Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Episode Summary Adam and Pris sit down with Natasha Helfer, AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, and founder of Symmetry Counseling, for one of the most powerful conversations in Beyond Monogamy history. Natasha spent three decades helping people untangle religious trauma, sexual shame, and purity culture — and then made national headlines when she was excommunicated from the LDS Church for speaking openly about sex, faith, and mental health. In this episode, we dig into why so many people leaving high-demand religions explore ethical non-monogamy, how shame rewires our nervous systems, the myth of sex addiction in religious communities, and how to reclaim your erotic identity no matter where you came from. Topics Covered Purity culture and long-term sexual shame Natasha's excommunication from the LDS Church Why people leaving religion pursue ENM The sex addiction myth and its religious roots Navigating faith AND non-monogamy simultaneously Mom guilt, mismatched libido, and the orgasm gap How communication transforms relationships Connect with Natasha Helfer Website: natashahelford.com The Sanctuary – Salt Lake City, UT Fantasy Lifestyle Cruise – February classes Our Sponsors SDC – The world's largest lifestyle social network. Use code 38236 at sdc.com 3Fun – App for couples and singles in the lifestyle. Use code TK11932 FirmTech – Performance rings and sexual wellness tech. Code: BEYOMONO ProDx Health – At-home health testing. Code: BEYOMONO Find Us Website & links: beyond-monogamy.com Live radio: fullswapradio.com — Thursdays at 2PM & 7PM Central Events: Krazy Winter Nights KC – Feb 19–21, 2027 | Code: BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com Beyond Monogamy Live at Club Eden San Antonio

Feeling the pressure? 🍍 So are we. On this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about one of the lifestyle's most overlooked problems — pressure. Whether it's a spouse pushing their partner on someone else, over-serving drinks to loosen inhibitions, or just the unspoken expectation to perform at events, pressure in the swinger lifestyle is more common than anyone wants to admit. Adam confesses he was that guy early on — pushy for experiences. Pris calls him out. Repeatedly. Lovingly. Brutally. They also dig into the pressure of being recognized as podcasters at lifestyle events, the stress of finances and job searching while keeping the lifestyle going, and whether Pris is actually retiring at 50 (spoiler: Adam says absolutely not). In This Episode: Pushiness in the lifestyle — from newbies AND veterans Why asking for your partner instead of letting them speak is a huge red flag Adam's inability to say no (Pris has receipts) The pressure to drink, perform, dress the theme, and be "on" Real talk: financial stress and the lifestyle 🎉 We're Going to Naughty N'awlins! July 8–13 in New Orleans — we'll have an exhibitor booth! Day passes still available. CLICK HERE for tickets! 💚 Sponsored By: 3Fun The #1 app for couples and singles in the lifestyle. Download 3Fun and meet like-minded people near you! CLICK HERE to get started. 🔗 Find Us Everywhere 🌐 www.beyond-monogamy.com — Episodes, blogs, merch & anonymous confessional 📻 FullSwapRadio.com — Every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central Love the show? Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it helps more than you know! 🙌

What does it take to build the world's largest lifestyle event from a house party to a 3,000+ person New Orleans takeover? Adam and Pris sit down with Bob Hannaford, founder and CEO of Naughty Events and the mastermind behind Naughty N'Awlins — the most iconic swinger and kink convention on the planet. Bob pulls back the curtain on 28 years of growth, the Cathedral of Kink dungeon, the Sexual Freedom Parade, consent culture at scale, and what makes Naughty N'Awlins unlike any event in the lifestyle. In this episode: How Naughty N'Awlins grew from a 175-person house party to a sold-out global event The Sexual Freedom Parade — why it makes grown adults cry in the streets Consent at 3,000+ people: required tests, independent advocates, and 20+ pages of policy The Cathedral of Kink, the Dark Room, and the new Afterglow after-hours lounge Tips for anxiety sufferers navigating a massive lifestyle event Why New Orleans is the perfect city for sexual freedom Naughty N'Awlins 2026 — July 8–12 in New Orleans — is SOLD OUT. Get on the waitlist and start planning for 2027 at naughtyevents.com. Beyond Monogamy will have an exhibitor booth at Naughty N'Awlins — come find us! 📍 Beyond Monogamy LIVE at Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th! Details at beyond-monogamy.com 🎉 Krazy Winter Nights Kansas City — February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com 📻 Full Swap Radio — Live lifestyle talk every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central. fullswapradio.com 🔬 Sponsor: ProDx Health — At-home STI and hormone testing. No waiting rooms, no awkward conversations. Use code BEYOMONO for 15% off at ProDxHealth.com. New episodes every week at beyond-monogamy.com.

The guest didn't show up. The mics were already hot. What happened next became one of our most real, unfiltered episodes yet. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris got caught mid-conversation while waiting on a no-show guest — and what started as backstage small talk turned into a deep, raw, hilarious dive into ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, jealousy, compersion, and what it actually looks like to evolve as a couple in the lifestyle. They cover: Why they didn't do polyamory "right" the first time — and what they'd do differently Pris dropping the bomb: she's open to trying poly again The wild list of stipulations Pris has for any future partners (spoiler: it's a lot) Jealousy, compersion, and the difference between rules and boundaries What successful polyamory actually looks like — and why it doesn't have to mean dating someone This one was never supposed to be recorded. That's exactly why you need to hear it. 🌐 Find everything Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com 📻 Catch us on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central: fullswapradio.com 🎉 Upcoming Events: Beyond Monogamy Live @ Club Eden San Antonio – June 20 Naughty N'awlins – July 8–12, New Orleans (come find us at our booth!) Krazy Winter Nights – Kansas City – Feb 19–21, 2027 | Code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com 🔥 This episode is brought to you by FirmTech — the award-winning doctor-designed wearable tech ring built for men who want to level up in and out of the bedroom. Track your sexual health data, heighten sensitivity, and actually know what's going on down there. Use code BEYOMONO at myfirmtech.com to save.

She had rules. She had walls. She had a clipboard full of hard limits. Eighteen months later? Adam pulled the receipts — and Pris had some explaining to do. In this episode, Adam flips the script and puts Pris in the hot seat for a long-overdue evolution check-in. Armed with direct quotes from Episode 1, he revisits every bold declaration Pris made when Beyond Monogamy launched — and finds out just how much has changed after 18 months in the ENM and swinger lifestyle. What we cover: From "I don't need men" to fully bisexual and genuinely open — and the shroom trip that helped get her there The sleepover rule: is it still a hard no? (Spoiler: not exactly) Separate play, jealousy, and how Pris went from anxious to actually okay with it Healing from shame after two marriages that left real damage Sexual confidence: from "I don't get on top" to full exhibitionist energy How an ADHD diagnosis changed everything socially in the lifestyle Where Pris actually stands on polyamory today Raw, honest, funny, and full of real growth. If you're somewhere in your own ethical non-monogamy journey wondering if the hard parts ever get easier — this episode was made for you. 🎙️ Listen & Subscribe: beyond-monogamy.com | Apple Podcasts | Spotify | YouTube | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | Pandora 📻 Catch us LIVE on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central — fullswapradio.com 📅 Upcoming Events: 🔥 Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th | Come hang with Adam & Pris! 🎉 Naughty N'awlins — July 8–12, New Orleans | We have a BOOTH — come find us! Giveaways, photos & good vibes. 💊 Sponsor: ProDx Health Know your status. Protect your people. Grab the Pro-13 Home Collection Kit at prodxhealth.com and use code BEYOMONO at checkout for a discount. 🌐 Not on SDC yet? Join the world's largest lifestyle social network at sdc.com — referral code 38236.

Two confessionals. Two very real situations. One Quickie you'll want to text to your partner immediately. Adam and Pris are back in the booth answering two anonymous submissions from the Beyond Monogamy community. First up: a newbie wife wants to know how to pull off an immersive stranger roleplay in Houston AND how to handle unwanted attention at an upcoming hotel takeover — without killing the vibe or looking like the weird couple in the corner. Then things get deeper: a woman engaged to a 20-year swinger veteran realizes their connection styles may be fundamentally incompatible, and wonders if her partner is actually more poly than either of them signed up for. In This Episode: How to fully commit to a stranger roleplay (separate Ubers, people — commit) Handling unwanted attention at lifestyle events without being rude or a pushover Kitchen table vs. parallel play — what's the real difference? When your swinger needs deep emotional connections with every play partner Adam and Pris get personal about their own five-year poly chapter Why "you're not insecure — you had an agreement" might be the most validating thing we've ever said on this show 📩 Have something on your chest? Drop it in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. No name, no login, no receipts — just you being honest. It might be the next episode. Upcoming Events: 🎉 Beyond Monogamy at Club Eden — San Antonio, TX | June 20th, 9PM Central. Club Eden membership required to attend — get yours at their website now. ❄️ Krazy Winter Nights 2027 — Kansas City, MO | Feb 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO at checkout to save. 📻 Catch us LIVE on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central. This Episode's Sponsor: Brought to you by FirmTech — the world's first smart performance ring that tracks your health data and helps you show up better in the bedroom. Use code BEYOMONO at myfirmtech.com/adamalvarez and save on your order. 🎧 Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris | beyond-monogamy.com Apple Podcasts | YouTube | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | Pandora

This week, Adam and Pris sit down with the hosts of one of the most respected podcasts in the non-monogamy space — Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Sotelo Matlack of Multiamory. Over a decade of real, research-backed content, and they're still going strong. We get into where polyamory and swinging actually overlap (and where they absolutely don't), the truth about unicorn hunters across both communities, jealousy, toxic masculinity, the one penis policy, and why swingers are just more fun at parties. Dedeker even calls us out. It's that kind of episode. In This Episode: How Dedeker, Jase, and Emily became a trio — and how a collapsing quad turned into a decade-long podcast Poly vs. swinging: same umbrella, very different vibes Unicorn hunting: fun fantasy or ethical minefield? The one penis policy and toxic masculinity in the lifestyle Jealousy, compersion, and why everyone has their price What to do when partners are mismatched — one wants sex, one wants connection Find Multiamory: 🌐 multiamory.com 🎙️ Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and everywhere you listen 📸 Instagram: @multiamory_podcast 💬 Community: multiamory.supercast.com 📚 Book: Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships — available on Amazon, Audible, Barnes & Noble, and at your local bookstore Sponsor: Meet couples and singles near you — 3Fun is the #1 app for the lifestyle. Download free: go3fun.co/ad/TK11932 Find Us: 🌐 beyond-monogamy.com 📻 Live on fullswapradio.com — Thursdays at 2PM & 7PM Central Upcoming Events: 🎉 Beyond Monogamy Live @ Club Eden SA — June 20th (membership required) 🎉 Naughty N'awlins — July 8–12, New Orleans. Find our booth! 🎉 Krazy Winter Nights KC — Feb 19–21, 2027. Code: BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle? Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks about navigating mismatched wants in a couple. Spoiler: you've got more in common with them than you think. In This Episode: Why "horny brain" is real and what to do about it How to set up a rescue signal with your partner The power of the debrief — before AND after Why slow is a superpower in the lifestyle Mismatched interests as a couple — normal or dealbreaker? Connect With Us: 🌐 beyond-monogamy.com — Episodes, show notes, voicemail & anonymous confessional 📻 fullswapradio.com — Live every Thursday 2PM & 7PM Central Upcoming Events: 🎉 Beyond Monogamy at Club Eden – San Antonio | June 20 @ 9PM Central | Membership required: members.edenclubs.com 🎰 Naughty N'Awlins | July 8–14 | New Orleans | beyond-monogamy.com for details ❄️ Krazy Winter Nights – Kansas City | Feb 19–21, 2027 | Code: BEYOMONO This Episode's Sponsor: Snoozy Intimacy Gummies — A vegan, all-natural blend of cannabinoids and aphrodisiacs designed to get you in the mood. Fruit-infused, made in the USA, 30-day satisfaction guarantee. Get 15% off at snwbl.io/snoozy/ADAM89158

This week on Beyond Monogamy, Adam and Pris sit down with Myrina and Tristan from The Accidental Swingers — and yes, the name is exactly as real as it sounds. These two didn't plan to become swingers. They didn't plan to start a podcast either. And yet here we are. In this episode, they share the full origin story, how they accidentally stumbled into the lifestyle (hint: Uber rides, a dance floor, and a very confused neighbor couple), and what they've learned about jealousy, emotional connection, and aging in the ENM community. Myrina also serves as the Naughty Headmistress for Naughty Nawlins — one of the largest lifestyle events in the world — and gives us the inside scoop on what to expect for 2026. In This Episode: The wild origin story behind The Accidental Swingers name How a secret audio diary became a podcast with thousands of listeners Real talk on jealousy — what it feels like, how to navigate it Menopause, aging, and keeping the lifestyle alive through life's curveballs Everything you need to know about Naughty Nawlins 2026 Accidental Swingers Discord community for Naughty attendees Follow The Accidental Swingers: 🌐 accidentalswingers.com 🎙️ Listen to the Podcast 📺 YouTube | 🐦 Twitter/X | 📸 Instagram 👍 Facebook | 🎵 TikTok 🎬 IMDB 📅 Naughty Nawlins 2026 | July 8–12 | New Orleans naughtyneworleans2026.com Watch the Naughty Guide to Naughty New Orleans live stream and past guides on The Accidental Swingers YouTube channel! 💬 Join The Accidental Swingers Community on Discord! discord.gg/3ShRz8BRn (If the link has expired, email [email protected] and she will get you a fresh one.) Don't have Discord? No problem — just create a free account and you're in. Once inside, you'll have limited access until you work through the information channels and click the right buttons. Start in the #-welcome channel, then head to #-further-instructions to introduce yourself in the #-2026-meet-the-group channel and unlock all the Naughty Nawlins 2026 channels. 👩 Ladies: Sign up with your own account and profile, then DM Myrina once you're in the group and she will add you to the private Women's Only Chat Group! 🎉 JOIN US LIVE! Beyond Monogamy at Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th! Grab your Club Eden membership at their website and come party with us! 🎶 Krazy Winter Nights | Kansas City | Feb 19–21, 2027 Presented by Full Swap Radio. Use code BEYOMONO for your discount! 💻 Sponsored by SDC.com — The world's largest online community for open-minded adults. Sign up at sdc.com and use code 38236. 📻 Full Swap Radio — Live streams every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central. fullswapradio.com 🌐 Everything Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com Drop your confessions anonymously — we read every single one!

What happens when a perfectly normal lifestyle club night suddenly goes sideways — and someone ends up leaving in an ambulance? That's exactly what happened to Adam & Pris this past weekend, and they're holding absolutely nothing back in this week's Quickie. It started as a fun night at the club — good friends, some friendly competition between cubbies, and seriously enthusiastic playtime. Then things took a wild, unexpected turn. One person in their crew ended the night with EMTs, an ER visit, and a wife asking the most legendary question ever uttered at a lifestyle club: "Did you kill my husband?" Spoiler: Pris did not kill anyone. But it absolutely led to a real, honest conversation about lifestyle safety — hydration, knowing your limits, medical conditions, drug and alcohol use at clubs, and what it actually means to look out for each other in this community. In This Quickie: The full, unfiltered story of the night everything went sideways What actually caused the medical emergency (hint: it was NOT Pris) How Club Eden's staff handled it — and handled it beautifully Real talk on lifestyle safety: hydration, heat, drugs, alcohol & underlying health conditions Adam asking Pris THE most uncomfortable question on the walk to the van Why nurses secretly run the swinging world 🎙️ This episode is brought to you by 3Fun — the app built for couples and singles who want to connect with like-minded people. It's easy, low-pressure, and it actually works. We're not just saying that. 👉 Download 3Fun here → 📍 Come hang with us LIVE! We'll be at Club Eden in San Antonio on June 20th. You'll need a Club Eden membership to get in — don't wait on that. Full details at the Events tab on our website. 🎉 Crazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, MO | February 19–21, 2027. Tickets at fullswapradio.com. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount. 📻 Live every Thursday at fullswapradio.com — 2:00 PM & 7:00 PM Central. Come see us. 🏠 Home base is beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, quickies, blog, video clips, guest lineup, merch, events, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Drop your story. Zero judgment. You just might end up on a Quickie of your own. Loved this episode? Hit follow, leave us a five-star review on Apple or Spotify, and share it with someone who needs a wild story in their life today. They will not be disappointed.

What if somebody finally made the documentary that explains ethical non-monogamy the way it always should have been explained? No sensationalism. No clipboard outsiders. Just real people, real experts, and real community — with humor baked in. This week, Adam & Pris sit down with the three-person creative team behind More Than Monogamy: director Dillon Birdsall of All the Birds LLC, and Urvashi & Kama from Spark Erotic — award-winning erotic filmmakers with 25 films and 11 years in the game. In this episode: How infidelity led Urvashi & Kama into ENM — and why it worked Dillon's origin story: virgin → sex club faster than anyone expected Why they ditched the titillation and went full sex-ed Polyamory vs. polygamy — the confusion that's still hurting the community Jealousy as an early warning system, not just a villain Compersion confessions from all three guests (Pris drops some truth bombs) How Spark Erotic is redefining ethical erotica — from both male and female perspectives Why the kink section got cut (and why that was the right call) The five-year journey — including the mental health walls Dillon had to climb through to finish it 👉 Watch the first 12 minutes FREE and buy the full film for just $10 at morethanmonogamy.com 📍 Everything Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com — every episode, the Confessional, merch, guest bios, and our full events calendar. 📺 Catch us live every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central at fullswapradio.com. 🎉 Meet us IRL — Friday, June 20th at 9 PM: We'll be at Club Eden San Antonio. Club membership required — get yours sorted before you roll up! ❄️ Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, Feb 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for your discount. 🔥 Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by SDC.com — the world's largest online community for open-minded adults. Create your profile, explore, and connect with like-minded humans living their lives just like us. Sign up at sdc.com | Code: 38236

Feeling lost in the lifestyle? You're not alone — and this Quickie is proof. This week, Adam and Pris crack open a confessional from a listener known as Wandering Aimlessly — a woman new to the lifestyle whose husband just changed the entire playbook on her. She came in wanting a bi experience while he watched. Now he wants to play with other women. Cue the jealousy spiral she didn't see coming. In this episode: Why jealousy is NOT the villain — and how to actually navigate it The communication you absolutely must have BEFORE your first experience How to approach women when you're brand new and bi-curious The "kid in a candy store" guy mentality and how the lifestyle humbles men fast Newbie + newbie pairings: Adam and Pris hilariously disagree on this one Predatory couples — what they look like and how to spot them before they spot you Whether you're brand new or a few steps in, this one is for every couple who has ever felt completely lost and too scared to ask the questions they really need answered. You're not wandering aimlessly. You're just getting started. 🌐 Home Base: www.beyond-monogamy.com Drop your 100% anonymous confessional, browse full episodes, quickies, merch, video clips, and our event tab. 📺 Catch Us LIVE: fullswapradio.com Every Thursday at 2:00 PM & 7:00 PM Central alongside a killer lineup of podcasters in the adult space. 🎟️ EVENTS: June 20 — Club Eden | San Antonio, TX Adam & Pris are live and in person. Come find us. Membership required — all details at beyond-monogamy.com. February 19–21, 2027 — Crazy Winter Nights | Kansas City, MO This will sell out. Use code BEYOMONO at fullswapradio.com and grab your tickets early. 💼 SPONSOR: Alvarez & Co. Tax preparation and bookkeeping — yes, run by Adam and Pris. We contain multitudes. Mention you're a listener for a discount. We've seen things. We will not judge. If you're getting anything out of this show, hit follow, subscribe, and drop a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Share this episode with somebody who needs it. Costs you nothing. Means everything to us.

div]:bg-bg-000/50 [&_pre>div]:border-0.5 [&_pre>div]:border-border-400 [&_.ignore-pre-bg>div]:bg-transparent [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.standard-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pl-2 [&_.progressive-markdown_:is(p,blockquote,ul,ol,h1,h2,h3,h4,h5,h6)]:pr-8"> _*]:min-w-0 gap-3 standard-markdown"> Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Andy Kogelnik — MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist — to tackle the thing the lifestyle community talks about but rarely does consistently: STI and hormone testing. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and plain old anxiety, the system has built more barriers than most people can realistically clear. Dr. Andy built ProDx Health to fix that. Dr. Andy's credentials are serious: MD from Emory, PhD in bioengineering from Georgia Tech, fellowship training in infectious diseases at Stanford, and founder of the Open Medicine Institute. He took the same lab infrastructure he built during COVID and turned it into a CLIA-certified, doctor-reviewed, at-home testing service with 24–48 hour turnaround. No appointment. No waiting room. No insurance claim. The episode breaks down how the kits actually work — a fingertip-sized blood collection device and simple swabs that test for up to 13 pathogens at once, including Mycoplasma genitalium (MGEN), an increasingly common STI most doctors don't even test for. Dr. Andy also explains why oral and rectal sites need separate swabs — something virtually no primary care doctor orders — and how to choose the right panel for your risk level. The conversation takes a surprising turn into PASS certification — the gold standard used by the adult film industry. ProDx is the first lab ever to offer PASS-certified home testing, complete with facial verification and molecular profiling to prevent sample substitution. It's a level of rigor most clinics don't come close to matching. Privacy gets a full treatment too: no medical record, discreet plain-white-box packaging, fully anonymous ordering, and built-in group result sharing for event organizers and play partners. Adam and Pris close with a promise: they're doing the test live on a future episode. Consider this part one. Key Takeaways 42% of STIs present with zero symptoms — testing is the only way to know Most primary care doctors run panels too narrow for people with multiple partners MGEN is rising and requires 2+ weeks of antibiotics — and most doctors skip testing for it Oral and rectal sites need separate swabs — genital/urine tests alone will miss infections ProDX uses a tiny shoulder patch device — no clinic, no phlebotomist, no big needle First lab to achieve PASS certification for home-collected samples Fully anonymous — no insurance trail, discreet packaging, group sharing built in About Dr. Andy Kogelnik MD from Emory, PhD in bioengineering from Georgia Tech, fellowship in infectious diseases at Stanford. Founder of the Open Medicine Institute. Built ProDx Health from COVID-era mobile lab infrastructure. ProDx offers 9 STI panels and 11 hormone panels with CLIA certification and 24–48 hour results. This Episode Is Brought to You by SDC.com Over 25 years connecting open-minded adults. Make a profile and go explore — no judgment, just like-minded humans living their best lives. 👉 sdc.com — Use Code: 38236 Links & Resources prodxhealth.com — All kits getpro13.com — The Pro13 Kit sdc.com — Sponsor / Code: 38236 pass-certified.org — PASS Certification info beyond-monogamy.com — Episodes, merch, events & The Confessional fullswapradio.com — Stream live Upcoming Event 📍 June 20th — Beyond Monogamy at Club Eden, San Antonio, TX Get tested first. With a 24–48 hour turnaround, you'll have results well before the party. 😉 The Beyond Monogamy Confessional Anonymous. No filter. Adam & Pris read every single one. 👉 beyond-monogamy.com If this episode helped you, send it to your play partners, drop it in your group chats, post it in your lifestyle groups. This conversation makes the whole community better. ⭐ Subscribe on Spotify | Apple Podcasts | Leave us a 5-star review 

