Single Fellas in the Lifestyle: Are Single Men Really Ruining the Swinging Scene?

Adam is coming in a little rough this week — fresh off a round of strep throat — but you know us, we don't miss a show. And this one? This one was worth every scratchy word. We're talking about something that gets thrown around a lot in the lifestyle: the idea that single men are a problem. That they're ruining it for everyone. That every couple should avoid them like a shady DM at 2 AM. But first, Adam has something to get off his chest. If you've ever reached out to a married man and spent the entire conversation raving about how gorgeous his wife is... we need to have a little talk. Because from where Adam's standing, that's not flattery — that's a one-way ticket to getting ignored by both of them. He breaks down why, and Pris has thoughts. Then we get into the real conversation: single guys in the lifestyle and where that negative reputation actually comes from. Adam and Pris get honest about the preconceived notions they walked into the lifestyle with, the real experiences that shaped them, and — maybe surprisingly — the realization that married men can actually cause more drama than single ones. In this episode we cover: Why messaging a married man to gush about his wife is not the move The negative stigma single men carry — and how it got built The early experiences that made Adam and Pris assume all single guys were shady Why Pris considers the word "bull" an instant red flag Real red flags and green flags when it comes to vetting a single guy Why married men in the lifestyle can be sneakier than single ones What it actually costs — financially and emotionally — to be a single man trying to get into clubs and events The double standard between how single men and single women are labeled What "you're the toy, not the star" really means — and why it's not an insult Thirsty behavior, constant validation-seeking, and why desperation is a repellent How walking away from situations you don't want actually attracts better ones The takeaway? It's never really been about single versus married. It's about respectful versus disrespectful. And if you're a single guy who leads with respect, patience, and consent — Adam is officially in your corner. Find everything Beyond Monogamy at www.beyond-monogamy.com — including episodes, blog posts, merch, our anonymous Confessional, and the events tab where you can find details on upcoming Beyond Monogamy events. Including the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover on April 11th — a few rooms still available, but day passes are gone! We also stream live every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com. Come hang with us live. Enjoying the show? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it costs you nothing and it genuinely helps us grow. Like, subscribe, share, and tell a friend who needs to hear this one.