Marriage Lab

Most people think the “never enough” voice in their head is the thing keeping them motivated.The voice that says:You should be doing more.You’re behind.You’re wasting time.You should be further along by now.But here’s the plot twist: that voice isn’t unique to you.Almost everyone hears it.The difference is not who hears it. The difference is who builds their life around it.The question is whether you’ve mistaken it for wisdom.In this episode, we unpack the sneaky way self-contempt disguises itself as responsibility, ambition, discipline, or drive. We talk about why so many people accidentally partner with an inner critic they think is helping them succeed—while constantly moving the finish line and dismissing their growth.We also explore:• why high-capacity people are especially vulnerable to this mindset• the difference between healthy conviction and chronic internal criticism• how the “never enough” voice fuels burnout, shame, comparison, and hopelessness• why progress becomes invisible when contempt is your measuring stick• how curiosity creates transformation more effectively than self-hatred ever willOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Emotionally raw seasons can heighten everything—especially the desire to feel seen, known, and secure.In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to build a preventative habit of anchoring your identity in God first, rather than turning to others to define your worth in vulnerable moments. Over time, you begin to realize that where you go for reassurance in hard seasons shapes not only your peace, but your relationships.This conversation is about learning to navigate those seasons with more stability, more clarity, and less unnecessary mess along the way.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Ever ask gradually big relationship question in the middle of an argument… and then regretted the answer?In this episode, we break down a common (but damaging) pattern:asking life-defining questions when someone is emotionally triggered.What it often looks like 👇• “Why didn’t you invite me?”→ “Do you have more fun with them?”→ “So you don’t have fun with me?”→ “Do you even enjoy being around me?”→“Do you even like me?”→ “Are you happier without me?”→ “Is something wrong with us?”→ “Do you even want this relationship?”😬 See how fast it escalates?We unpack:• Why triggered brains give exaggerated, painful answers• The “staircase” of escalation most couples fall into• The difference between curiosity vs. panic-driven questioning• What’s actually happening in your brain (emotional flooding + amygdala hijack)• Why you’re not “getting clarity”… you’re digging for painAnd most importantly—the simple habit that protects your relationship:👉 Don’t ask big questions when someone is triggered.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation more hurt than helped, this episode will give you a better path:pause → regulate → return to clarity.Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Phone calls with your spouse should be simple… so why do they so often go sideways?In this episode, we unpack the subtle dynamics that quietly derail connection:• unspoken expectations• not checking if the other person even has capacity• unclear intentions (are we connecting or handling logistics?)• hoping for something deeper… without saying it...and the hurt that builds when your spouse can’t show up the way you needed—especially in the middle of a workdayWhat starts as a quick call can quickly spiral into misunderstanding, frustration, or even conflict that leaks into the rest of your day.The good news? Most of this is preventable.We walk you through a simple 3-step framework to help you:• set clear expectations• honor each other’s capacity• and actually get what you need out of the conversationSo your phone calls stop feeling like landmines… and start becoming small, consistent moments of connection (or pure logistics exchange) again.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we unpack one of the most practical distinctions we teach: the difference between a need and a strategy. A need is a relational longing: connection, safety, being seen, being prioritized. A strategy is your idea of how that need should get met: date night, quicker texts, no phones at night, doing the dishes before sitting down.The problem is, most of us accidentally disguise strategies as needs… and that’s where control sneaks in. We talk about why that feels so painful (for both people), how “requests” turn into “demands” when there’s punishment attached, and why collaboration creates way more buy-in than prescriptions ever will.We'll talk about how to peel back the strategy to name the real need underneath, so you can fight less about the method and connect more around the longing.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Sometimes self-awareness helps us grow… and sometimes it quietly gives us permission to stay exactly where we are.In this episode, we talk about the subtle ways insight can turn into self-justification—whether it’s personality types, triggers, habits, or even love languages—and how awareness is meant to become a starting point for transformation, not a comfortable resting place. We share stories from our own marriage about conflict avoidance, travel differences, stress habits, and learning how to let understanding lead to maturity rather than excuses.If you’ve ever heard the phrase, “That’s just how I am,” this conversation will help reframe awareness as an invitation to grow—one small, intentional step at a time.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

