Silencing the Inner Critic: Fuel for Entrepreneurial Fire

Is your inner critic keeping you from taking action to build your business? Join us as entrepreneur, author and coach Liah Kraft-Kristaine shares transformative strategies to help you silence that self-sabotaging voice and replace it with empowering self-talk for business success. Show Notes | Transcript "Become your own perfect coach or the set of perfect parents you never had. Ask yourself: What lie am I telling myself about myself? What lie am I telling myself about life? What lie am I telling myself about other people?" - Liah Kraft-Kristaine How often do you find yourself dealing with the endless cycle of procrastination as you avoid taking the next step? Or the overwhelming perfectionism that leaves you paralyzed instead of propelling you forward? As an entrepreneur, these forms of self-sabotage can derail even your most heartfelt visions.  Liah Kraft-Kristaine discusses the roots of self-sabotage and how unresolved inner conflicts and negative self-talk can hold you back. Liah's remarkable journey includes building four successful businesses, two non-profits, practicing law, writing 19 books, and speaking across four continents. She's also a former broadcaster on CNN and PBS television.  Using the powerful metaphor of a glass filled with ice cubes, Liah illustrates how pursuing your passions can bring up hidden issues and limiting beliefs, providing a golden opportunity to address them and move toward both happiness and professional success. In this episode, you'll emerge with: Transformative reframes for dismantling limiting beliefs about yourself, your potential for success, and others' perceptions of you Practical strategies to interrupt the self-sabotaging patterns that breed procrastination, negative self-talk, lack mentalities around time/money, and more Eye-opening examples of resilience in action - from building a home with just $4,000 to rising above systemic discrimination in the workplace Inspiring reminders to embrace your uniqueness and the "divine discontent" that signals you're being ushered towards greater growth and purpose Useful tips for staying hydrated to maintain mental sharpness and overall well-being Whether you're just launching your entrepreneurial journey or are a seasoned business owner, this insightful conversation offers a compassionate roadmap to unapologetically owning your brilliance. Prepare to amplify your self-trust, resilience and ability to thrive by releasing the self-sabotaging patterns holding you back. Resources: Join the Soulful Women's Network Connect with Liah Kraft-Kristaine: Website: LifeKraft.com YouTube: Lifekraft with LiahKK Video: How I Built My Home in 30 Days for Less Than $50K Connect with Live Love Engage: Send Gloria Grace a message ☕ Support the podcast ❤ Love this episode? Leave us a review and rating LinkedIn: Gloria Grace Rand Facebook: Gloria Grace Rand YouTube: Gloria Grace Rand TRANSCRIPT Any kind of lack that you keep pointing out to yourself or experiencing, including a lack of time, is signaling to the universe that you are a match for lack. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the L.O.V.E. Method and author of the number one amazon best seller Live. Love. Engage. - how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully, love deeply, and engage authentically so you can create a life and business with more impact, influence and income. Welcome to Live. Love. Engage. Namaste. Procrastination, perfectionism, and a lack of focus. These are not exactly the qualities you want to have if you want to be a successful business owner. Instead, they're really forms of self sabotage, which today's guest knows how to overcome. And that's what we're going to be talking about today. But before I bring her on, I do want to welcome those of you who are new to live. Love, engage. I am Gloria Grace, and I help female entrepreneurs attract more clients with calm, clarity and confidence by releasing negative thought patterns like self doubt and poor self worth. And our guest today is a delightful woman who I've met a while ago. Her name is Leah Kraft Christain, and for more than 20 years, she has coached entrepreneurs, authors, and professionals in product presentation and promotional skills. And she's built four successful businesses and two nonprofits, practiced law, written 19 books, spoken in nearly 500 cities on four continents. She also builds houses. We might get to that if we have a chance, and that's not enough. She's also a former broadcaster on both CNN and PBS television. So without further ado, I am going to bring her on and officially welcome you, Leah, to live. Love, engage. It's great to be here. Thank you so much for inviting me. Well, I am really just amazed by all the things you're doing, and it makes you wonder. Our topic is self sabotage. Have you ever done that yourself? Because it doesn't seem like it, because you've been able to do so many different things. So maybe tell us a little bit about, I guess, if you have done that as well. But maybe just what causes people in general to kind of engage in that? Well, I think most people actually don't know what kind of conversation they're having in their own heads, I think that's a starting point for everyone. And the trouble is, we can live with ourselves alone and not have to deal with it at all. If we aren't interacting with people very much, or if we're not in a relationship, or if we're not running a business or writing a book or creating anything at all, we don't have to face the garbage going on in our own heads. But here's the truth. Every time you start moving towards something that you are attracted to, that makes you feel a sense of joy, excitement, even the sense of love. Love is what we should feel when we're feeling passionate about our businesses and about what we do. And as you're falling in love. But what I know for myself and for all the clients I have worked with who have discovered this for themselves also is when you love something, when you want the push to the good, there is an amazing thing that happens to all of us. If you think of yourself as a clear glass with ice cubes down at the bottom, ice cubes of unresolved garbage issues, when you are in love with your business, your partner, your whatever, it's like pouring clear water into that glass and what's going to happen? The ice cubes rise to the top. And that means then you have to deal with it now. And if you then, because you're thinking all these thoughts you hadn't thought about for a long time, because you pushed into the back of your mind, now you're thinking things like, I don't know if I'm going to be successful. I don't know if people will welcome what I have. I don't know if they're going to like me. I don't know if I'm going to find my tribe. I don't know if this is going to work. I don't know how I'm going to live to next month. All of the garbage of lack of abundance and lack of welcoming and lack of self welcoming comes to the fore. And I'm sorry, but that is how it works, because why the universe is giving you a double chance to deal with it now, so you can get out of your own way. And if you can deal with it, if you've got the strength to deal with it and look at it and say, now look. So that happened to me in second grade. That does not mean it's going to repeat itself now. But I have had so much experience with it, and that is why I teach what I teach. I start with the foundations of happiness, of working on your inner relationship with yourself, which, of course, is what you talk about, about loving yourself, about getting that feeling going, of the love energy. There's so many reasons why women in particular have a problem with this. We know that. For me, my family history, I was told by one of my sisters that all of us have a problem with manic depression. You might as well get on lithium, because none of us can stay feeling good for any period of time. And I said, if that's true about our body chemistry, and I'm not going to test myself and I'm not going to find out because I don't want to have a label for it, I am going to find ways to work on myself. And if I have to work on myself four times harder than anybody else just to get to a modicum of a feeling of happiness. That's what I'm going to do, because I have to learn how to live well. That was a little earlier on in my life when I started having these nose dives when I was 13 years old and then having that persist and for no reason that you could really see. But it was the self talk. It was a lot of the issues that we all have. But when I got into law school, I had an experience that I thought, well, this is where I want to be. I love this. I'm excited about it. I want to do women's law. I want to do international law. I want to do these wonderful things to help humanity. And I had the good fortune of being put on what's called law review, which means I wrote for a legal publication within law school. That is a high honor to receive. Yet when I graduated from one of the top law schools in our country and went out to find a job in Atlanta, Georgia, now, I am from near Canada, so I did not get the mentality of the old boy system. And it was strong and alive when I got out of law school. But I really was clueless. I really was naive in the max. So when I was offered $7.50 an hour to be a practicing attorney, I took it, thinking, I will learn. I will grow. I will start here. Fine, I'll do that. It took me nine months to quit after going in and asking for raises multiple times, after setting up the law firm with their own securities and exchange department for every state in the US so that we could submit our private placements for huge real estate offerings. After doing all of that and still getting no recognition and no raise, finally I left. Now,...