The 3 Essentials to a Lasting Relationship

How do you love someone you don’t respect? You can’t. Without respect, love cannot survive. That is why love is not on my list of the three things that make a relationship last the test of time. Love is the prerequisite. Without these three, it doesn’t stand a chance. It gets crushed like a bug. At best, it’s lust. This week I lay out the three essentials of a relationship of a lifetime, according to TShay Coaching: mutual respect, real commitment, and mutual goals. Why there are lines you never cross no matter how angry you are. Why we model behavior for each other, and what my friend did when her husband’s neatness was a disease. What commitment actually means (I choose you again and again, every day, all other doors closed) and why insecurity is the root of so much evil in relationships. And why two people who love each other can still be a recipe for disaster if they want completely different things out of life. In this episode: Why love is a prerequisite, not a pillar The lines you never cross, even in rage Name calling, cursing, attacking relatives: what erodes respect We model behavior for each other The husband whose neatness was a disease Commitment: I choose you again and again Insecurity, and why a real commitment makes it disappear Mutual goals: the squirrel over the campfire The foodie and the back roads guy The three questions to ask at a crossroads Twenty nine years married, and the question of children Chapters: 0:00 Intro 0:38 Three essentials, and love is not one of them 2:22 Pillar one: mutual respect 3:11 The lines you never cross 5:26 We model behavior for each other 6:29 The husband whose neatness was a disease 7:51 Pillar two: commitment 8:36 Insecurity, the root of so much evil 12:10 Pillar three: mutual goals 13:10 The foodie and the back roads guy 14:56 At the crossroads: three questions 16:53 Twenty nine years married 17:45 Closing 19:03 Outro If you are at a crossroads, don’t just think about it. Go to Instagram, find me at @journeytolastinglove, and comment the word ENOUGH. I’ll send you my free guide.