Stop Owning What Isn’t Yours And Start Seeing Clearly

Contact us by whatsapp on +447485622662- let us know what you think of this episode. Ever feel like every problem at work lands on your desk and somehow becomes your fault? We go straight at that myth with a candid look at how stress narrows our lenses and turns systemic dysfunction into personal shame. From shifting goalposts and unclear expectations to politics, cliques, and conflict-avoidant managers, we unpack why capable women end up doing the team’s emotional admin—and how to stop carrying what was never yours.We start by creating distance: imagine your current situation playing on a cinema screen. From that vantage point, the patterns get loud—interruptions, information gatekeeping, double standards, and the quiet expectation that you will smooth things over after others make the mess. We draw bright lines between feedback and control, collaboration and compliance, and offer practical ways to reset norms: clarify expectations, document agreements, and right-size your load without apologizing for it.We also take on the hard truths. Sometimes speaking up does get punished, which is why “just be confident” is lazy advice. Instead, we map a strategy that blends courage and context: identify your risks, find allies, choose channels, and zoom out over a year to decide what truly matters. Do you want to remember a year spent shrinking, or a year spent staying yourself—even when it was uncomfortable? That’s the heart of sustainable leadership and the path to becoming a role model who leaves clear footprints for others to follow.Ready to trade self-erasure for clarity and boundaries that stick? Hit follow, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review to tell us one norm you refuse to normalize anymore. Your progress counts—no matter the pace.The contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. If you have a specific health concern or condition, please consult a qualified Healthcare professional for more details. Check out herguru dot uk forward slash disclaimersSupport the showIf this episode helped, please share it with someone who needs a calmer five minutes:https://followthepodcast.com/workstressanxietyIf you'd like to support the podcast, leaving a review genuinely helps other overwhelmed humans find it without having to survive another "10x your mindset" podcast first:https://lovethepodcast.com/workstressanxietyGot feedback, a question, or a future episode suggestion?https://podcastfeedback.com/workstressanxietyWork Stress Anxiety by ABGW is part of HerGuru Hypnotherapy and Coaching™ and grounded in the ABGW Method®.Calm first. Reality first. Then change.™Connect with Cheryl ParisLinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/cherylparis/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/abgwblogShared stories are anonymised.This podcast is provided for educational and self- reflective purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, legal, workplace, or professional advice.Disclaimer:https://herguru.uk/disclaimers/© Cheryl Paris. Copyright 2026. All rights reserved.