Showing Up The Way You THINK People Want To See You, Is Sabotaging Your Authenticity

Hands up if you’ve ever caught yourself twisting into a version of you that you think someone will like more... 🙋‍♀️ A real talk—dating can feel like a performance sometimes.You meet someone you really like, and suddenly you're showing up as the shinier, filtered version of yourself. You’re polite, you’re easygoing, you’re agreeable... and before you know it, you’ve gone a few dates in and think: “Wait—do they even know the real me?”I’ve been there. I’ve watched clients go through it. I know how tempting it is to hide your quirks, your needs, your boundaries—especially when you just want things to go well. But here’s the truth: when we trade authenticity for approval, we lose the very connection we’re trying to build.In this episode, I’m unpacking:Why it’s so normal to lose yourself a little at the start of something new (and how to catch it early)What being authentically YOU actually looks like in datingThe small but powerful ways to ground yourself without pushing love awayHow to check in with yourself after a date and ask the right questions: “Did I show up as me? Or was I shape-shifting a little?”Plus, why boundaries are sexy (yes, seriously!) and how expressing your needs is actually the key to deeper connectionAnd if you’re already in a relationship and thinking, “Oh god, I’ve already lost myself”—don’t panic. I’ve got you. It’s never too late to bring the real you back into the room. In fact, a healthy partner will welcome her with open arms.So grab your tea, pop in your headphones, and let’s talk about how to date with your whole heart—without dimming who you are.You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to be chill, or cool, or low-maintenance. You just need to be YOU.And that’s more than enough.—✨ If you loved this episode, let me know what landed for you—I always love hearing from you.I'd love to connect with you and of course if you have any insights or questions from the show, please reach out to me on Insta!To access my free relationship e-books or to book a coaching call with me, head to my website.