"That's Just Not For Me"

Send us Fan MailHave you ever forced yourself to like something just to avoid the guilt of admitting you don't?In this episode, I open up about a conversation with my girlfriend that completely changed how I think about "self honesty".  We were talking about the Podcast when she said out loud and very matter of fact " I don't like the Ayurveda stuff you talk about it. Ayurveda, or however you pronounce it, is not for me, I don't like it".I am not going to lie, I was taken back, she didn't say it It wasn’t rude, it was just a matter of fact, she wasn’t apologizing, she was just simply telling me that Ayurveda is not for her, she doesn’t like it. I had to laugh because this is also a woman who doesn’t like massages!  We clearly have different tastes.Anyway, I talk about why we feel guilty for disliking things, why elimination deserves to be celebrated just as much as addition, and how clarity about your dislikes actually helps the people who love you know the real you.I also get into lifestyle, your weekends your health habits, social life, and why you cant built a sustainable lifestyle around things you secretly don't like.The goal is never to like everything. The goal is to know yourself enough to know what you don't like, what isn't for you.I’ve come to  really appreciate people who know themselves enough to know ,and say out loud, what they don’t like.  At first it may catch you off guard, but when you see it for what it is;Its self-awareness, its confidence , and it’s an honesty that most of us never get comfortable with.Remember; Not liking something isn’t a flaw in your personality, it’s a Data Point. Its Clarity.I’ve come to  really appreciate people who know themselves enough to know, and say out loud, what they don’t like.  At first it may catch you off guard, but when you see it for what it is;Its self-awareness, its confidence , and it’s an honesty that most of us never get comfortable with.Remember; Not liking something isn’t a flaw in your personality, it’s a Data Point. Its Clarity.Guilt will tell you that you should like more things. But the goal is not about liking everything. The goal is to know yourself. And part of knowing yourself is being honest about what doesn’t fit, without apologizing for it.We celebrate discovery. We should start celebrating discernment too.Because Liking everything makes you agreeable . But, Knowing yourself makes you knowable.My friend was not rejecting Ayurveda. She was accepting herself.She knew it wasn’t for her and there is something really peaceful about that.One of the healthiest relationships you will ever have is the one you build with yourself. And that relationship begins the moment you're honest about what fits you, and what doesn't.If you need permission to stop pretending you like things you don’t. Say out loud..That’s not for me. And say it.. _without guilt_without apology_and Without feeling like you have to explain yourself.You don’t need anyone’s permission. But, if you are waiting for it..This is it.Enjoy!Joanne DemersThe Aging Mask- A lifestyle Medicine Podcast(949) 236-1529Follow along on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/theagingmask