Skilled Coach: What Should I Do?

from Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life Hosted by Michelle Burkhard

“I don’t want it, but I should want it.” Have you evercaught yourself saying something like that? In today’s episode, Michelle explores what happens when “What do you think I should do?” meets the Skillful Coach and one little word opens the door to a much bigger conversation: should. By listening closely to language, energy, and even whathappens in someone’s body as they explore their options, a Skillful Coach can help uncover information that might otherwise be missed. Maybe the real question isn’t whether to take the promotion at all. Maybe it’s, “What doessuccess actually mean to me?” The goal isn’t to use our coaching skills to steer someone toward the answer we think is right. It’s to expand their awareness enough that they can discover their own. Questions or comments? I’d love to hear from you! [email protected] Reflection Questions What words such as should, have to, supposed to, always, ornever tend to get my attention when I am listening to someone? Where do the “shoulds” in my own life come from, and howoften do I stop to question them? How can I use reflection, observation, visualization, orother coaching skills to expand someone’s awareness without steering them toward my preferred outcome? When I think I see the answer for someone, how disciplinedam I about remaining curious instead of asking questions that subtly lead them there? What decision in my own life might look different if Istopped asking what I should do and instead asked what truly matters to me?