SWM 054 – Anal sex without lube, “team sex”, a husband who cannot be emotionally intimate, and body piercings

Anal sex without lube, “team sex”, a husband who cannot be emotionally intimate, and body piercings. Check out the show notes here for more details and links. If you’re new here, I try to monthly answer questions from our anonymous Have A Question page As I have no way to contact these people, there’s no context other than what they give, and I can’t ask any follow up questions. So, we do our best to answer with what we have. These are the questions we received in February. What can I do to become more comfortable with masturbating? My husband is gone, so finding a person that can help me become more comfortable is out of the question. I just don't like doing it. There isn't really any kind of interest in it. It takes A LOT to get me turned on to even start and it is almost impossible to be able to orgasm at all. What can I do? I try porn, I try reading sex letters from my husband, why is it so hard to orgasm? I'm not fully comfortable with myself. Never have been and I can't stop from being that way either. Because in my eyes my body is disgusting in some parts so I find myself undesirable. Even if someone tells me otherwise because people lie every day. This isn’t the answer you’re going to want, but I’m going to give it anyways. I don’t think you should get more comfortable masturbating alone. Personally, I believe that God made sex to be shared in a committed, life-long relationship, that it should be a shared experience, each and everytime, with that person. Of course, when that person dies, that leaves an ache, of course. It’s felt emotionally as well as physically for some. Yet, I still believe that the counsel of “sex is for marriage” persists. In fact ,there is a passage in 1 Timothy 5 that I would say suggests that if you are a widow and still have these passions, you should seek out a new husband.