The Compassion Cup vs. The Identity Cup: A Marriage Game-Changer

In this episode, we continue our conversation about changing how we show up in conflict by focusing on the choice we have in how we respond to our spouse’s pain. When your spouse shares hurt, are you holding out your compassion cup, or are you holding out your identity cup? We explore how defensiveness often signals that we’re interpreting their pain through the lens of our own identity and fears, rather than listening with genuine compassion. The truth is, we can only find our identity in God, not in how our spouse’s emotions reflect on us. Tune in as we discuss how to let go of defensiveness, embrace vulnerability, and choose compassion in the midst of conflict to build a stronger, more loving connection.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn