sits down with Xanet Pailet — bestselling author of Living an Orgasmic Life and the brand new Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit, and founder of Passionate Intimacy Retreats — for one of the most candid, practical, and genuinely hopeful conversations this podcast has ever had. Xanet has now led over 100 couples retreats, holds certifications in Somatica sex and intimacy training and somatic trauma work, and yes — she enjoys sex now. (She mentioned it was Saturday morning. We love that for her.)What you'll learn in this episode:Why sexless marriages often have nothing to do with not loving your partner — and everything to do with unhealed childhood wounds and sexual shameWhat tantra actually is, why it's one of the most powerful tools for couples who feel disconnected, and how breathwork alone can begin to rebuild intimacyWhy you cannot experience pleasure when your nervous system is in fight-or-flight — and how to change thatThe erotic blueprints framework and why your blueprint shifts over time (what worked at 30 won't necessarily work at 45)The concept of core desires — the emotions underneath your fantasies — and why getting those met makes sex dramatically hotter and more consistentWhy faking orgasms is a trap, how women end up in it, and how to get out without blowing up your relationshipHow to start the sexless marriage conversation with your partner without opening a bombWhat four days at an intimacy retreat actually looks like — and why Xanet insists on being in the room with couples in personTake Xanet's free intimacy style quiz at howtoimprovemylovelife.com. Find her books Living an Orgasmic Life and The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Learn about retreats at passionateintimacyretreats.com.📅 Hormonal changes, pain with sex, or low desire making intimacy harder? Let's address the physical side. Book a consult at reviveish.comWork with Dr. [email protected] is sponsored by Boston Scientific and EDCure. For more information click here:www.EDCure.com/BTS Connect with Between the Sheets:IG: @ReviveISHEmail: [email protected]#podmatchWant to be a guest on Between the Sheets: Exploring Sexual Health & Wellness? Send Stephanie a message on PodMatch here: https://podmatch.com/hostdetailpreviews/btswithdrz