So You Wanna Have a Threesome? (ft. Gabrielle Alexa Noel)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with writer, sex educator, and polyamorous creator Gabrielle Alexa Noel to talk about the fantasy everyone has — and the one that goes wrong the most: threesomes.From “unicorn hunting” to couple privilege, from jealousy to communication, this episode breaks down what actually makes a threesome hot and what makes it awkward, performative, or emotionally messy.Gabby and Alexa unpack why “the third is the star of the show,” why gifting a threesome is a red flag, why kissing rules are often a dealbreaker, and why straight couples may have an easier time swapping than finding a unicorn.In this episode, we cover:The biggest communication mistakes couples makeWhy “creating safety” changes everythingKissing rules some couples have“Couple privilege and why it mattersWhy the third needs to feel specialHow to DM a third correctly (and what NOT to say)Signs a couple isn’t actually readyEmotional labor being offloaded onto the thirdWhy you should take the third on a dateWhy swapping couples may be easier than unicorn huntingJealousy and insecurity during group sexWhat to do when someone feels left outAftercare expectations and debriefsWhy porn positions aren’t realisticSTI prep, condom changes, and fluid bondingToys in threesomesSingle men’s best strategy for getting a threesomeWhy romance still matters even in casual group sexThank you to the best waterproof sex blanket in the market,  Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests dry and cozy ◡̈