The Marriage Mentor Podcast

Eric and Jolene Engle discuss a listener question about being called “contentious” when disagreeing and when not submitting becomes quarrelsome. They define “contentious” as arguing or provoking strife, warn husbands against using Bible verses to shame or spiritually manipulate their wives, and emphasize servant leadership that listens rather than rules. They explore why a wife may feel unheard, how emotions can escalate conflict, and how fear, pride, or lack of knowledge can drive quarrels. They encourage both spouses to self-examine, communicate outside heated moments with humility, and ask honest questions that build trust.

A wife's question opens this episode: is it wrong to grieve the marriage she thought she'd have, even while loving and staying committed to the husband she actually has? Jolene and Eric explore the difference between grief that moves toward healing and grief that calcifies into resentment, and offer a path toward grieving honestly without getting stuck.

How to Build a Closer Marriage: 8 Intentional Practices (Marriage Mentor Podcast) Eric and Jolene define what a close marriage looks like from a man’s and a woman’s perspective, emphasizing that closeness is built over time through intentional maintenance rather than “found” by luck. They discuss a husband’s desire to feel valued and supported and a wife’s need to feel seen, heard, and loved, including the importance of listening without dismissing emotions

"My question is, in simple form: how do I respect my husband? But in more words. Practically, it seems I don't even know when I am disrespecting my husband. I've seen that it's mostly at times when I want my way, but these times also seem to be when I believe my husband is in the wrong or in error. So what does respect look like practically in the moment when I don't even realize I'm being disrespectful? I seem to be accused of being disrespectful and then surprised by the accusation, or I have some defense that what was being said or suggested or done by my husband was wrong. In other words, justified."

Eric and Jolene Engle announce the relaunch of The Marriage Mentor after a six-year break, explaining why they stepped away and why they're returning. Jolene will continue mentoring women with biblical guidance while Eric adds a husband’s perspective to address modern strains on marriages. The show will answer listener questions, offer practical mentoring and invite couples to reconnect and grow their marriages according to God’s Word.

Where have the Engle's been?   Find me at my new podcast, Chasing Wisdom.   Instagram: @officialchasingwisdom @joleneengle