Since When Does Disagreeing with My Husband Make Me a Contentious Wife?

Eric and Jolene Engle discuss a listener question about being called “contentious” when disagreeing and when not submitting becomes quarrelsome. They define “contentious” as arguing or provoking strife, warn husbands against using Bible verses to shame or spiritually manipulate their wives, and emphasize servant leadership that listens rather than rules. They explore why a wife may feel unheard, how emotions can escalate conflict, and how fear, pride, or lack of knowledge can drive quarrels. They encourage both spouses to self-examine, communicate outside heated moments with humility, and ask honest questions that build trust.