Adam and Pris just got back from a week-long Florida trip — Disney World with the kids by day, and a night at the Florida Tree House lifestyle club that completely blew their minds. This episode covers all of it: the rides, the food, the play, a very forward woman who gave Adam the blueprint he never knew he needed, and a real conversation about feeling unsexy when life is piling up. Show Notes Disney World Recap Yes, World — not Disneyland (Adam got corrected fast). Six miles a day in brutal humidity. Pris goes deep on the layered kettle corn with chocolate drizzle, M&Ms, and cookie crumbles. Adam eats a turkey leg solo during the parade and has zero regrets. Adam also takes a 100mg gummy before entering the park, panics when security dogs appear at the gate, and nearly bails. He recovers. They ride Tron first. Swingers at Disney Full lifestyle groups organized specifically around Disney trips exist and are thriving. Pris was pineapple-spotting all week. They also debate Disney-themed club nights — Pris draws a firm line. Adam is less opposed. Florida Tree House — Full Venue Breakdown Hidden on private acreage 45 minutes from the city. ID check-in, locked gates at 10pm, indoor playrooms stocked with everything you need (you flip your own sheets), a massive screened-in pool deck, fire pits, BDSM stations, hot tub, sunroom playroom with an 8-person shower, two treehouse playrooms with green/red occupancy signs, a swing bed under the tree, and a vintage firetruck gutted and converted into a play space. Also potluck — someone brought fried chicken. The Play They played twice. A man watching said no when invited, then came back later clearly regretting it. Another approached mid-scene asking for a turn — Pris shut it down cleanly. Management was actively watching rooms all night. Pris shares honest thoughts about single men at lifestyle events. "Slutty Behavior" — A Real Conversation A woman at the end of the night was aggressively flirtatious in a way that finally gave Adam the blueprint to explain what he's been trying to tell Pris for years. Pris grabbed the bags in the moment. Afterward — she got it. New chapter unlocked. Not Feeling Sexy Adam is 30 pounds up. Pris is in mommy makeover consultation territory. They get honest about showing up in the lifestyle when life stress, finances, and fatigue are all hitting at once — and why they went out anyway. Coming Up Naughty N'awlins in July. A spicy Wednesday quickie confessional episode dropping soon. 🎟️ BM LIVE — June 20th, Club Eden San Antonio: beyond-monogamy.com 🌴 Florida Tree House: thefloridatreehouse.fun 📻 Full Swap Radio: fullswapradio.com 🌐 Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com 🩺 Sponsored by ProDx Health — Discreet at-home STI testing. Code BEYOMONO for your discount. 👉 Sign up at ProDx Health ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Leave us a review, subscribe, and share the show!

Your profile is your first impression — and Adam & Pris have seen some impressively bad ones. On today's Quickie, they break down exactly what makes a swinger and ENM profile actually attract the right people — and what sends everyone running. In this episode: Why your cover photo being a ceiling fan is costing you connections The face pic debate — privacy vs. actually getting matches What a great bio actually looks like (and what "ask me anything" says about you) Full-body shots, filters, and the danger of catfishing your way into a meetup Why "open to anything" tells people nothing — and specificity is actually sexy The unsolicited explicit opener — just don't Tips for men, tips for couples, and a reminder that there's a lid for every pot --- 🔥 Sponsored by 3Fun If you're building a profile, you need the right app to put it on. 3Fun is built for couples and singles in the lifestyle who want to connect with like-minded people — and it actually works. Easy to use, low pressure, and way less awkward than figuring it all out on your own. 👉 Download 3Fun here --- 📅 Upcoming Event: Adam & Pris will be at Club Eden in San Antonio, TX on June 20th at 9:00 PM. Membership required — visit Club Eden's website to register. Details on the Events tab at beyond-monogamy.com. 📻 Also streaming live on: fullswapradio.com --- 🌐 Find us everywhere: Episodes | Video Clips | Blog | Merch | Guest Bios | Anonymous Confessional 👉 www.beyond-monogamy.com Love the show? Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it helps people find us and means the world to us. We might even send you some merch! 🙌

What starts as a listener confession about prostate massage turns into the most honest, vulnerable, and surprisingly hilarious conversation Adam and Pris have ever had on mic — completely unscripted, completely real. About This Episode A brave listener wrote into the Beyond Monogamy confessional to share what prostate massage actually feels like — and his words were hard to ignore: "earth-shaking," a "full-body orgasm," with increased intensity, duration, and volume of ejaculate. He said he was completely incapacitated afterward. That letter opened a door neither Adam nor Pris expected to walk through on this quickie. Adam admits he has never had prostate play done — and he explains exactly why: a past experience where it happened without his consent left him with a lasting emotional association he has carried for years. Pris, meanwhile, reveals she has actually done it before (to her first husband, no less 👀). Together, they work through the anatomy, the stigma, toxic masculinity, vulnerability, and the very real question of whether this is something they will explore together. Spoiler: Adam Googled "what is a prostate" in real time on mic. You're going to want to hear this one. Topics Covered What the prostate is and what it actually does The P-spot — why it's called the "male G-spot" and how stimulation works Internal vs. external stimulation (the taint is a real starting point) Adam's past experience and why consent is the real issue Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" barrier so many men face Whether prostate play should be a lifestyle boundary or an open one A practical beginner's guide for curious couples Practical Guide: Starting the Conversation Even if you're brand new to this topic, here's where Adam and Pris landed with their practical takeaways: Have the conversation first — no surprises, ever. Both partners need to be on the same page before anything happens. Don't cause trauma where there doesn't need to be any. Start slow and stay external. External pressure on the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus, sometimes called the taint) is a low-commitment entry point. It gives you a sense of whether there's something worth exploring further — without diving all the way in. If going internal: hygiene and preparation matter. Short nails, gloves if preferred, and lube — always lube. Always. Check in throughout. Communication during is just as important as communication before. This should feel like an upgrade to intimacy, not something anyone is white-knuckling through. If it's not working, you stop. Full stop. And if it's incredible? Talk about that too — then hit up the Beyond Monogamy confessional and let us know how it went. 🎉 This Episode Is Brought To You By FIRM TECH Speaking of exploring new things — our friends at FIRM TECH make it easy to take that first curious step. Whether you're brand new to intimacy products or looking to level up, they've got everything you need. Use code BEYOMONO at checkout and get 15% off your entire order! 🔗 Shop here: FirmTech - SHOP HERE! 🏷️ Code: BEYOMONO 💸 Saves you: 15% off Send Us Your Confessional This episode literally started because one listener had the guts to write in. If something in this episode hit home, or if you have your own story to share, drop it in our 100% anonymous confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com. Zero judgment. You just might end up on a future quickie of your own. Find Everything Beyond Monogamy 🌐 Website, full episodes, quickies, merch, blog, guest lineup & confessional: www.beyond-monogamy.com 📻 Live Streaming: Every Thursday on fullswapradio.com — 2:00 PM & 7:00 PM Central 🎟️ Live Event: Adam & Pris LIVE at Club Eden in San Antonio — June 20th. Membership required. Details at beyond-monogamy.com under the Events tab. If this episode made you think, laugh, or squirm just a little — that means it worked. Hit follow, leave us a five-star review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Those 30 seconds cost you nothing and mean everything to us. We'll see you next week. 💜

Stop what you're doing. Seriously. Pull over if you have to, because this episode features one of the most iconic voices in the history of sex education, adult entertainment, and the non-monogamy movement — and she showed up ready to talk about everything. Adam and Pris sit down with the legendary Nina Hartley — adult film performer, sex educator, activist, and someone who has been living intentional non-monogamy since before half of you were born. We're talking decades of swinging, triads, and fearless advocacy for pleasure, consent, and honest human connection. This one goes deep. Like, deep deep. In This Episode, We Cover: How Nina knew she was non-monogamous before she even knew what sex was — and what middle school dreams about "a room full of naked people" have to do with it Her first triad at 22 — and why it ended (spoiler: it wasn't the three-person structure, it was the two people she picked) Being the youngest swinger in every room by 15 years — in the 1980s Why pleasure is a birthright — and how Zen Buddhism and mindfulness connect directly to your sex life The truth about forgiveness nobody wants to hear (you don't have to, and Adam's mind was genuinely blown) Nina's breakdown of why porn is "a weird amalgamation of Monster Truck rallies and bad dinner theater" — and why it's ruining how young people approach the lifestyle The manosphere, toxic masculinity, and why men need to start calling out other men Practical gang bang planning: timelines, the audition process, the five-guy framework, and the genius concept of the gang bang doula Performance anxiety in the lifestyle — what Ro actually does (and doesn't) do, and why some guys just should not go to swing parties Does size matter? Nina breaks it down by the percentages Narcissistic abuse — and why it took Nina 18 years to leave "Man-keeping" — the concept that explains a whole lot about modern dating Nina Hartley is sharp, funny, brutally honest, and genuinely one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had in our chairs. This is one of those episodes you'll probably listen to twice. 👉 Find every episode, video clips, blog posts, our events calendar, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com 📍 San Antonio listeners: We'll be at Club Eden on June 20th at 9PM. Come hang with us in person. Details at the link above. If this episode hit, do us a solid — subscribe, leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share this with somebody who needs to hear it. It helps more than you know.

QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It) Pris went full chaos agent at a lifestyle club — and she owns every second of it. In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down a real moment that happened to them recently: Pris spotted a hot couple, approached the woman, confirmed she was bisexual, and somehow ended up in a play room within about 60 seconds — all before anyone had a real conversation about it. The good news? She caught herself, pumped the brakes, apologized on the spot, and followed up the next day. What came out of that moment is a genuinely important conversation about the difference between enthusiasm and enthusiastic consent, how to exit a situation you're not feeling, the pressure people face when they don't know how to say no, and what real accountability looks like in the lifestyle. TOPICS COVERED [00:01:00] — How it started: complimenting the couple from across the room [00:02:00] — The approach: Pris confirms the woman is bi, grabs her hand, and... goes [00:03:00] — The cubby: everyone's in, nobody knows what's happening [00:03:45] — Pris reads the room and pumps the brakes [00:05:00] — The apology, in real time and the next morning [00:07:00] — What Pris did right (the initial approach was actually solid) [00:08:30] — Enthusiastic consent vs. enthusiasm — they are not the same [00:11:00] — The bathroom exit: a smooth and underrated escape tactic [00:14:00] — Building a pre-approach ritual with your partner [00:16:00] — Creative ways to exit a situation when saying "no" feels hard [00:17:00] — When men assume something is owed to them (and why that's a problem) [00:20:00] — The guy who gave Adam a high five mid-sex and the friend who just... chatted [00:23:00] — What defines you in the lifestyle: how you handle your mistakes KEY TAKEAWAYS - Enthusiasm is not consent. Always get the enthusiastic yes before things move forward. - The bathroom exit is a completely valid escape — and kudos to anyone who uses it gracefully. - Real accountability is rare in this community. Owning your mistake, apologizing, and following up is not just the right move — it's actually kind of hot. - Build a pre-approach ritual with your partner so spontaneity doesn't turn into a consent gap. - Saying no is hard for a lot of people. Don't ever put someone in a position where they feel like they can't. EVENTS & COMMUNITY Live show every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com Live Beyond Monogamy Event — June 20th at Club Eden, San Antonio. 9 PM start. Membership required. Details at beyond-monogamy.com/events CONNECT & MORE Everything lives at beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blogs, events, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And please leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it takes 30 seconds and helps more people find us.

