The Biggest Communication Mistake You Don't Know You're Making

Ten and something years ago, I saw myself as the patient, longsuffering victim of my clueless, insensitive husband’s harsh communication.  And did he feel it?  Yes, he did.  But I was making a mistake I had no idea I was making.  And I was doing it all the Fraggle Rockin’ time.  And you might be doing it too.  And it’s ok.  We genuinely have no reason at all to believe we’re doing anything wrong.In fact, we have the following three reasons to believe we’re absostankin’lutely in the right!Check these out!Number 1. We are speaking in a perfectly calm, collected, patient, Strawberry Fields Forever kind of voice!  How could we possibly be in the wrong?  “Honey, I told you about Tanner’s piano recital three weeks ago.” Just listen to that warm good-naturedness.  So affable! Julie Andrews and Mother Teresa are more wrong than us!Number 2. We are speaking the Honest to Paul McCartney truth!  He is remembering wrong.  He is in denial. We are speaking the shining, unvarnished, glorious resplendent truth.  It is a verified fact that we told them about Tanner’s piano recital three weeks in advance, and we have the text convo to prove it. No fault here. No way, no how, nowhere, no place. And…Number 3.  Self care.  The hallmark virtue of the 21st century.  We speak up for ourselves.  WE are not to be trifled with, gaslighted, manipulated, slandered or pushed around.  We are woman, hear us roar.  Everyone knows it would be wrong to NOT point out that we had already told him about Tanner’s piano recital.  We would be betraying ourselves and the entire cause that the suffragettes risked their lives for!  Being heard!I rest my case.  There is no way we are possibly in the wrong.  He is the backward dunderhead with the problem.So what could possibly be the mistake?Find out in this episode.Coming soon, in my free Facebook group, Wives Changing Lives, a detailed training on this very hot subject, with accompanying mini workbook.Please message me if you’d like to join the group and get in on the action. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bethechangeinyourmarriage.substack.com