A story only God could write. 💔➡️❤️ Divorce, divine encounters, heart-level repentance, and a miraculous reconciliation.Listen to hear Amy's testimony of when God interrupts a story that felt finished.It will remind you all things are possible with Him. Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, Jenna is joined by her nine-year-old daughter, Rosie, for a sweet and surprisingly insightful conversation about what comfort looks like in their family. Together, they talk about the different “flavors of comfort” each family member needs when big emotions show up—whether that’s physical touch, someone staying close, space to process alone, or quiet presence. Rosie shares how she prefers space before reconnecting, while Jenna reflects on how having someone in the room can actually make it harder for her to notice what she’s feeling.The conversation is tender, honest, and full of Rosie’s natural charm. Toward the end, Jenna also shares a recent meaningful moment they experienced together with the Lord—offering a gentle invitation for parents to cultivate similar moments of connection, emotional safety, and spiritual openness with their own kids. This episode is both practical and heart-level, and a reminder that learning how we give and receive comfort can deepen our relationships in powerful ways.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Dopamine isn’t just about pleasure.It’s about seeking.Your brain lights up most when the reward isn’t guaranteed— when you’re searching, anticipating, scanning.This is why elementary kids around the country are stoked out of their minds when they encounter or hear 6,7. What can we learn here that could help us adults harness & grow our joy as we train our attention intentionally??Optimism isn’t just a personality trait. It’s a trained habit of attention.In this episode, we talk about: • the dopamine “hunt” • why unpredictability fuels motivation • how learned optimism actually works • and what faith has to do with training your brain to look for goodnessJoy doesn’t come from forcing positivity. It grows where attention is practiced.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Why do the same conflicts keep showing up in marriage—even when the topic keeps changing?In this episode, we talk about the power of naming your patterns: the emotional and relational loops that quietly drive conflict, disconnection, and reactivity. We share real examples from our marriage, parenting, and coaching work to show how awareness creates space between a trigger and your response.When you can name what’s happening inside you—passivity, shutdown, avoidance, mind-reading, or self-rejection—you gain more self-control, clarity, and freedom to choose a different response. This isn’t about suppressing emotions or fixing your spouse; it’s about growing self-awareness so you don’t keep making the same mess.If you want practical tools for breaking unhealthy patterns, regulating emotions, and creating healthier communication in your marriage, this episode will help you slow down, get curious, and choose differently.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Family visits are supposed to bring connection… but sometimes they bring exhaustion, awkward expectations, and a drained bank account.In this episode, we’re talking about what to do when the way you’re visiting family isn’t working anymore — and how to get creative about connection without spending a fortune. We’ll share our own story (including a few hard lessons from our in-laws 😅) and offer practical alternatives for families who live far apart: meeting in the middle, combining trips, camping, even serving together.If you’ve ever felt torn between your budget and your relationships, this episode will help you rethink what “showing up” can look like in this season.Click here to donate to our missions trip: Zint family linkTo grab Jenna's e-workbook>>  Peaceful Christmas PlannerOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Ever notice how easy it is to slip into a courtroom conversation? You start building a case in your head, stacking evidence, rehearsing your defense... all before you’ve actually asked a question.This week’s episode is about the habit that can stop that spiral before it starts: curiosity.When something feels off—at work, with your kids, or in your marriage—it’s tempting to assume motives or fill in missing details. But curiosity interrupts that pattern. It slows you down long enough to seek understanding before judgment.Because the goal isn’t to win an argument; it’s to keep connection.In this episode, we'll unpack: • why your brain fills in gaps (and gets the story wrong most of the time) • how to replace courtroom conversations with curious ones • a pre-confrontation filter that helps you pause before reactingListen to “But First, Curiosity: How to Avoid Courtroom Conversations” wherever you get your podcasts.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Please don't listen with your kids. Our case for scheduling sex.When life gets full—kids, work, ministry, and the endless to-do list—intimacy is often the first thing to slip through the cracks. We’re told sex should always be spontaneous, but in real marriages that can leave couples disconnected and frustrated.In this episode, we talk honestly about scheduling sex—why it isn’t cold or unromantic, but actually a powerful way to prioritize each other. We’ll unpack the myths around spontaneity, share how intentional rhythms can actually increase desire and connection, and give you practical tools for creating space for intimacy without guilt, pressure, or shame.If you’ve ever felt like the busyness of life is crowding out closeness, this conversation will help you reframe intimacy as something worth planning for—because a thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

We all scoff. We all slip into sarcasm. But what if those “little” habits aren’t as harmless as they seem? Research from the Gottman Institute shows that contempt — often disguised as casual teasing — is the single strongest predictor of death to connection (aka: divorce)Scoffing, sarcasm, and eye-rolling may feel small in the moment, but they send powerful messages of superiority, dismissal, and disrespect.In this episode, we unpack how these micro-habits of contempt impact the brain, erode safety, and poison connection in marriage. You’ll hear real-life examples of how scoffing and sarcasm sneak into everyday conversations, what’s really hiding underneath those jabs (hint: it’s often unspoken pain), and practical ways to replace contempt with curiosity and vulnerability.If you’ve ever said, “Oh, we’re just teasing,” this episode will help you see why even a few “drops of poison” can contaminate the well of your relationship — and how to choose a healthier, more life-giving way forward.We are giving you a 30 day Challenge: Weed out scoffing & sarcasm from your dialogue. See what a difference it makes. (Remember: don't use this challenge to start tallying how often your partner uses them- mind your half of the yard only :)Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Last time we talked about ruminating vs. processing. This week, I’m walking you through the how—practical steps to move through pain even if the other person doesn’t respond well.Here’s the framework:Notice your looping → instead, name the feelingUntangle your worth from their behaviorRemind yourself: I can be okay even if…Stay rooted in your power—choose your next stepLooping keeps you stuck, but processing sets you free.Podcasts Referenced in this episode: Quit Mind Reading (stop assuming, start asking) Offended? Check your boundariesOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Can you tell the difference between when your emotions are hijacking you & when they're helping you? Noticing and expressing our emotions is a good thing. In fact, it’s vital for a healthy marriage. But there’s a thin line between naming our emotions and over-identifying with them. That’s where we slip into rumination—looping on the hurt, replaying the offense, and assigning meaning that keeps us stuck.In this episode, we explore the difference between processing your emotions and looping on them. We’ll look at how the brain responds when you over-identify with a painful feeling, why that keeps you in the spin cycle of stress, and how to shift toward processing in a way that actually heals and moves you forward.You’ll learn:Why emotions are valuable signals, but sketchy narrators when you over-identify with themHow looping recycles pain, while processing frees you—even if your spouse doesn’t respond the way you hopedThe simple truth of “Looping hurts me. Processing heals me.”This episode is all about reclaiming the gift of emotion—without letting it hijack your peace.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode of Marriage Lab, Erin and Jenna dive into the do’s and don’ts of processing with your spouse—how to share what’s on your heart in a way that invites care instead of conflict. From everyday recaps to high-stakes conversations, they unpack why intentionality matters, how to check for capacity, and why leading with emotions creates connection. Along the way, they share practical “dos” like focusing on feelings, clarifying expectations, and processing elsewhere first—and the “don’ts” that can derail intimacy, like dumping endless details, seeking commiseration, or winging it in painful moments. They also illustrate how hope, grace, and the Holy Spirit are essential for real transformation in communication and marriage.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Think you’ve forgiven… but still feel stuck? You’re not alone.Most of us were never taught what real forgiveness looks like—just the performance of it. Say a prayer. Say the words. Move on. Except… we don’t.This episode will shift your view of forgiveness from a moment to a movement—one that actually sets you free.👇 We’ll cover: • The sneaky ways we fake forgiveness (without knowing it) • 6 reflection questions to assess where you really are • Tiny habits that rewire your brain + soften your heart • Why peace ≠ emotional distance • And how to know you’re actually healingThis isn’t about excusing anyone. It’s about refusing to let bitterness narrate your future.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity.We explore three subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways this happens: • When someone says it outright • When they imply it • When you infer itAnd then the spiral begins: – You feel like you have to prove your worth – You obsess over how they see you – You shut down, because it felt like a verdict, not just a comment🔍 We’ll challenge the dangerous trap of letting broken people vote on your value. 