Today we are going there. Full send. Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of people reclaim their identity, their sexuality, and their sanity after a herpes diagnosis. This episode is not just for people who are HSV positive. It is for anyone who has ever had sex, is having sex, or is planning to have more of it. Which, if you're in the lifestyle, is all of you. In This Episode: Courtney's origin story — how a Saturday morning at his grandmother's house led to founding a 501(c)3 nonprofit that has saved lives Why 36% of people report suicidal ideation after a herpes diagnosis — and why Courtney decided that was unacceptable The truth about HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 — and why your middle school health class completely failed you Cold sores. Yeah. Those. We're going there. The lifestyle's unspoken assumption that "nobody here has anything" — and why that assumption is the actual problem How to have the disclosure conversation — Courtney literally walks us through his real-life script, word for word Why communicative sex is the safest sex — and what that actually looks like before clothes come off The 360-degree analogy that reframes everything you think you know about what a diagnosis means for your identity How yoga therapy became a cornerstone of Courtney's healing framework — and why nervous system regulation matters more than you think Plus: Pris gets completely honest about her own ignorance around HSV, Adam gets real about the "turn off the anxiety brain mid-play" problem, and both of them leave the conversation humbled, educated, and genuinely better equipped to have these conversations in the community. Find everything Courtney is building at spfpp.org — support groups (Mondays, separate men's and women's), one-on-one peer support, yoga therapy, ongoing surveys, resources, and more. Go find your people. They are there. And as always, everything from Beyond Monogamy — every episode, video clip, blog post, events tab, and our 100% anonymous confessional — lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode hit different, you already know what to do. Like it. Share it. Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Word of mouth is how we grow this community.

We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic? In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel takeover as their very first lifestyle event. She's got concerns. He's got excitement. And together? They've already got more going for them than they know. We're covering the real talk around what it's like to jump into the deep end, why consent culture in the lifestyle actually makes it safer than you think, how to start receiving compliments without flinching, and the one thing every couple should do before they even walk through the door. In This Episode: Why this guy's approach to bringing up the lifestyle deserves a standing ovation What it actually feels like at a hotel takeover as a new couple — Adam's truth vs. Pris's truth Meet-and-greet events: why starting here changes everything The pressure to "perform" at big events — and why it's all in your head (mostly) How to learn to take a compliment without wanting to run Pre-event conversations every couple should have before the night begins Why the lifestyle is woman-centric and how husbands can stop pouting about it Pris's tunnel vision trick for feeling confident in any room Safe words, scenarios, and baby steps that actually work Whether you're two weeks from your first event or two years in and still figuring it out — this one's for you. Everything we've got lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com — every episode, every video clip, our blog, events tab, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Got a story to get off your chest? Drop it there. We read every single one. If this episode hit home, share it with a couple who needs it. You might literally change the direction of their relationship. Love the show? Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it takes 30 seconds and genuinely helps more people find us. Hang out with us live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com — two shows, 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Live Event Alert: June 20th — Club Eden, San Antonio, 9:00 PM. Come meet us. All details on our events tab at beyond-monogamy.com.

This one's a little different, y'all. We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it. The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a weekend full of gorgeous, consenting, very enthusiastic humans. Important topics. Stuff we genuinely wanted to dig into. And then our audience showed up. What followed was 45 minutes of the most gloriously unhinged live conversation we've had on mic — themed room judging, murky pool horror stories, open-door vs. closed-door policies, Pris casually announcing her gang bang goals to a room full of people, Adam admitting he cannot say no when a woman corners him, and an entire tangent about Martha Stewart that nobody asked for but everyone enjoyed. Fair warning: because this was a live recording and we were feeding off the crowd's energy, we went all over the place. That's what makes it real — it's exactly what a hotel takeover feels like in the moment. But it also means we didn't get to go as deep as we wanted on the actual etiquette content. We're going to revisit this topic in a proper dedicated episode where we can actually slow down and give you the breakdown you deserve. Think of this one as the chaotic, hilarious, only-slightly-informative preview. The main event is coming. In this episode: What actually happens at a hotel takeover (spoiler: it's not "housekeeping, can I come in?") Themed rooms, scavenger hunts, and the Fiesta room Pris is still talking about Open door vs. closed door — and what it means when every door is shut and silent at 1 AM Pool etiquette we shouldn't have to explain… and yet The pre-event conversation every couple needs before pulling into that parking lot Fantasy vs. reality of showing up thinking you're going to absolutely wreck the whole weekend The murky pool story from their very first takeover (you've been warned) Pris's birthday orgy, her gang bang bucket list, and an extended Hitachi Magic Wand tribute Why Adam talked big the entire drive there and then immediately said "don't leave me" upon arrival This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Shoutout to everyone who was in that room. Y'all made the show. New full episodes every Sunday. QUICKIEs every Wednesday. We're live on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central. Everything we do — every episode, every clip, every blog, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional — lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode made you laugh, cringe, or immediately start Googling hotel takeovers near you — do us a solid and leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. It takes two minutes and it genuinely means the world to us.

This past weekend, Adam and Pris were at a hotel takeover. Not just attending — they were there working, recording a live podcast episode in front of a room full of lifestyle people who were very much already in party mode. That full live show drops this Sunday, and trust us, you're going to want to hear it. But here's the thing about recording a live show at a hotel takeover full of beautiful, festive, very distracted humans: you don't exactly get to deliver a thoughtful breakdown of what hotel takeovers are and how to navigate them. You get energy, chaos, laughter, and moments that make for great radio — but the actual nuts-and-bolts guide? That's what this QUICKIE is for. Consider this your homework before Sunday. The real talk primer. The survival guide nobody hands you at the door. In this episode of the Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down everything you need to know about lifestyle hotel takeovers — fresh off of attending one themselves just this past weekend. From what they actually are, to what you should pack, to how to handle jealousy when your husband is making out with someone across the pool while you're just standing there. (Asking for a friend. The friend is Pris.) What We Cover in This Episode: What a hotel takeover actually is — and no, it's not as intimidating as it sounds. Think of it as the world's best adult sleepover. Who goes — couples, single women, and the very specific situation with single men (we keep it real on this one). What to bring — protection, lube, toys, a cooler full of snacks, your waterproof blankets, and maybe a hoodie because someone's wife is always cold. The money talk — expect $500–$800 for a full weekend, and plan for zero food on premises. DoorDash is your co-pilot. Consent, discretion, and closed doors — just because it's a takeover doesn't mean everyone is available to you. Rules still apply. Communication before, during, and after — including the debate over whether or not you need a code word (and why "figgy tree" is apparently not the answer). How to handle jealousy in the moment — spoiler: Pris has opinions, a snarky comment ready, and absolutely zero shame about it. The debrief — one of the most underrated relationship tools in the lifestyle, and why that car ride home matters more than you think. How to find hotel takeovers — SDC, local Facebook groups, Telegram, Discord, and yes, even TikTok. Listen to this one today, then tune in this Sunday for the live show recorded right there at the takeover. Two episodes. One unforgettable weekend. You're going to want both. Links & Resources Mentioned: 🌐 Everything Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com 📅 Events tab, merch, and our anonymous confessional are all there 🎙️ Live show recordings every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com 📍 Live Event: Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th at 9PM 🔗 Find your community on SDC — link at the bottom of beyond-monogamy.com Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and screenshot it. Send it to us at [email protected] or through our website — you just might get a little something from us. 🎁 Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris is an independent podcast. Every share, subscribe, and review keeps this conversation going. Thank you for being part of it.

What if your penis could tell you whether you're about to have a heart attack? Sounds wild, right? That's exactly the kind of conversation we had this week, and it did not disappoint. Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, entrepreneur, and founder of Firm Tech — one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had on the show. Dr. Justin is on a mission to bring real, data-driven sexual health tools to men and women, and the technology he's building is genuinely mind-blowing. We're talking about a wearable cock ring — yes, you read that right — that tracks nocturnal erections, measures firmness during sex, and generates health data that could literally save your life. And that's just the beginning. In This Episode, We Cover: How Dr. Justin went from having an electrode implanted near his own pubic nerve (yes, on himself) to building the world's largest erection database Why nocturnal erections are one of the most powerful leading indicators of cardiovascular health — and why your doctor has never told you that The shocking truth about erectile dysfunction: most men who think they have ED... don't. They just lose it. There's a difference, and it matters enormously How a cock ring works better than Viagra for most men — and why putting more blood in isn't the same as keeping blood in The Firm Tech ring: what it does, how it works, why Dr. Justin's wife inspired its design (yes, really — bra hooks and a stress ball), and why it's been used over a million times during sex The Ring Mate — a vibrator attachment designed for women during penetrative sex, invented by Dr. Justin's wife Female sexual dysfunction: 54% of women over 50 report sexual health issues, and why clitoral engorgement data could be a game-changer Why SSRIs are "dick and clit killers" — and why Dr. Justin is openly hostile to that class of medication Why every single supplement they've tested (12 of them) has failed to improve erectile function in controlled data Performance anxiety, the death grip debate, porn addiction myths, and why men in the lifestyle need to open their minds about cock rings Pris reveals she's in early menopause, they talk testosterone for women, and Dr. Justin has thoughts About Dr. Elliot Justin Dr. Elliot Justin is a physician, researcher, and the founder and CEO of Firm Tech, a sexual health technology company. He has published multiple peer-reviewed papers on erectile health, nocturnal erections, and sexual wellness wearables. His device has tracked over 220,000 erections on nearly 4,000 men — making it the largest erectile health database in the world. He lives in Montana, rides horses with questionable skill (by his own admission), and is genuinely one of a kind. Find Dr. Justin and the Firm Tech ring at myfirmtech.com or email him directly at [email protected]. Exclusive Listener Discount — Firm Tech Disclosure: Beyond Monogamy is an affiliate partner of Firm Tech. If you purchase through our code, we earn a commission at no extra cost to you — and we only partner with products we actually believe in. Use code BEYOMONO at checkout for 15% off any Firm Tech order at myfirmtech.com. Find Everything Beyond Monogamy Every episode, video clip, guest bio, blog post, merch, events calendar, and our anonymous confessional (submit your secrets — no one will ever know it's you) all live at www.beyond-monogamy.com. We stream live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Come hang out with us. If this episode hit different, do us a solid: subscribe, leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share this with someone who needs to hear it. It seriously helps more people find us, and more people finding us means more conversations exactly like this one.

