Stop Feeding His Sobriety: A Survival Manual

Stopping Him From Drinking Isn’t My Job: 5 Things I Quit Doing Host Jennifer Randall-Young introduces The Life with an Alcoholic, a show focused on the woman managing life alongside an alcoholic partner, and shares that after eight years trying to make her husband stop drinking she realized “stopping him from drinking is not actually my job.” She describes five things she stopped doing: buying alcohol, pouring his drinks, letting him drive, narrating/explaining him to others, and researching his alcoholism late at night, and explains what returned when she stopped her nervous system, her opinions, her laugh, and her attention. She reframes the key question from how to make him stop drinking to what she is spending her attention on, calling the effort unpaid labor. She promotes a free “reality check” assessment, her book Life With An Alcoholic, and a $27 course, The Impossible Choice, and encourages viewers to stop doing one of the five things this week. 00:00 Welcome and Who This Is For 00:34 The Moment I Quit Managing 02:57 Stop Buying Alcohol 03:57 Stop Pouring His Drinks 05:16 No More Driving 05:47 Stop Covering for Him 06:43 Stop Late Night Research 08:00 What You Get Back 09:47 The Attention Reframe 10:17 Book and Next Steps 10:59 One Thing to Do This Week 12:00 Help Choosing Stay or Go 12:46 You Are Not Crazy 13:46 Final Wrap and Resources