Stop Tweaking, Start Thriving: How to Overcome Perfection Paralysis

Are you struggling to overcome perfection that shows up as constantly tweaking your website, second-guessing your program prices, or obsessing over every email before hitting send? In this eye-opening episode, we explore how perfectionism isn't just a personality quirk – it's an old achievement wound that's blocking your business flow. Show Notes | Transcript "Perfectionism isn't just a personality quirk or a trait of Virgos like myself. It's actually an old achievement wound that is blocking your business flow." - Gloria "Grace" Rand  As a fellow Virgo and recovering perfectionist, I share my personal journey of overcoming self-doubt and the circumstances that led me to strive for perfection. We'll examine how childhood experiences, societal pressures, and other factors contribute to this achievement wound, and how it manifests in our businesses. Discover how to: Recognize the signs of perfectionism in your business practices Understand the difference between striving for excellence and perfectionism Implement practical tools to heal your achievement wound Embrace imperfection as a pathway to growth and authenticity Key insights include: How perfectionism stifles divine guidance and impacts various aspects of your business The importance of self-compassion in overcoming perfectionist tendencies Why letting go of perfection can actually inspire and embolden others Practical strategies for setting realistic standards and managing your time effectively I also share a personal invitation to join our podcast community, where you can connect with like-minded entrepreneurs and share your experiences in overcoming perfectionism. Whether you're a seasoned business owner or just starting out, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tools to help you break free from the perfectionism trap and create a more authentic, thriving business. Tune in to start your journey towards embracing imperfection and living fully, loving deeply, and engaging authentically! Resources: Overcome self-doubt and embrace your brilliance at Align to Shine Academy: aligntoshineacademy.net Join the Live. Love. Engage. Podcast Community: LiveLoveEngage.com Receive daily inspirational email messages: bit.ly/LoveLightNotes Need support? Go to engagewithgloria.com to schedule a call. Connect with Live Love Engage: Send Gloria Grace a message ☕ Support the podcast ❤ Love this episode? Leave us a review and rating LinkedIn: Gloria Grace Rand Facebook: Gloria Grace Rand YouTube: Gloria Grace Rand TRANSCRIPT Stop it. Stop trying to be perfect. Do the best you can. Get out there and shine your light in the world. There are people out there that need you. They need what you have to offer. I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the L.O.V.E. Method and author of the number one amazon best seller Live. Love. Engage. - how to stop doubting yourself and start being yourself. In this podcast, we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective on how to live fully, love deeply, and engage authentically so you can create a life and business with more impact, influence and income. Welcome to Live. Love. Engage. Namaste. If you are tired of spending hours tweaking your website, second guessing your program prices, or maybe obsessing over every email before hitting that send button, well, today's episode is for you because we're going to be diving into how perfectionism isn't just a personality quirk or a trait of Virgos like myself. It's actually an old achievement wound that is blocking your business flow. And if you stick around, you're going to get some practical tools to be able to heal that. But first, I want to welcome you to Live Love Engage, especially if this is your first time. I am Gloria Grace, the founder of Align to Shine Academy, and I work with spiritually minded women entrepreneurs, helping them break free from self doubt and really step into their highest potential. And I am quite familiar with self doubt. This is, this is definitely something that I've had to overcome in my life. And one reason is because it does fuel perfectionism, which I'm already naturally inclined to be one, you know, to be a perfectionist, because I, I am a Virgo. I was born in September and I also had other circumstances that caused me to want to strive to be the best, be perfect in different areas. And part of it is because of my upbringing. I did grow up in a, you know, a household that, you know, God bless both my parents, God rest their souls. My dad was a, was an alcoholic and my mom could be verbally abusive from time to time. And so there was a lot of stress and in my house growing up and so having older, having an older brother or sister and seeing how they navigated well, or let's say, the tension and fights, frankly, that they would get into with my mom. I decided that my best course of action to survive in the Johnson household, my maiden name is Johnson, would be to be a good girl, you know, do my best not to screw up and, you know, get good grades and just be an overachiever and you know, that, that. Well, it's definitely, it helped a bit. Pretty much got through my, my childhood pretty well. And, but of course then it carries on into adulthood and then, you know, in my business and then that didn't always work out, which we're going to talk about in a little bit about how that manifests itself certainly for me and how it manifests itself for lots and lots of other amazing entrepreneurs out there. So I want to also make you aware. Trauma is certainly one cause of what's called perfectionism is really, it's a symptom of an achievement wound really. And so there, there are other things that can cause this. I mean, one is just society's pressure to succeed. Especially, you know, I think even women in particular, we get caught up in this because frankly, it's still a man's world. And so we're, you know, trying to be able to compete in a man's world. And so sometimes we, we feel this really pressure to overachieve because of that, you know, trying to break through the glass ceiling. Certainly if you're in the corporate world, it's, it's, it's tough and, you know, women have made some strides, but it's, it's not, not coming very easily. And it's, it seems like we're just all, we're sliding backwards, frankly, the next few years. It's, it's going to be interesting to see how things play out. Economic pressures as well, because again, you know, to help you want to be able to succeed. A lot of, you know, families out there with, with kids that both parents have wound up having, needing to work in order to support their families. Other things that can happen now, again, my mom was, I don't know if she was exactly a perfectionist parent. She was just, she was under stress, so let's say that. But I know there are these perfectionist parents, especially, I know, in some particular cultures where you, you know, they put a lot of pressure on their kids to succeed and, you know, to get all A's. I mean, an A minus isn't even acceptable. So there's a lot of that sometimes comparing, you know, comparing one child to another child or comparing it to peers. I mean, sometimes that happens in school. You know, it's like teachers might compare you to, maybe even to a, to a sibling that they had, they taught before or just to other, other people in the classroom. So that's kind of some of the causes of it. And, you know, there's, there's definitely others, but I wanted to, I think those are some of the more common ones that show up. And so let's show up. Let's get my tongue to work. Let's talk about how that shows up in business. How does that, how does that show up? Well, as I mentioned at the beginning, it's, it's things like endless tweaking. You know, whether it's tweaking your website before you officially have it go online. I've, I've known other business owners who, who just keep, you know, working on it and working on it and working on it instead of just saying, okay, it's. It's good enough. For now, I can fix it later because that's the thing. You, you can always go back in and update things, but just get it out there. I mean, right now, here's a perfect example of me. So I'm getting ready to run my align to Shine Academy again in a few weeks and I ran it a couple of months ago and so I had a landing page all set up for that. And then after the first group of women went through it, they gave me some feedback. And so I've been going in and making changes to that landing page and I still made some changes to it today because, you know, there were things I wanted to tweak. But it's out there. You know, somebody can go out there and look at it right now. You can go to aligntoshineacademy.net and see it. Right now it's available. In fact, you know, if you would like to overcome self doubt and want to sign up an early bird special going on right now so you could do that. But the point is, is that I didn't just wait to even launch the program until it was perfect. I made it clear to the people who signed up for it that this is a work in progress. I need your feedback to help me make it better. And so I did the best I could and they gave me some great feedback and now I know that this next iteration is going to be a lot better. Okay, so that's, that's, that's one, one way that it shows up. There's lots of other things. Difficulty celebrating wins, you know, you know, you don't give yourself enough credit for having, having something good happen in your business or you're over complicating simple systems or, or yeah, now this is one for me. Resistance to delegating. Now I know especially when you, if you are a solopreneur and when you start your business, sure you want to do everything yourself. Your business is your baby. I get it. I felt that way too. And at a certain point, if you really want to keep growing and serving more people,...