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EPISODE · Mar 2, 2022 · 40 MIN
Splitting: Understand and Identify [Ep: 705]
from The Ashley Berges Show · host Ashley Berges
Have you ever had someone tell you how great you are, sing your praises, then find fault in you, and eventually cut you out of their life completely? Is there someone in your life who tends to see things in only black or white? They may see people as either being for or against them, and tend to see the extremes. We may know someone who may take this to extremes. However, we must ask ourselves if we tend to see things in black and white sometimes? When we interact with people who have signs and symptoms of BPD, we may see them demonstrate splitting with everyone and everything. In order to not get swept up in other people's splitting, we must understand what it is and why they do it. Splitting is also linked to the pedestal stage in the love bombing phase in relationships. Often when a person is being love bombed, they aren't aware and fall into the trap of the attention. Eventually the person is devalued and even discarded. Because of the experience, they tend to be in a blender of emotions and are challenged to pick up the pieces. They must work to embark on a self-understanding journey. This podcast will help you to identify splitting, understand why people tend to use splitting, and how to avoid falling into the trap of giving it power over you when it is being done to you. Additional resources: Real Love or Pedestal Phase: https://youtu.be/3HG_TQD0xOE Am I Being Loved Bombed or is it True Love? [Ep: 704] https://youtu.be/URjGPdAHooU Black and White Thinking -Cause and Effect https://youtu.be/V5KMKpMKbTEhey Become a member today: https://members.ashleyberges.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.
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Have you ever had someone tell you how great you are, sing your praises, then find fault in you, and eventually cut you out of their life completely? Is there someone in your life who tends to see things in only black or white? They may see people as either being for or against them, and tend to see the extremes. We may know someone who may take this to extremes. However, we must ask ourselves if we tend to see things in black and white sometimes? When we interact with people who have signs and symptoms of BPD, we may see them demonstrate splitting with everyone and everything. In order to not get swept up in other people's splitting, we must understand what it is and why they do it. Splitting is also linked to the pedestal stage in the love bombing phase in relationships. Often when a person is being love bombed, they aren't aware and fall into the trap of the attention. Eventually the person is devalued and even discarded. Because of the experience, they tend to be in a blender of emotions and are challenged to pick up the pieces. They must work to embark on a self-understanding journey. This podcast will help you to identify splitting, understand why people tend to use splitting, and how to avoid falling into the trap of giving it power over you when it is being done to you. Additional resources: Real Love or Pedestal Phase: https://youtu.be/3HG_TQD0xOE Am I Being Loved Bombed or is it True Love? [Ep: 704] https://youtu.be/URjGPdAHooU Black and White Thinking -Cause and Effect https://youtu.be/V5KMKpMKbTEhey Become a member today: https://members.ashleyberges.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-ashley-berges-show--1272964/support.
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