💡 And we’ll offer truth that anchors your identity in something unshakeable:“Your identity is untouchable. It’s not theirs to name—it’s already spoken by the One who made you.”If you've ever felt like someone else's opinion rewrote your sense of self, this conversation is for you.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Offense Isn’t Just Pain: It’s Pain + Pride We often think being offended is just another form of hurt—but it’s more than that. Offense is what happens when pain gets tangled with pride. It’s the moment pain hardens into judgment, and we start to feel powerful… while quietly becoming more closed off.In this episode, we unpack how offense feels like a defense mechanism—but actually keeps us stuck. You’ll learn how offense hijacks your brain’s ability to heal, why it loops like a highlight reel of your rightness, and what that reveals about identity, humility, and emotional maturity.You’ll hear real-life phrases that often sound self-protective (“I’m not mad, just done”) but are often signs of unchecked offense. You’ll also get a practical self-reflection tool to help you “spot the offense” and re-center on humility.Offense might feel like strength—but humility is where the healing begins.You’ll walk away with:- A breakdown of how offense affects your brain- Examples of what offense sounds like in everyday language- Questions to examine whether you’re stuck in an offense loop- Clarity on the difference between healthy boundaries and prideful withdrawalOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What if evangelism wasn’t about striving—but about overflow?In this special episode, I sit down with a few of my friends fresh off a missions trip to unpack what actually cracked the code for us when it came to sharing Jesus. Spoiler: it wasn’t a strategy—it was being so connected to the Father’s heart that love naturally led the way.We talk about what surprised us, what challenged us, and how everyday evangelism becomes possible when we’re moved—not pressured—by love.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What if the “peace” you’re protecting in your marriage… is actually costing you real connection?In this episode, we’re unpacking how passivity can disguise itself as love—especially in Christian marriages. We’ve seen it in our own relationship: moments when silence looked like patience, but it was actually fear. Times when we avoided conflict, convinced we were being kind or godly, but bitterness was the fruit.We explore:Why passivity is not the same as peacekeepingHow we can accidentally mislabel people-pleasing & call it love Why stuffing your voice for the sake of love can slowly erode intimacy3  self-reflection questions :💭 Is there a situation where I told myself I was “loving” or “being patient”… but now I feel resentful, bitter, or shut down?💭 Where am I avoiding action, conversation, or boundaries because I’m afraid of how someone will react?💭 Am I hoping someone else will just “get it” or change, while I silently keep score or build a case in my head?Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

What do you get when you mix a paddleboard, high expectations, and two humans with emotions?Definitely not the relaxing date we envisioned. But maybe... a deeper kind of win?This was not our best date… but maybe it was one of our best recoveries.We went on a paddleboard date thinking it’d be relaxing and fun—but being stuck on the same board triggered us both in different ways. Instead of letting the day spiral, we each practiced managing our own emotions without blaming the other. It wasn’t a romantic home run, but it was a huge sign of growth. In this episode, we talk about how emotional flooding can happen even in fun moments—and how the real win is learning to stay connected while dysregulated. Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered—it’s to grow in how you show up when you are.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we’re tackling a subtle but serious issue in marriage: isolation.What happens when your spouse becomes your only source of connection? Spoiler: it doesn’t lead to thriving.We talk about:Why consistent, same-gender friendships are crucial—especially for accountability, encouragement, and emotional healthHow couples slowly drift into “island mode” without realizing itThe specific ways isolation often impacts men vs. womenWhy expecting your spouse to meet all your relational needs (outside of Jesus) is too heavy—and how to shift that dynamicIf you’ve been feeling disconnected or overly dependent on your spouse for all of your emotional or spiritual needs, this episode is your invitation to make a gentle, healthy change.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

