The '40s Formula' for Breaking Cycles of Resentment and Stress | The Forties Formula

In this episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with Leila Foster, Behaviour Change Strategist and Wellness Architect, to explore why lasting change can be so difficult, even when we genuinely want it.They explore why our brains return to familiar patterns, how chronic stress affects our ability to change, why expectations create resentment, and how to recognise when a trigger isn't actually about you.Finally, Leila shares her 40s formula: stop doing what you're told, make micro-adjustments, know your season, hold your paradox, ask for help, and never outsource your decisions.Chapters:00:00 — Why knowing isn't enough to create change02:17 — Your nervous system on a normal Tuesday04:01 — “Is it about you?”05:30 — Expectations, stress and resentment08:17 — The biology of inherited patterns11:08 — Why knowing isn't the same as changing11:43 — Stress, the brain and old programming15:03 — Neuroplasticity and the six pillars of wellness15:55 — Is the problem the fish or the fish tank?16:43 — Breaking out of emotional spirals21:35 — What happens during 9D Breathwork25:09 — Why the same experience affects us differently26:32 — When breathwork isn't the answer28:58 — Divorce and building a blended family31:40 — Finding a healthier relationship dynamic35:05 — Sharing the parenting load39:16 — Running a business with your spouse42:20 — Working together when you're fighting44:15 — The calendar invite that can save a relationship45:54 — Why “we'll talk tomorrow” doesn't work47:00 — Leila's 40s Formula47:07 — Stop doing what you're told48:10 — Embrace the micro-adjustments48:50 — Balance isn't 50/5050:13 — Become a student of your own body51:07 — Hold your paradox52:13 — Ask for help and don't outsource your decisionsAbout our guestLeila Foster is a Behaviour Change Strategist and Wellness Architect working at the intersection of behaviour change, wellness and nervous-system regulation. She helps people understand the patterns that keep them stuck and create lasting change.About your hostsJasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/Support the podcastIf you enjoy these conversations, subscribe and share this episode with someone navigating stress, motherhood, relationships or change.You can also support the show by Buying Us a Coffee:https://the-forties-formula-with-amanda-jasmin.kit.com/products/buy-us-a-coffeeThank you to our sponsorsFor YouthSupport your skin, recovery, sleep and longevity with The Forties Formula System. Use code TF35 for up to 35% off storewide.https://www.foryouth.co/go/the-forties-formula-systemLove IndusUse code TFF for 21% off.https://loveindus.com