Stop Outsourcing Your Emotions: Healing Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and the Nervous System with Béa Albina

What if your perfectionism isn’t a flaw — it’s a survival strategy? In this episode of Say It Out Loud, Vasavisits down with the brilliant and unfiltered Béa Albina — UCSF-trained nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified life coach, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing. Together, they unpack why so many high-achieving women are still trapped in people-pleasing cycles, how our nervous systems are wired for self-abandonment, and why “just breathe” isn’t always the answer. Béa breaks down the science behind Emotional Outsourcing — her term for the unconscious ways we hand our power, peace, and self-worth to everyone but ourselves — and how to finally come home to your body, your truth, and your voice. If you’ve ever said yes when you meant no, this episode is your wake-up call. Connect with Béa: Instagram → @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp Book → End Emotional Outsourcing (out September 2025) Website → beatrizalbina.com Connect with Vasavi: Instagram → @mynameisvasavi | Learn more → vasavikumar.com Send us Fan Mail Support the show ASK VASAVI A QUESTION Send me the question you can't ask anybody else. I answer one on every episode. Anonymously, always. https://vasavikumar.com/askvasavi STOP WATERING YOURSELF DOWN My training on how to say what you actually think out loud and get paid for it. https://vasavikumar.com/training THE OUT LOUD SCHOOL My membership community. Holistic on camera training, inside and outside. Most training only works on how you sound. This one starts with what your body is doing before you open your mouth. https://vasavikumar.com/theoutloudschool 🎧 LISTEN TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts → https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/say-it-out-loud-with-vasavi/id1366384837 Spotify → https://open.spotify.com/show/40Gh9jTmDUpc4x8GMR5IyH 📲 FIND ME Website → https://www.vasavikumar.com Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/mynameisvasavi The book → https://www.vasavikumar.com/orderthebook