Staying With a Hijackal Out of Guilt and Duty? Unhealthy Reasons!

I know. You don't want to be accused, or accuse yourself, of abandoning a person. You especially don't want to be accused of abandoning a person in need.#Hijackals are always in need: in need of you to use, misuse, and abuse. Does that make you want to stay? I hope not.Would you tell your best friend to stay in a situation like yours? Hmmmm....pause for thought, right?I'm Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, and I work with individuals and couples from many countries through videoconferencing and I say:"You cannot remain in a strained relationship with no conceivable healthy future out of a sense of duty, obligation, shame, or guilt." Do you understand that?Will you allow yourself to believe that?Will you, then, entertain the idea that guilt, obligation, and duty are NOT reasons to stay in an unhealthy relationship?I hope so.Today's episode is a little hard-hitting--maybe--but that may be what you need today. You may be in the excuse-making business, and there is no profit in that.Got that? THERE IS NO PROFIT IN THE EXCUSE-MAKING BUSINESS! ----------------------------------------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you may be reluctant to leave a difficult personWhy you make excuses for another person's behavior too longSteps to take to making clear decisions about a relationshipHow to know when it's time to foldWhy you're not a bad person when you want to leave a person who treats you badlyUnderstanding the needs of a #narcissist to win You'll find that in many other episodes of this podcast, and on my YouTube channel, too.Enjoy my other podcast, Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, here, or wherever you like to find your podcasts.Listen to today's episode, and, if by chance, you're still wondering if you have had a #Hijackal in your life, grab myFREE EBOOK, How to Spot a Hijackal® at Hijackals.com . You need to know what's up now, so you don't make mistakes that will hurt you. Grab it!#stayingoutofguilt #leavinganarcissist #whyleaveanarcissist #hijackals #changeanarcissist #changeasociopath #saveyoursanity #Hijackals #verbalabuse #passive-aggressive #toxicpeople #emotionalabuse #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulativepeople #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #toxicpeopleSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.