The Ashley Berges Show
by Ashley Berges
Our personal relationships are extremely important and being able to navigate them properly is paramount for our safety, well-being, and overall happiness. We may find ourselves in a challenging family dynamic, complicated marriage or relationship, and all the while working to gain a clearer picture of what we want in our life and what makes us tick. The better we understand human nature, self-centered personalities, passive aggressive behavior, personality disorders including narcissism and borderline, the better we equip our lives centered around knowledge and personal empowerment. The more we center ourselves around healthy companionship, family, friends, and co-workers, the more time we have to work on ourselves to be the best version of us! This show is dedicated to anyone who has had enough of manipulation, gaslighting, and others trying to control them through manipulative tactics including the silent treatment and passive aggressive behavior. Instead of finding yourself
Episodes
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I love Dogs More Than People [Ep: 822]
Why do I love dogs more than people? Have you ever wondered why you love your dog more than people? Dogs offer consistency, loyalty, empathy, and unconditional love: qualities that can sometimes feel missing in human relationships. In this new podcast episode, I'm exploring why our connections…
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The Narcissistic Relationship Completely Deconstructed - No More Questioning Yourself [Ep. 821]
If you think you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, this podcast will make it extremely clear and you can stop guessing whether you are or aren’t. In the beginning of these relationships you believe you have met your soul mate, it feels good in the beginning. You feel as though you have met...
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How Did I Fall in Love with a Narcissist? [Ep: 820]
Clients have asked me, Why did I fall for a narcissist? How does this happen? There are a lot of reasons we fall prey and fall in love with someone who eventually takes their mask off and is a true narcissist. Whether it began in our childhood due to our parents narcissistic tendencies, the...
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Understanding the Narcissistic Spectrum: The Role of Self-Awareness [Ep. 819]
Self-awareness and a lack there of is your big determination to honestly understand if someone has significant signs and symptoms of narcissism or not. When dealing with these people, you will find yourself on a very uneven playing ground. The rules do not apply to them! They make up the rules…
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Why do Borderlines and Narcissists Attract? [Ep: 818]
There are real reasons why people with borderline personality disorder, signs and symptoms connect with people who are narcissistic and have narcissistic signs and symptoms. The attraction is very deep-seated and somewhat primal. Primal in the sense that the relationship is fast and furious, the...
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The Relationship with a Narcissist Explained and Deconstructed [EP: 817]
Why do narcissistic relationships feel so incredible in the beginning and so painful later? In this episode, Ashley breaks down the cycle of narcissistic relationships, from love bombing, idealization to devaluation, gaslighting, receiving the silent treatment, and emotional control. Discover why...
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10 Dating Red Flags You Can't Afford to Ignore! [Ep: 816]
Are you currently dating? Trying to meet the right person? Are you currently on a dating app and working to meet someone who you connect with? In today's podcast, I am breaking down the 10 biggest dating red flags that can lead to manipulation, heartbreak, and unhealthy relationship patterns.…
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The Undercover Secret Type of Narcissism Revealed & Explained [Ep.815]
There’s a specific type of narcissism that goes under the radar. It goes under the radar because it’s the opposite of what you think of when you think of narcissism. Overt narcissism is the most known type of narcissism where someone is the center of attention, extremely arrogant, and…
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Are you accepting Crumbs in your Relationship? [Ep: 814]
Are you accepting crumbs in your relationship? What does it mean to be crumbed? The beginning of a relationship can start in a very different way: lots of attention, love bombing, and admiration and then things change. Eventually the massive amount of attention begins to come to an end and you...
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What Role Does Fear Play in Unhealthy Toxic Relationships? [Ep. 813]
Unhealthy Relationships have One Common Denominator…FEAR…Unhealthy, toxic, and challenging relationships often begin with love bombing, massive amounts of attention from the other person, codependency, and an over-active mind creating a "perfect life" narrative that makes us overlook the red…
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Are you Surrounded by Positive, Negative, Toxic, or Realist People? [Ep: 812]
In this episode of The Ashley Berges Podcast: Who are you spending your time with? I'm exploring positivity, negativity, toxic positivity, and realist thinking today. How each way of thinking impacts your mindset, relationships, health, success rate, and overall well-being. I’m discussing how...
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Do They Want Help or Just an Audience for their Drama and Chaos? [Ep: 811]
Have you ever felt like you’re constantly cleaning up someone else’s mess, but nothing ever changes? In this episode of the Ashley Berges Podcast, I ask: Do the people in your lives really want help, or are they just putting on a show and dragging us into it? I'm breaking down the key indications...
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Are You The Emotional Thermostat, Trying To Keep Others Comfortable? [Ep.810]
You think you’re being supportive. You think you’re being loving. But what if you’re actually regulating everyone else’s emotions? In this podcast, I’m breaking down the difference between healthy emotional support and over-functioning. If you walk into a room and immediately scan for someone’s...
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DARVO: The Manipulative Pattern You Can't See Until You Do! [Ep: 809]
Have you ever tried to talk about something that hurt you, only to walk away feeling guilty, confused, or ashamed? That’s not conflict. It’s DARVO. In this episode, I break down how DARVO works, why it’s so damaging, and how blame gets reversed so the person who speaks up becomes the problem....
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All the World is a Stage [Ep: 808]
Are you dealing with a lack of motivation, worried about what others think of you, not sure if you have the the knowledge to be successful, and finding yourself operating more from a place of fear than anything else? It’s time to take a real look at the world and the stage you are on. Are you in...
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How to Survive that Toxic Family Member this Holiday Season [Ep.807]
Do the holidays make you anxious because of one or several toxic family member who always stir things up? This episode is your guide to taking your power and peace back. I'm breaking down how to use the Yellow Rock method to stay calm, how to avoid getting triggered, and how to redirect...
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Clarity Through Sobriety: Accepting the Truth in Toxic Narcissistic Relationships. [Ep.806]
Are you stuck in a relationship where giving feels endless and love feels conditional? In this episode, I explore how codependency, future faking, and patterns learned from our family dynamic can keep us trapped, and how alcohol, drugs, and distractions reinforce the cycle. Sobriety isn’t just...
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What is Future Faking? Signs You’re Being Deceived in your Relationship. [Ep: 805]
Have you ever found yourself waiting for something that never materializes, perhaps a trip, a proposal, or a promise that keeps getting pushed back to someday? In today's podcast, I’m explaining what future faking really is and how it traps you in a cycle of false hope and emotional exhaustion....
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Trapped by a Malignant Narcissist? Identify Sociopathic and Narcissistic Abuse. [Ep 804]
The word narcissist and the concept of narcissism is brought constantly in our society. However, narcissism isn’t one size fits all, there are different types of narcissism. The five common types of narcissism are overt, covert, vulnerable, communal, antagonistic, and malignant. The most…
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The Emotional Journey of Losing Your Best Beloved Dog or Cat. [Ep. 803]
Losing a pet to death of their body is painful and you may feel lonely because others don’t understand the bond and connection. They don’t understand the love and connection you had with this being. People say things like, they were ready to go, and other say it was just their time, they think…
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Dogs and Cats are our Family not Just our Pets. Ep: 802
The loss of a pet to some people is just that, a loss of a pet. But for some of us the loss of a pet is the loss of a child. When you don’t have children, your dog or cat is your child. The connection and bond is strong and takes work, consistency, and dedication. Buddy has been with me for 15...
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Discernment Is Not Judgement it's Awareness. [Ep. 801]
Are you dealing with challenging people in your life? Trying to understand specific relationship dynamics? Wanting to choose wisely when it comes to friendships, romantic relationships, and business partnerships? In today’s podcast, Ashley deep dives into the concept of discernment, what it…
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They May Think They Know You-But It's All An Interpretation [Ep. 800]
In today’s episode of The Ashley Berges Show, I’m deep diving into something we don’t talk about enough: how we only understand ourselves. We have people in our lives, such as partners, parents, siblings, and best friends, but even they can only interpret what they think we say or feel. They…
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Mind Games and Manipulation: The Gaslighting Epidemic. [Ep:799]
Welcome to The Ashley Berges Show. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s more relevant than ever: gaslighting. It’s showing up everywhere, in our personal lives, professional environments, and across the media. In this episode, I examine how constant manipulation affects us, particularly when…
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How to Find Peace and Gratitude in a Drama-Filled World. [Ep: 798]
On today’s episode of The Ashley Berges Show, I invite you to shift your focus from society’s distractions to real sources of peace, joy, and freedom. Are you overwhelmed by the news, social media, and life's personal pressures? Join me as I explore how our so-called small things may hold the...
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Identify and Safeguard Yourself from Malignant Narcissists. Ep. [797]
In order to safeguard yourself, you must be able to identify malignant narcissists that are in your personal life, family dynamic, work environment, and people you may listen to on the news, on social media, and in politics. A malignant narcissist believes they are above you and everyone else.…
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When Borderline and Narcissism Overlap. [Ep. 796]
What happens when Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder overlap? Many of us understand narcissism and some of us understand borderline. However, what do you do when you find yourself in a relationship with a person who exhibits both narcissistic and borderline…
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End the Loop of Manipulation and Gaslighting in your Relationships. [Ep. 795]
It's time to stop your brain from talking you out of what really happened, what was really said, and what events actually transpired that day in your life. It’s interesting how we create narratives in our minds as to what happened in a given situation, we change and augment those events to better...
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When the Rules Only Apply to You: The Imbalanced Relationship [Ep: 794]
An imbalanced relationship is a relationship where one of the two people in the relationship is held to a higher standard than the other. In these relationships, one person creates a set of rules for the relationship but the person that creates the rules doesn’t follow them. This creates a double...
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How to Identify Manipulative and Controlling Behaviors and Patterns in Relationships. [Ep 793]
Are you being manipulated or controlled mentally and emotionally by another person? Do you feel as though you can’t make your own choices and that everything you do is questioned and put under the microscope? When we identify manipulative and controlling behaviors in others, it helps us to...
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Are you Codependent in a Relationship with Someone Taking Advantage of You? [Ep.792]
Are you feeling more codependent in your personal relationship than ever before? Do you feel that you are being taken advantage of and feeling as though you are loosing your identity? Some relationships begin in a whirlwind style -fast and furious and then when the dust settles you begin to…
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Empowering Young Minds: Helping Children Overcome Negative Self-Beliefs [Ep: 791]
Many of us suffer or have previously suffered with self-limiting beliefs holding us back throughout our lives. As adults we either realize those beliefs exist or are unaware of their existence. We develop these self-limiting beliefs throughout childhood and they carry into our teen and adult…
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Helping Children to Better Process Anger and to Realize their True Personal Worth. [Ep. 790]
Processing and understanding our emotions and seeing our inherent value are two things we strive to achieve in our lifetime. Some of us are still struggling to master one or both of these goals. As adults many of us aren’t taught this by our family or parental unit because they were not taught it...
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Wellness without Medication: Feel Better with No Side Effects. [Ep: 789]
Many of us suffer with some type of ailment. And many of us don’t want to take a pill or live in pain. What if you could solve the problem with no side effects? I came across a life-changing device that I wear everyday since May of 2024. After experiencing positive effects on a daily basis, I...
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Are you in the Middle of a Quarter-Life Crisis? [Ep: 788]
A quarter-life crisis typically occurs in your 20s or 30s, bringing feelings of uncertainty and questioning the path your life is taking. This crisis affects a lot of people. Many factors go into why people have this crisis in their lives. It’s a common experience influenced by various factors,...
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How to Clearly Identify and Recognize a Malignant Narcissist. Ep: [787]
We hear the term narcissist thrown around a lot in daily discussion. However not all narcissism and narcissists are created equal. Some people possess a few narcissistic tendencies while others seem to display all signs and symptoms. However their is a more extreme form of narcissism that makes…
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When Excuses Becomes Toxic: When to Draw the Line. Ep.[786]
Empathy is a wonderful personal quality, caring for others goes hand-and-hand, and giving others the benefit of the doubt goes a long way with respect to specific situations and circumstances. We can acknowledge other people's pain and life stressors. However at what point does making excuses for...
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Building Strong Families Through Movement with Author Russ Rogers [Ep. 785]
There is no better time than right now! We need to think about the value of the present moment and how important that is to all of us. It's time to get off the couch and get moving. Joining me today is children’s author Russ Rogers. Russ has written a new children’s book series called, The Today...
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Creating the Next Generation of Change Makers with Author Amelie Anastasia [Ep.784]
As one of the youngest philanthropists in the country and children’s author, ten-year-old Amelie Anastasia is chasing her dreams and accomplishing things most adults have only dreamt about. Amelie wrote her first book at the age of eight and now has just released her third book, Wolf Tales.…
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New Year's Eve FOMO: Avoid the Letdown and Hype and Start a Fresh Year. [Ep. 783]
Are you feeling New Year’s Eve FOMO creeping in? Every year, all the pomp and circumstance leading up to New Year's celebrations can make us feel like we are missing out. Some of us love the evening, and others deplore it. Perhaps you used to love it, but as time has gone on, you have realized…
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Eliminate Self-Limiting Beliefs with Inner Child Work [Ep: 782]
Self-Limiting beliefs hold us back, creating life obstacles that impair our ability to cultivate healthy relationships, pose a barrier to understanding and embracing our true identity, and stands in the way of our personal success. Our self-limiting beliefs lead to patterns of self-sabotage that...
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Are you a Victim of Narcissistic Future Faking and False Hope? [Ep.781]
False hope makes you more vulnerable to manipulation and emotional triggers from a narcissist. Understanding how false hope works is crucial otherwise, it often leads us to lose our identity and life goals. The narcissist will use future faking in an attempt to manipulate and control you, making...
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The Pain and Struggle of Leaving a Toxic Relationship. [Ep.780]
Being in a toxic relationship is painful but even more painful is trying to free yourself from the relationship and move on with your life. Telling your friends and family about the relationship can be helpful until they begin to question why you are still in the relationship. They have heard you...
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Is the Narcissist Baiting You? [Ep.779]
Narcissists have a unique ability to manipulate and trigger you to get the supply they crave, often without you even realizing it's happening. This powerful form of manipulation can leave you feeling out of control, as they repeatedly push your buttons and bait you into doing things you would not...
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Safe Emotional Expression with Your Child Begins Here! [Ep.778]
Reconnecting with your Inner child, overcoming personal fears, putting yourself out there, helping children to express their feelings, and the Adventures of Snuggs. On today’s show, I’m thrilled to speak with author Ashley Donegan. Ashley has recently published her book, Adventures of Snuggs,...
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Real Love or Trauma Bond? The 7 Stages of a Trauma Bond. [Ep.777]
On today’s show, we will dive into the concept of trauma bonds, exploring what they are and how to understand them. We’ll break down the seven stages of trauma bonding and learn how to distinguish a trauma bond from real love. Additionally, we’ll examine why some individuals are more vulnerable…
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Black Sheep Versus the Golden Child in Family Dynamics. [Ep.776]
Are you the black sheep or the golden child of your family? Your role within the family can significantly shape your experiences and relationships. What parental dynamics led to this structure? As we age, how does this dynamic change? As young children, we often don’t realize whether we are the...
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Navigating Uncertainty: Coping with Aging Parents and Life's Challenges. [Ep.775]
Our thoughts often revolve around where we are, what we're facing, and the uncertainties of the future. We may wonder what will happen to us, our friends, or our aging parents. Fear of the unknown can creep in, especially if we're an only child or only responsible adult child with all of these...
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Identify & Understand Love Bombing: Protect yourself from Fake Love. [Ep.774]
Love bombing and real love are two completely different things. The scariest part of being love bombed is that most of us don't know we're being love bombed. On this episode of the podcast, I’ll address what is love bombing, the phases of love bombing, the signs and symptoms of being a victim of...
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Childhood Lost: The Effects of Living with a BPD Parent [Ep.773]
When we are raised in an environment with a parent who has the signs and symptoms of BPD, we do not realize the impact that it has on our daily lives. As children, we often had no idea what was going on with mom or dad. One minute everything seemed great and the next minute it felt as though we...
About this show
Our personal relationships are extremely important and being able to navigate them properly is paramount for our safety, well-being, and overall happiness. We may find ourselves in a challenging family dynamic, complicated marriage or relationship, and all the while working to gain a clearer picture of what we want in our life and what makes us tick. The better we understand human nature, self-centered personalities, passive aggressive behavior, personality disorders including narcissism and borderline, the better we equip our lives centered around knowledge and personal empowerment. The more we center ourselves around healthy companionship, family, friends, and co-workers, the more time we have to work on ourselves to be the best version of us! This show is dedicated to anyone who has had enough of manipulation, gaslighting, and others trying to control them through manipulative tactics including the silent treatment and passive aggressive behavior. Instead of finding yourself
Hosted by
Ashley Berges