Everyone loves talking about the fun parts of the lifestyle — the dates, the connections, the experiences. But what about everything that has to happen BEFORE any of that? The messaging. The vetting. The scheduling. The follow-up. All of it takes time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. And in most couples? It doesn't fall equally. On today's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about how they divide the emotional labor of connecting with other couples — who does the messaging, who handles vetting (and why Pris's gut is basically a superpower), what it looks like to stay in the loop without losing your mind, and why making it intentional beats letting resentment sneak in through the back door. In this episode: Why Adam carries most of the online conversation weight Pris's vetting process — and the story behind her eerily accurate intuition Online chemistry vs. in-person chemistry and how they experience it differently The DADT tendency that sneaks into their setup (and how they're working on it) What "staying in the loop" actually looks like in practice Why you need to talk about this stuff before resentment makes the decision for you Whether you divide things the same way or totally differently, the point is: make it intentional. Don't just let it default. Find everything — episodes, blogs, merch, events, and the anonymous confessional — at www.beyond-monogamy.com Catch us live every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com Love the show? Please leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it genuinely helps more people find us. We're not above begging.

About This Episode Y'all, this one is different. Adam and Pris sit down with the one and only Susan Bratton — intimacy expert to millions, bestselling author, founder of Personal Life Media, sexual biohacker, and Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDX Health. She's been in the lifestyle for over two decades, she's married to her husband Tim of 34 years, she has a boyfriend of five years, and she can tell you from personal experience exactly what expanded orgasm feels like. She's not talking about case studies. She's living it. This conversation goes deep — from how Susan went from a woman who avoided sex with her husband to becoming the person millions of people turn to for real, actionable, heart-connected intimacy advice. She drops her non-negotiable 90-day STI testing protocol, breaks down what "fluid bonded" and "screened in" actually mean, explains the science of extended orgasms, and makes a strong case for why your sex life should only get better with age. In This Episode How Susan went from sexually avoidant to becoming the world's go-to hot sex teacher Why she and Tim dropped the labels and started calling their relationship simply "open" The 90-day STI screening protocol that's been a non-negotiable in her poly life for 20 years What "fluid bonded" and "screened in" mean and why every lifestyle couple should have a protocol Expanded orgasm — the clitoral stroking practice that can extend your partner's climax into something wild Sexual biohacking: nitric oxide, hormone therapy, acoustic wave, red light, stem cells, and the concept of extending your "sex span" Veto power in poly — is it toxic or just solid relationship management? NRE (New Relationship Energy) and why your partner might be seeing red flags you're completely blind to Susan's new book "The Alchemy of Intimacy" and where to get her free resources Resources Susan Mentioned Free expanded orgasm resources: expandherorgasmtonight.com STI testing Susan recommends: prodxhealth.com Susan's new book: 10intimacy.com Susan Bratton's main site: susanbratton.com Find Everything Beyond Monogamy Episodes, blogs, events, merch, guest bios, and our anonymous confessional all live at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode hit different, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you haven't left us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts yet — now is the time. It takes 30 seconds and it genuinely means the world to us.

Someone slid into our inbox with a real one — they met a couple and their play partner, vibed with all three, and then realized they were really feeling the third. So what do you do? Is that person automatically off limits? Do you risk the friendship? Do you say nothing and just wonder forever? Adam and Pris break it all down in this week's QUICKIE — starting with the one thing that fixes almost every awkward lifestyle situation: just saying the thing out loud. In This Episode: Nobody owns anyone — but you still don't know their agreements How to find out someone's dynamic without making it weird The "swooping couple" phenomenon — and why it's a red flag Who in the couple should start the conversation (hint: it's whoever's bubblier) Word vomit as a legitimate lifestyle strategy Pris opens up about menopause, her estrogen patch, and why she's been glowing lately Poly-era triggers, emotional cheating TikToks, and how one honest conversation changed everything 15 years in and they're still learning to communicate — and that's the whole point If you've ever found yourself in a situation like this — or you just want more real, judgment-free conversations about the lifestyle — head over to www.beyond-monogamy.com. That's your one-stop shop for episodes, blogs, events, merch, and the anonymous confessional. Got a question or a situation you want us to tackle? Drop it in the anonymous confessional. We read them. We use them. Zero judgment. We are live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com — two shows, 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Come hang out and get in the chat. If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it genuinely helps more people find the show. Subscribe so you never miss a QUICKIE or a full episode dropping every Sunday.

Adam is coming in a little rough this week — fresh off a round of strep throat — but you know us, we don't miss a show. And this one? This one was worth every scratchy word. We're talking about something that gets thrown around a lot in the lifestyle: the idea that single men are a problem. That they're ruining it for everyone. That every couple should avoid them like a shady DM at 2 AM. But first, Adam has something to get off his chest. If you've ever reached out to a married man and spent the entire conversation raving about how gorgeous his wife is... we need to have a little talk. Because from where Adam's standing, that's not flattery — that's a one-way ticket to getting ignored by both of them. He breaks down why, and Pris has thoughts. Then we get into the real conversation: single guys in the lifestyle and where that negative reputation actually comes from. Adam and Pris get honest about the preconceived notions they walked into the lifestyle with, the real experiences that shaped them, and — maybe surprisingly — the realization that married men can actually cause more drama than single ones. In this episode we cover: Why messaging a married man to gush about his wife is not the move The negative stigma single men carry — and how it got built The early experiences that made Adam and Pris assume all single guys were shady Why Pris considers the word "bull" an instant red flag Real red flags and green flags when it comes to vetting a single guy Why married men in the lifestyle can be sneakier than single ones What it actually costs — financially and emotionally — to be a single man trying to get into clubs and events The double standard between how single men and single women are labeled What "you're the toy, not the star" really means — and why it's not an insult Thirsty behavior, constant validation-seeking, and why desperation is a repellent How walking away from situations you don't want actually attracts better ones The takeaway? It's never really been about single versus married. It's about respectful versus disrespectful. And if you're a single guy who leads with respect, patience, and consent — Adam is officially in your corner. Find everything Beyond Monogamy at www.beyond-monogamy.com — including episodes, blog posts, merch, our anonymous Confessional, and the events tab where you can find details on upcoming Beyond Monogamy events. Including the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover on April 11th — a few rooms still available, but day passes are gone! We also stream live every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com. Come hang with us live. Enjoying the show? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it costs you nothing and it genuinely helps us grow. Like, subscribe, share, and tell a friend who needs to hear this one.

You already know Adam and Pris don't do small talk — so when the topic of red flags and green flags in the swinging lifestyle came up on their SDC live webinar, they knew they weren't done talking about it. So they brought it straight to Wednesday's QUICKIE. And oh boy, did it get real. This week, Adam and Pris break down the biggest red flags they personally watch for when meeting potential play partners — and the green flags that make them say, okay, we might actually like you. What You'll Hear in This Episode: Pris's Red Flags for Men: Turn the conversation sexual too fast? You're out. It doesn't matter that you're both in the lifestyle — read the room. If you haven't earned the vibe yet, keep it in your pants (literally). Pris's Red Flags for Women: If you're in a group chat with both of them and you start sliding into Adam's DMs and leaving Pris on read? She sees you. And she is not interested. Respecting both partners isn't optional — it's the price of admission. Adam's Biggest Red Flag: Pushiness. That frantic "WE NEED TO MEET ASAP" energy from the jump? Hard pass. Adam used to be that guy (Pris was NOT about to let him forget it), but 14 years in the lifestyle later, he's all about connections over conquests — and zero patience for people trying to sprint to the finish line. Also a red flag: Messaging a husband and asking to see naked pictures of his wife. Adam addresses this one with the kind of calm, measured, diplomatic response you'd expect from him... just kidding. He tells those people exactly where to go. The Guilt Trip Red Flag: "You didn't message me yesterday." Oh no. Adam's phone goes to Do Not Disturb at 8:30 PM every night — and if you're sending guilt trips about response times to a happily married man with a full life, you're going to hear about it. Loudly. Green Flags They Love: Great communication between couples. Asking permission before reaching out to a partner. Being transparent about your intentions. And self-awareness — knowing your own stuff and actively working on it? That's genuinely attractive to these two. They also get into jealousy, entitlement, pressure dynamics between couples, what it looks like when one partner is dragging the other into the lifestyle, and the very important art of taking a "no" gracefully — something Adam admits he had to grow into. Pris crowns herself "La Toxica" early on and fully leans into it. She's self-aware about her jealousy, territorial streak, and high standards — and honestly? It's one of the most relatable things she's ever said on this show. As always, this one's real, funny, unfiltered, and full of the kind of straight talk that only comes from two people who've been doing this together for 14 years. Find everything Beyond Monogamy at www.beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blog posts, merch, the events tab, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional. Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts if you love the show. It genuinely helps us grow.

It was Priscilla's 48th birthday weekend, and this woman did NOT come to play… well, actually, she absolutely came to play. And kiss strangers. And organize an impromptu gang bang over sushi. You know, normal birthday stuff. In this episode, Adam and Pris give you the full, unfiltered recap of what went down over one wild weekend in San Antonio — from cozy pizza nights at Via 313 to morning coffee at Arthur's in King William, birthday brunch at Alamo Biscuit Company, and a night at Club Eden that nobody who was there is going to forget anytime soon. Here's a taste of what you're getting into: Friends flew in from Florida, Arizona, Houston, Dallas, and Corpus — and every single one of them said Club Eden was the best swinger club they'd ever been to. Pris casually announced at the sushi dinner table that she wanted a gang bang for her birthday. Like a normal person. Adam confesses his social anxiety was absolutely roaring the whole drive down — and how it took a full hour to shake it off once they got to the club. The legendary loot bags Pris handcrafted with lube, condoms, Tums, Advil, Wisps, mini makeup blenders, and custom Cricut labels reading "Slut Stuff" and "Hot Girl Glam Bag." Custom Mylar balloons printed with the Beyond Monogamy logo. Because of course. 200 jello shots, multiple flavors, courtesy of their friends David and Mary. You read that right. Two. Hundred. Their friend Ray showed up with a wand and proceeded to make Pris squirt in front of a crowd within minutes. Pris requested her birthday wish out loud and got it. Full details inside. Adam got slapped in the face mid-session by a friend who's heard the "don't touch without permission" episode one too many times. The birthday lap dance situation — including Adam admitting he is not great at it. Door Dash Whataburger at 2am. A Whataburger Junior with bacon and cheese. Pris was half asleep when she ordered it and knocked out before her milkshake was even gone. This one is warm, funny, sexy, and a little chaotic in the best way possible. If you've ever wondered what it looks like when a lifestyle couple throws a birthday party that doubles as a swinger event — this is it. Full transparency, zero filters, and a whole lot of love for the people who showed up. Mentioned in this episode: Via 313 Pizza (Austin area) Alamo Biscuit Company — San Antonio Arthur's Coffee — King William District, San Antonio Club Eden — San Antonio Spunk Lube (episode sponsor) Forbidden Fruit — Austin (episode sponsor) Fiesta San Antonio & Tejano Fanfare South by Southwest (also happening that weekend in Austin) Coming up on Beyond Monogamy: Swingers 101 Workshop — March 29th, 6–8pm at Forbidden Fruit in Austin. Visit forbiddenfruit.com/workshops for tickets. Texas Desires Hotel Takeover — Weekend of April 11th. Only a few rooms left! Check the Events tab at www.beyond-monogamy.com. For all episodes, video clips, guest bios, blogs, the events tab, merch, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional, visit www.beyond-monogamy.com. If you loved this episode, please like, subscribe, share, and leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it means the world to us and helps more people find the show. We'll see you next week. 🎂

Pregnancy in the lifestyle. Yeah, we went there. And honestly? It's one of those conversations that most people tip-toe around — until a condom breaks or somebody shows up to the party eight months along and suddenly everyone's got questions. On this week's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris pull zero punches on a topic that's way more common than people like to admit. This one was sparked by a real message from a friend who was gearing up to meet a couple — and found out the woman was pregnant. It opened up a whole rabbit hole of thoughts, experiences, and some genuinely hilarious moments that only two people who've been doing this for 14 years could deliver. If you've ever wondered what to do when pregnancy enters the equation — whether that's a kink, a scare, or a hypothetical you'd better talk through before it becomes a reality — this is the episode. What Adam and Pris Cover in This Episode: Pregnancy as a fetish in the lifestyle — Yes, it's a real kink. Adam's got a story from a strip club that'll stick with you. (She made four times what anyone else made that night. You'll understand why.) Would they play with a pregnant woman? — Adam and Pris give their honest, unfiltered answers. Spoiler: the parental switch is real, and it kills the vibe fast. What you can and can't do sexually while pregnant — Pris drops some actual health info that had Adam completely floored. Hint: if she can't eat sushi, connect the dots. Pregnancy scares in the lifestyle — including their own — A condom broke. A couple played with came back two weeks later saying she was pregnant. Find out what happened and how Adam and Pris handled it. The hypothetical you NEED to talk through with your partner — What would you actually do if it happened? Pris has a very clear answer. Adam has a very clear answer. And they're the same answer — which is exactly why they're still married. Polyamory, pregnancy, and co-parenting in the community — It happens. Sometimes it works out beautifully. Sometimes it ends in divorce. They've seen both. The advice that applies to every couple in this lifestyle — Have the hard conversations before you need them. Full stop. This one's got laughs, real talk, a Craigslist throwback, and a moment where Pris essentially tells Adam she would sign the papers but raise the baby herself if it came down to it. That alone is worth the listen. New episodes drop every Sunday and Wednesday. Find everything Beyond Monogamy — episodes, blog posts, the confessional, merch, events, and more — at www.beyond-monogamy.com. And if you're not already following us everywhere, what are you even doing? Like, subscribe, share, and drop us a review — it seriously helps more than you know.

What does ethical non-monogamy actually look like in real life? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Dominique from the viral TikTok account Life With Dominique and her long-distance girlfriend Leah to talk about their real-life experience navigating polyamory, marriage, motherhood, and public life. Dominique is married to her husband, Leah is married to hers, and together they've built a relationship dynamic that challenges traditional ideas of love, commitment, and partnership. But as you'll hear in this conversation, ethical non-monogamy isn't just about freedom and attraction — it's about communication, logistics, vulnerability, and sometimes navigating jealousy in ways most people never think about. We talk about everything from coming out to partners, to balancing multiple relationships, to the surprising ways non-monogamy can strengthen marriages rather than destroy them. If you've ever wondered how poly relationships actually work behind the scenes, this episode pulls back the curtain. In this episode we discuss: How Dominique came out to her husband about her attraction to women How polyamory evolved naturally within her marriage What it's really like dating a long-distance partner while married The logistics of balancing family, marriage, and another relationship How jealousy shows up in non-monogamous relationships The reality of sharing non-monogamy publicly on social media Why communication is the most important skill in ethical non-monogamy How strong women and honest conversations create stronger relationships This conversation is honest, funny, thoughtful, and sometimes surprisingly emotional. As always on Beyond Monogamy, we're not here to tell you how relationships should look — we're here to show how people are making them work in the real world. Connect with Dominique You can find Dominique and follow her journey through non-monogamy on social media. All of her links are available on our guest bio page at: https://www.beyond-monogamy.com More From Beyond Monogamy Visit our website for: Full podcast episodes Video clips Blogs Merchandise Our 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional 👉 https://www.beyond-monogamy.com Upcoming Events March 22 – SDC Webinar Red Flags & Green Flags in the Lifestyle 4:00 PM Central March 29 – Swingers 101 Workshop Forbidden Fruit – 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM Sign up at: https://www.forbiddenfruit.com/workshops April 11 Weekend Texas Desires Hotel Takeover – San Antonio Live show and meet-ups all weekend You can also catch Beyond Monogamy every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com. If you enjoy the show, please follow, share, and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. It helps us grow and keep bringing these conversations to you.

Let's talk about something a LOT of men secretly stress about… but almost nobody wants to say out loud. How do you actually last longer in bed? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris answer a listener question that came through their anonymous confessional: "Adam says he can control how long he lasts… how the hell do you do that?" And honestly? It's a great question. Because whether you're in a monogamous relationship, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or playing in the swinger lifestyle, performance anxiety and stamina are topics that come up way more often than people admit. So today Adam and Pris get real about: Why finishing quickly is incredibly common (and usually nothing to stress about) The psychological side of arousal and performance anxiety The "point of no return" most men experience The truth about how long sex actually lasts for most couples Why porn expectations completely distort reality How communication with your partner can eliminate embarrassment The difference between trying to "perform" and actually connecting Adam also shares the exact strategies that have worked for him over the years, including: The stop-start edging method used by sex therapists Learning to control your arousal curve Using rhythm changes and position changes to stay in control Why oral sex can actually help extend the experience Pelvic floor exercises (yes… Kegels for men) Breathing techniques that help you relax and last longer And Pris brings the female perspective most guys never hear — including why many women actually don't want marathon sessions and why confidence, communication, and connection matter far more than performance. If you've ever worried about lasting long enough… or if you're curious about how experienced lifestyle couples handle these situations… this episode is going to make you feel a whole lot better. Because the truth is simple: This isn't the Lifestyle Olympics. Nobody is handing out gold medals. The real goal is mutual pleasure, connection, and having a damn good time. Got a question for the show? Submit it anonymously through the Beyond Monogamy Confessional at: www.beyond-monogamy.com Your question might end up on a future episode. Upcoming Beyond Monogamy Events Pris's Birthday Bash March 14 – 9PM Club Eden – San Antonio SDC Webinar March 22 – 4PM Central Topic: Red Flags & Green Flags in the Lifestyle Swingers 101 Workshop March 29 – 6PM–8PM Forbidden Fruit – Austin TX Texas Desires Hotel Takeover Weekend of April 11 Explore more episodes, blogs, video clips, merch, and upcoming events at: www.beyond-monogamy.com You can also catch Beyond Monogamy every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com at 2PM and 7PM Central.

Is There an Age Limit in the Swinger Lifestyle? One of the most common questions people quietly ask about ethical non-monogamy and swinging is this: Am I too old for the lifestyle? Or on the flip side… is there such a thing as being too young? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into one of the most misunderstood topics in the swinging world — age in the lifestyle. The question actually came from a friend of ours who recently went through a divorce and started thinking about exploring the lifestyle… but had a major insecurity: "What if I'm too old for this?" So today we break it all down. We talk about the myths people believe, the reality of what lifestyle communities actually look like, and why age matters far less than confidence, personality, and effort. Because if you've ever stepped inside a lifestyle club, you already know something that outsiders don't… This is NOT a 20-year-old's game. Many of the happiest, most confident, and most sexually adventurous people in the lifestyle are in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s. Why? Because life experience, emotional intelligence, financial freedom, and confidence all play a massive role in making ethical non-monogamy work. In This Episode We Discuss: Are you too old to start exploring swinging? What the real age demographics of the lifestyle look like The biggest age insecurities people have before attending their first lifestyle event Why confidence and personality matter more than age The difference between lifestyle reality vs. porn and social media expectations Why the prime lifestyle years might actually be your 40s How older swingers often have the best experiences The role emotional maturity plays in open relationships Whether there is ever an age where people "age out" of swinging The truth about younger couples entering the lifestyle The Reality of the Lifestyle Community One of the biggest misconceptions about swinging is that everyone is young, perfect, and looks like an OnlyFans creator. The truth? The lifestyle community is made up of real people. Different body types. Different ages. Different backgrounds. What really matters is communication, chemistry, confidence, and respect. And once you understand that, the whole experience becomes much less intimidating. Thinking About Entering the Lifestyle? If you've ever wondered whether you're too old to explore ethical non-monogamy… this episode might completely change the way you think about it. Because the truth is simple: There is a lid for every pot in the lifestyle. You just have to be confident enough to show up. Connect With Us Visit our website: www.beyond-monogamy.com You can also submit your story, question, or confession through our 100% anonymous confessional. No names. No emails. Just your story. We may even discuss it on a future episode. Upcoming Events March 14 Pris's Birthday Bash at Club Eden — San Antonio March 29 Swingers 101 Workshop with Adam & Pris Forbidden Fruit – Austin, Texas April 11 Weekend Texas Desires Hotel Takeover – San Antonio More details available on the Events tab at our website. If you enjoy the show, please follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps more people discover honest conversations about ethical non-monogamy.

What happens when fantasy crashes into reality in the lifestyle? In this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE episode, Adam and Pris dive into two anonymous confessional submissions that hit on some of the biggest challenges in ethical non-monogamy: unrealistic expectations, red flags, obligation, and jealousy. The first story? A couple casually posts they'll be at a lifestyle hotel in Palm Springs. A husband — who they've NEVER spoken to — drives three hours expecting play. No chemistry. Pushy energy. Awkward hot tub vibes. Defensive reaction. Major red flags. We break down: Why driving hours for "possible sex" is already a dangerous mindset The difference between fantasy thinking and lifestyle reality Why you should NEVER feel obligated to play Pushy behavior, frantic energy, and drug red flags in swinger spaces How to say "no" without guilt Why vetting is non-negotiable in ENM Then we shift gears into a second confessional that many couples quietly struggle with: Jealousy when one partner gets more attention. In the lifestyle, women often receive the bulk of attention. That can feel empowering… or triggering… depending on the day. We discuss: Why jealousy doesn't mean you're failing The importance of reassurance in open relationships How to prep your partner before events Expectation-setting before parties and clubs Why this is a woman-centric lifestyle (and what men can do about it) How to balance enjoying attention while honoring your partner's feelings If you're new to swinging or ethical non-monogamy, this episode is packed with real-world advice about chemistry, communication, ego, safety, and emotional maturity. Remember: You don't owe anyone sex. You don't owe anyone attention. And you definitely don't owe anyone because they drove three hours. Submit your own anonymous confessional at: www.beyond-monogamy.com Follow us on Spotify so you never miss a Quickie episode. And as always… vet carefully, communicate clearly, and play responsibly.

This week on Beyond Monogamy, we're diving into two powerful throwback QUICKIE episodes that still hit just as hard today. First up: How do you even bring up swinging or ethical non-monogamy with your partner? That first conversation can either build connection or completely derail a relationship. We break down what worked for us, what didn't, and how to approach the topic of open relationships, swinging, or lifestyle exploration without triggering insecurity, defensiveness, or emotional chaos. We cover: Why timing matters when bringing up non-monogamy How to use a "preamble" instead of dropping a bomb Why alcohol and emotional fights are NOT the place The importance of reassurance and boundaries How to prepare yourself for a no Why consent between partners matters just as much as consent with others Then we pivot into raw listener confessions about rejection in the lifestyle, BDSM exploration, fear of vulnerability, and mixing vanilla life with lifestyle life. We talk about: Why rejection in the lifestyle hits differently How to say no without ghosting When overreactions become red flags The difference between people who want lifestyle-only connections vs real friendships Why you don't owe anyone play at parties or takeovers This episode is about honesty, communication, boundaries, and learning that ethical non-monogamy isn't just about sex — it's about emotional maturity and connection. If you're new to swinging, curious about open relationships, or navigating fear of rejection, this one is packed with practical insight and real talk. Leave us a review, share this with your partner, and keep those conversations going. Find everything at www.beyond-monogamy.com

Ever been told your relationship "isn't real love"? Ever had someone look at ethical non-monogamy and decide they're suddenly the moral authority over your life? Yeah. Same. In this QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we're diving into something nobody talks about enough — the judgment that comes from outside the lifestyle… and sometimes even inside it. From preachy YouTube comments to family backlash, from internet trolls to real-life bullies, we're unpacking: Why people feel superior about monogamy Why ENM triggers others so deeply How to respond without losing your mind Why judgment is usually projection What to say when someone brings up your sex life at work And why living your truth will ALWAYS make someone uncomfortable We share personal stories about coming out as poly, losing friends and family, dealing with pushy red flags in the lifestyle, and how jealousy, shame, and conditioning shape the way people react to consensual non-monogamy. This episode isn't about attacking monogamy. It's about standing firm in YOUR relationship choices. Because here's the truth: You can live your life exactly the way someone thinks you should… and they'll still judge you. So you might as well live it on your terms. If you're navigating stigma around swinging, polyamory, open relationships, or ethical non-monogamy — this one is for you. 👉 Follow the show on Spotify 👉 Leave a review 👉 Visit us at www.beyond-monogamy.com We've got blogs, events, webinars, anonymous confessionals, and ways to connect with our growing community. And remember — nobody outside your relationship gets to define it.

What happens when modern dating culture, social media, jealousy, and ethical non-monogamy collide under one roof? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we unpack a real-life situation that sparked a powerful conversation about cheating, secrecy, emotional maturity, and the difference between ethical openness and dishonest behavior. Our kids know we are ethically non-monogamous. They understand open relationships. But this week proved something important: Understanding non-monogamy does NOT equal understanding ethics. In This Episode We Cover: The difference between cheating and ethical non-monogamy Why secrecy — not structure — destroys relationships Social media, dopamine culture, and micro-cheating Jealousy vs insecurity (and why jealousy isn't the villain) Emotional maturity in younger generations How we handled cheating early in our own lifestyle journey Parenting while being openly non-monogamous Why honesty matters more than monogamy or openness We share one of our own early lifestyle mistakes — including the relief that comes when secrets finally come to light — and how we built stronger communication from it. This episode isn't about teaching kids to be non-monogamous. It's about teaching honesty, accountability, and emotional intelligence before people start hurting each other. Whether you're monogamous, swinging, poly, open, or just curious, this episode will challenge you to ask yourself: Are you being honest in your relationship — or just hoping you don't get caught? Upcoming Beyond Monogamy Events March 14th – Club Eden San Antonio (Pris's Birthday Bash) 9:00 PM | Membership Required Details: www.beyond-monogamy.com March 29th – Swinging 101 Workshop Forbidden Fruit – Austin, TX 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM Central Follow the show on Spotify and leave a review — it helps more people find real conversations like this. Visit us at: www.beyond-monogamy.com Streaming weekly on FullSwapRadio.com (Thursdays at 2 PM & 7 PM CST)

Thinking about going to your first swinger club but feeling nervous, anxious, or unsure what to expect? This Wednesday QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris is your ultimate beginner's guide to lifestyle clubs. We break down exactly what happens at a swinger club, what to wear, what to bring, how memberships work, what club etiquette looks like, and the biggest mistakes newbies make their first time. Whether you're attending a themed lifestyle event, curious about ethical non-monogamy, or heading to your first swingers club, this episode will help calm those nerves and prepare you properly. In This Episode We Cover: How swinger club memberships work (daily vs long-term) What to expect when you walk in (dance floor, VIP, playrooms, BDSM areas) What to wear to a lifestyle club (themes, club attire, first impressions) What to bring in your swinger bag (condoms, lube, wipes, gum, extra outfits) Consent rules & lifestyle etiquette Why you should NEVER go in with expectations Handling anxiety your first time at a swinger club Exhibitionism, voyeurism & playroom dynamics How to approach couples respectfully Hygiene, boundaries, and avoiding awkward moments If you're brand new to swinging or ethical non-monogamy, this episode is your no-pressure walkthrough before stepping into a lifestyle club for the first time. Have questions? Head over to www.beyond-monogamy.com where you can: Leave us a voicemail Submit a 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional Find all upcoming events Shop merch Read our blog We also stream every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM CST on FullSwapRadio.com. New to the lifestyle? Nervous about going to a swinger club? This is the episode you listen to before you walk through those doors.

Most people think swinging is all vibes, chemistry, and "we'll figure it out when we get there." In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we explain why that mindset is exactly why so many couples struggle early on. We're recording live on location at Forbidden Fruit, one of the most respected adult education spaces in Texas, and sitting down with Jonny — the man behind some of the most popular lifestyle workshops in the community. From Fellatio 101 and BDSM 101 to rope classes, consent conversations, and real-world safety education, Jonny breaks down why learning first leads to better confidence, better communication, and better experiences — both in and out of the bedroom. This episode is funny, honest, slightly unhinged in the best way, and packed with real stories from years of teaching adults how to be better lovers, better partners, and better humans. What We Cover in This Episode: Why education matters more than people realize in swinging and ENM What actually happens inside Forbidden Fruit workshops Why "winging it" leads to awkward moments and bad experiences Consent, communication, and legal realities people never talk about Why confidence comes from learning — not pretending you already know Our upcoming Swingers 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit We also talk about why safe spaces matter, how workshops are designed to be inclusive and judgment-free, and why beginners are often shocked by how welcoming and educational the experience actually is. Upcoming Workshop: Swingers 101 with Adam & Pris 📅 March 29 📍 Forbidden Fruit – Austin, TX 🕕 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM This workshop is perfect for curious beginners, newer swingers, and couples who want real answers without pressure or awkward sales pitches. Connect With Us: 🌐 Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com 📻 FullSwapRadio: Thursdays at 2 PM & 7 PM CST 🗓️ Events, Blog, Confessionals, Merch & More on our website If you love the show, please like, subscribe, share, and leave a review. It helps us reach more people and keep bringing you honest conversations like this one.

Everybody talks about how hot the swinging lifestyle is. Nobody talks about the emotional whiplash. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we get brutally honest about the parts of swinging that don't show up in fantasies, porn, or Instagram highlight reels — the stuff that quietly hits you after your first party, your first rejection, or your first "why do I feel like this?" moment. We break down the biggest reality checks people experience when they start swinging, including: Why communication is unavoidable (even when you "just want sex") The massive gap between fantasy and real-life lifestyle events Why jealousy doesn't always show up right away — and why that matters How rejection in the lifestyle can hit harder than expected The hidden addiction to validation, attention, and being wanted Why rules don't actually prevent emotional pain Different processing speeds between partners — and how that creates tension How swinging exposes cracks, insecurities, and emotional blind spots The uncomfortable truth about social hierarchies and judgment in the community This is not a "how-to" episode. This is a real-talk episode. We share personal stories, uncomfortable realizations, and the stuff people usually whisper about in private — because if you're new (or even years in), you deserve to know what this lifestyle actually feels like. If this episode made you feel seen, you're not alone. And if you're overwhelmed? You're not broken. You're human. 👉 Have a story of rejection, jealousy, or a moment you wish someone warned you about? Submit your anonymous confession at www.beyond-monogamy.com. 🎧 Also catch Beyond Monogamy streaming on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central. Don't forget to follow, share, and leave a review — it helps more people find these conversations.

Some swinger rules sound great… until you actually have to live with them. In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into the most common unfair rules in swinging and ethical non-monogamy — the ones couples swear will "protect the relationship" but often do the exact opposite. From "no feelings allowed" to approval rules, same-room-only forever, no single guys, and the classic double standards where one partner can do things the other can't, we break down why these rules exist, where they come from, and how they quietly create resentment, insecurity, and emotional landmines. Adam and Pris get real about their own past rules — including ones they now openly admit were unfair — and talk honestly about fear, jealousy, trust, growth, and why rules without reflection can set couples up for failure. This episode isn't about judging anyone's boundaries. It's about asking the uncomfortable but necessary question: Is this rule actually protecting us… or just avoiding a deeper conversation? You'll hear candid discussions about: Why "no feelings" is one of the most unrealistic rules in ENM The difference between inclusion and ownership Why approval rules feel respectful but can quietly limit autonomy How one-sided rules create imbalance and resentment Why avoiding post-play conversations makes things worse, not better How growth in the lifestyle often means outgrowing old rules If you've ever said, "This rule made sense at first… but now something feels off," this episode is for you. Want to share your experience anonymously? Submit a Beyond Monogamy Confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com. It's 100% anonymous. You can also find all episodes, blogs, guest bios, merch, and resources on our website — built for the community, by the community. Beyond Monogamy streams on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.

Unfiltered but Not Unkind is one of those episodes that needed to happen. In this raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation, Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on the lifestyle behaviors we all quietly side-eye… but rarely say out loud. This isn't a call-out episode. There's no rage, no dunking, and definitely no drama farming. Instead, it's thoughtful honesty, humor, and real talk about swinger etiquette, communication breakdowns, confidence versus self-awareness, and why "just communicate more" is terrible advice when no one explains how. We talk openly about: The difference between confidence and lack of self-awareness (and why overconfidence kills attraction) Why hypersexual behavior shuts doors faster than it opens Oversharing explicit content in spaces that didn't consent to that energy Treating every interaction like a sexual audition (and why that's a turnoff) The harm caused by "Google it" culture instead of real guidance Jealousy as a signal, not a personal failure Inclusive language without inclusive behavior Why your relationship should always come before the lifestyle We also get deeply personal—sharing moments from our own relationship where communication failed, jealousy showed up, and growth was uncomfortable but necessary. From stopping polyamory to rebuilding emotional security, this episode is a reminder that honesty and kindness can coexist—and that loving the lifestyle doesn't mean pretending it's perfect. If you've ever left a party thinking, "I don't want to sound judgy, but…" — this episode is for you. Resources & Links: Website, episodes, blogs, merch & events: www.beyond-monogamy.com Beyond Monogamy Confessional (100% anonymous) Streaming on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central Pris's Birthday Party — March 14th at 9 PM at Club Eden San Antonio Grab your headphones, pour a drink, and get comfy—this one hits different.

What happens when the swinger lifestyle starts to feel less like freedom and more like permission? In this raw and honest Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris unpack a listener confession that hits closer to home than most people want to admit: one-sided rules in the lifestyle. The listener describes a dynamic where her husband controls who she can play with, forbids single men, and ultimately restricts her from being with men at all—while she places no rules on him and genuinely wants him to have the best experiences possible. She agrees to the restrictions not because they align with her desires, but because she's afraid of losing the lifestyle—and possibly her marriage. Adam and Pris break down where these rules often come from, how insecurity shows up early in the lifestyle, and why control is frequently mistaken for safety. They share deeply personal stories from their own journey, including early jealousy, discomfort with watching, and how reassurance, over-communication, and patience helped them evolve instead of implode. This episode isn't about villainizing anyone. It's about understanding that feelings are valid on both sides—and that sustainable non-monogamy requires collaboration, not permission slips. In this episode, we talk about: Why one-sided rules are so common in new swinger dynamics The difference between reassurance and restriction Why watching can be harder than participating How insecurity shows up differently for men and women The emotional cost of agreeing to rules you don't actually want Why slowing down can save your relationship How to schedule "the uncomfortable conversation" without blowing things up If you've ever felt like you were compromising too much just to keep the lifestyle alive—or if you're the partner struggling with jealousy and fear—this conversation is for you. Upcoming Events & Where to Find Us: Live SDC Webinar: February 22nd at 4:00 PM Central – Finding & Vetting Couples: From Profiles to First Meet (Without the Cringe) In Person: Club Eden DFW – Saturday, January 31st Full Swap Radio: Streaming every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central Have a confession, question, or story of your own? Visit www.beyond-monogamy.com and submit it through the Beyond Monogamy Confessional—100% anonymous. Whether you're swinging, poly, monogamous, curious, or just trying to understand your relationship better—we're really glad you're here.

This episode is a deep, grounded, and powerful conversation. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with relationship and sexuality professional Martha Kauppi, an AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, educator, and founder of the Institute for Relational Intimacy. Martha works at the intersection of intimacy, attachment, nervous system regulation, and relationship patterns — helping people understand not just what's happening in their relationships, but why it's happening in their bodies, emotions, and connection styles. Together, we unpack some of the most important (and misunderstood) parts of ethical non-monogamy and long-term relationships: communication, differentiation, emotional regulation, compersion, desire, and the real work that starts after the fun part. Martha shares how her personal life and family history led her into this field, why open relationships have been unfairly pathologized in therapy spaces, and what decades-long non-monogamous relationships actually look like when they are built with intention. This conversation goes far beyond labels. We talk about what happens when couples move from swinging into emotional connections, how to navigate mismatched needs, how to express hard truths without destroying trust, and how to stay connected when discomfort shows up. You'll hear powerful insight on: Why communication is a skill set, not a personality trait The difference between rules, regulation, and relational safety Why many therapists misunderstand non-monogamy How to explore ethically without overwhelming your relationship Compersion, jealousy, and emotional self-awareness How long-term non-monogamous relationships actually sustain intimacy Adam and Pris also get personal — opening up about their own journey from swinging into polyamory and back out again, what they learned about themselves, and how those experiences reshaped their communication, trust, and emotional depth. This episode is honest, validating, and packed with insight whether you're monogamous, exploring, actively non-monogamous, or simply trying to build better relationships. About our guest: Martha Kauppi is a certified sex therapist, clinical trainer, and author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients). She trains therapists internationally and hosts the podcast Untangling Intimacy. Learn more at: Institute for Relational Intimacy Listener discretion advised. This show contains adult themes and real relationship discussions.

This Wednesday Quickie goes places. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a real, unfiltered conversation about how to set up a gang bang — not the porn version, but the actual real-life logistics, planning, communication, and consent that go into making a fantasy like this happen. Pris opens up about a long-standing bucket-list fantasy and makes one thing crystal clear: this experience is about her pleasure, her comfort, and her rules. From hand-selecting participants to making sure everyone understands expectations, boundaries, and consent, this episode breaks down why fantasies take way more work than people realize. Adam plays the role of curious fly-on-the-wall, asking the real questions most people are thinking but never say out loud — flakiness, performance anxiety, group dynamics, recording consent, and whether everyone involved can actually handle the environment. And just when you think the episode couldn't get more interesting, the conversation takes a turn into lifestyle storytime as Adam and Pris recount a recent swinger party where they discovered something entirely new: ball stretching weights. What started as parallel play turned into a candid (and hilarious) breakdown of how these accessories work, why some couples love them, and how curiosity fuels ongoing exploration in the lifestyle. This episode is equal parts sexy, funny, educational, and brutally honest — covering: Why real-life fantasies require planning, vetting, and communication The difference between porn expectations and lived experiences Consent, comfort, and setting clear intentions Exhibitionism, performance pressure, and group dynamics How curiosity keeps long-term non-monogamous relationships exciting If you've ever wondered how fantasies actually come together — or why most of them never do — this episode pulls back the curtain. Listener discretion advised. This show is raw, real, and absolutely not PG.

If you've ever seen photos of adults-only lifestyle cruises or hotel takeovers and thought, "That looks incredible… but also a little intimidating," this episode is for you. Adam & Pris sit down with Claudia and Pepe Aguirre of LLV Club (Luxury Lifestyle Vacations) to pull back the curtain on what luxury lifestyle travel actually looks like — from cruises and hotel takeovers to immersive, adults-only experiences around the world. LLV Club is known for blending upscale travel, ethical non-monogamy, education, and real community. You're not just booking a vacation — you're stepping into an experience designed around comfort, consent, connection, and choice. In this episode, we talk about: What LLV Club really is and how it works Why first-time lifestyle travelers don't need to be nervous How community is built before, during, and after trips The difference between river cruises, ocean cruises, and hotel takeovers What makes these experiences feel safe, structured, and welcoming Why many people come for the fun — but stay for the friendships Claudia and Pepe also share how their background in hospitality shaped LLV Club, why consent and comfort come first, and how these trips attract respectful, successful, open-minded adults from all over the world. Whether you're lifestyle-curious, travel-obsessed, or just ready for a vacation that actually feels like an escape, this episode breaks it all down without the hype or pressure. LLV Club Website: https://www.llvclub.com Email: [email protected] Phone: +1 (857) 442-4265 If you enjoyed this episode, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify. It helps more open-minded humans find the show. Find all episodes, blogs, events, and guest bios at https://www.beyond-monogamy.com

Welcome to Swinger 101 — the episode we wish every curious couple listened to before jumping into the lifestyle. In this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris break down the real basics of swinging in a way only Beyond Monogamy can: honest, funny, raw, and actually helpful. If you're brand new, lifestyle-curious, or still Googling questions at 2am, this episode is for you. We cover what swinging really is (and what it absolutely is not), how it differs from open relationships and polyamory, and why swinging is primarily a sexually-focused branch of ethical non-monogamy. From there, we get into the stuff newbies are usually too scared to ask out loud: Do you have to be married to swing? Do swingers date or is it more casual? How do you even bring this up to your partner? What if one person wants it more than the other? What boundaries should you talk about first? Rules vs boundaries — what's the difference? How do you deal with jealousy when it shows up? Can you say no… even mid-experience? We also walk through what actually happens at swinger clubs (spoiler: it's not an Eyes Wide Shut orgy), how privacy is protected, what first nights usually look like, and why watching is always okay. Adam opens up about anxiety, nerves, and learning how to finally find his "no," while Pris talks honestly about jealousy, communication, and why being upfront saves everyone time and emotional energy. We also cover: Soft swap vs full swap Approaching other couples without being awkward Apps, websites, and finding community safely Verification, fake profiles, and red flags STI conversations, testing, and condom expectations Discretion, careers, family, and real-world consequences This episode is about doing the lifestyle intentionally, ethically, and without wrecking your relationship. If you're new — welcome. If you're seasoned — you might still learn something. And if you've been thinking about swinging but don't know where to start… this is it. Got questions? Leave them anonymously in the Beyond Monogamy Confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com. Love the show? Please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you listen. Reviews help us grow this community more than you know.

What happens when non-monogamy stops being about labels and starts being about lived experience? In this powerful and deeply honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we're joined by speaker, author, and relationship coach Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers for a conversation that goes far beyond surface-level polyamory talk. This episode is all about learning how to live non-monogamy on your own terms — not the internet's, not your partner's, and definitely not some outdated rulebook you never agreed to in the first place. Evita shares her personal journey from swinging to polyamory, the emotional chaos that came with it, and how jealousy became one of her greatest teachers instead of a relationship-ending villain. We talk about why jealousy isn't a failure, why compersion isn't mandatory, and why "doing it right" looks different for everyone. If you've ever felt like you were bad at non-monogamy, overwhelmed by emotional reactions, or confused by labels that don't quite fit — this episode will feel like a deep exhale. In this episode, we cover: Why non-monogamy doesn't need a label to be valid The emotional shift from swinging to polyamory Why jealousy isn't the enemy — and how to work with it The myth that compersion is required to be "good" at polyamory How freedom, curiosity, and gratitude change relationship dynamics Letting go of entitlement in relationships Why growth in non-monogamy is messy, nonlinear, and completely normal Evita also breaks down her now-famous analogy of switching relationship operating systems — and why moving from monogamy to non-monogamy isn't a flip of a switch, but a full system reboot. If you're new to ethical non-monogamy, questioning polyamory, or redefining what open relationships mean to you, this episode will meet you exactly where you are. Follow & Learn More About Our Guest: Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers is the author of A Polyamory Devotional and the voice behind the popular "Daily Polyamory Reminders." Her work centers emotional literacy, communication, and radical honesty in modern relationships. Connect with us: Visit www.beyond-monogamy.com for episode blogs, guest bios, events, merch, and our anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional. Catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST. Don't forget to like, subscribe, rate, review, and share the show — it helps more curious couples find conversations like this one.

Is lasting longer in bed really the goal—or have we been getting it wrong this whole time? In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into a topic that gets whispered about but rarely discussed honestly: instant gratification in sex. After a real-life conversation at the club sparked a bigger realization, Adam and Pris unpack why so many people—especially women—actually prefer when sex doesn't drag on forever. From cultural myths about "five-minute men" to the surprising confidence boost that comes from making someone finish fast, this episode flips traditional sexual expectations on their head. We talk about: Why quick finishes can feel validating, sexy, and powerful The pressure men feel to "last forever" and why that expectation is outdated How the lifestyle changes arousal, stimulation, and sexual response Why communication matters more than performance What instant gratification really means emotionally—not just sexually The conversation then takes a turn into another lifestyle reality most people avoid: how to say no after a sexual experience that just didn't click. Adam and Pris break down why you don't owe anyone an explanation, how avoiding honesty causes more harm than being direct, and why "trying it once" doesn't mean you owe someone a sequel. If you've ever felt pressure to perform, worried about hurting someone's feelings, or wondered whether you're doing sex "right," this episode is your permission slip to relax—and get honest. Listener discretion advised. This show is raw, real, and unapologetically adult. 🎧 New Quickie episodes drop every Wednesday. More Beyond Monogamy: Visit www.beyond-monogamy.com for episodes, blog posts, events, merch, and confessions.

Polyamory doesn't have to be confusing, chaotic, or emotionally overwhelming. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with award-winning sex and relationships educator Leanne Yau—the brilliant mind behind Poly Philia Blog—to unpack jealousy, boundaries, emotional security, and why non-monogamy isn't a "phase" or a lack of commitment. Leanne shares how she discovered non-monogamy at a young age, how being cheated on shaped her views of honesty and trust, and why jealousy isn't the villain people make it out to be. We also dive into boundaries, attachment styles, generational shifts in relationships, and how social media has changed the way people learn about polyamory. This conversation is funny, deeply validating, and packed with practical insight for anyone curious about open relationships, polyamory, or navigating jealousy without shame. In this episode, we cover: How Leanne discovered non-monogamy and polyamory Why jealousy is normal—and how to work with it instead of suppressing it The difference between healthy boundaries and fear-based rules Why non-monogamy isn't a "phase" or commitment-avoidance How younger generations are reshaping relationship norms Balancing privacy and authenticity as a content creator Resources & Links: Follow Polyphilia on Instagram, TikTok, X & YouTube (@polyphiliablog) and also at  https://direct.me/polyphiliablog Leanne's Patreon and peer support offerings More episodes and events at beyond-monogamy.com 🎙 Stream Beyond Monogamy every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST on FullSwapRadio.com.