🎉 It’s our 16th anniversary, and apparently our marriage is now old enough to get its driver’s license. 😅But let’s be real— Even after 16 years, date night convo doesn’t always flow naturally (especially when we’re tired or parenting has fried our brains).So we decided to change that.💬 In this episode, we:Answer 16 intentional + fun questions—one for each year we’ve been marriedShare laughs, real talk, and a few surprise answersInvite you to ask the same questions on your next date night📝 Want the full list of questions to try with your spouse? Download the free Google Doc here 👉 [Click here]Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Not all breakthroughs come in a flash. In this episode, we talk about the kind of transformation that happens slowly—over months or even years. The kind you don’t always see until you look back and realize, we’re not where we used to be.We fully believe in sudden miracles. We’ve seen God move in dramatic ways. But in our own marriage, most of the lasting change has come through showing up when things felt stuck… choosing connection in the face of apathy… and staying present when it would’ve been easier to pull away.If you’re in a season where growth feels slow or invisible, this one’s for you.You might be in the middle of a miracle—you just haven’t seen the fruit yet.Call to Action: If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend or tag us on Instagram @zintmarriagelab. And if you’re walking through a slow season in your marriage, check out our coaching options at zintsquad.com—we’d love to support you.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we talk about the often-overlooked rhythm of re-entry—what it looks like when one spouse returns from a trip and the home dynamic shifts again. We share how we’ve learned to treat that adjustment period with extra care, tweak our habits, and give each other grace instead of expecting a seamless snap-back to normal. If you’ve ever had a rocky re-entry, this one’s for you. You just might walk away with a few new habits to try next time one of you heads out on a solo trip.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Birthdays—love them or dread them, they can be a surprisingly tense topic in marriage. 🎂 From unspoken expectations to last-minute letdowns, these special days often carry more emotional weight than we realize. In this episode, we’re diving into the highs and lows of celebrating birthdays with your spouse, sharing our own birthday wins and major misses over the years.You’ll hear about: ✅ The silent pressure & expectations that often ruin birthdays ✅ Why no one should be the designated party planner for life 🎉 ✅ How to openly communicate what you actually want for your birthday (without disappointment) ✅ A simple habit that can transform how you and your spouse handle celebrationsIf birthdays have ever felt like a minefield in your marriage, this episode is for you! Plus, we share some funny personal stories—including the time Aaron got Christmas-colored storage bins for Jenna as a birthday gift. 😬Listen in and learn how to make birthdays a joy instead of a battle!Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we’re tackling the hidden ways we sabotage our own connection in marriage—especially when we expect our spouse to read our minds. No matter what it is, waiting for them to magically meet our unspoken needs is a passive approach that creates distance instead of intimacy. We’ll explore why taking the risk to express what we truly need leads to deeper belonging, even when it feels vulnerable. Join us as we break down how to move past the fear of rejection and start building the connection you actually want.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we talk about our respective styles of processing how we are feeling. Aaron is an external processor, needing to externalize what's he's feeling in order to understand it. Jenna is an internal processor, needing time to internally mull over what she's feeling in order to understand it. These two different styles can make conflict unnecessarily difficult unless you know how to work with them. We'll share the growth paths for each to avoid the common pitfalls in relationship.Links from episode:Attachment Styles EpisodeThat's What She Said Tool EpisodeCore Emotion WheelOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we continue our conversation about changing how we show up in conflict by focusing on the choice we have in how we respond to our spouse’s pain. When your spouse shares hurt, are you holding out your compassion cup, or are you holding out your identity cup? We explore how defensiveness often signals that we’re interpreting their pain through the lens of our own identity and fears, rather than listening with genuine compassion. The truth is, we can only find our identity in God, not in how our spouse’s emotions reflect on us. Tune in as we discuss how to let go of defensiveness, embrace vulnerability, and choose compassion in the midst of conflict to build a stronger, more loving connection.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Most people use Courtroom tactic when in conflict in their marriage or in other relationships. In this episode we unpack why this strategy is ineffective for real transformation. We get stuck "lawyering up" and end up adding pain to the initial incident. In this episode, we talk about where the real power is for transforming your marriage. It's found in the counter-intuitive grace and mercy in the Kingdom and out of the courtroom. Do you really believe The Kingdom Jesus pitched in the sermon on the mount- has the power He claimed? If so- why are we not ditching our worldly attempts at navigating conflict for the upgrade that's available to us!Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

This episode is the third in a series on being triggered. So what do we do when our spouse is triggered? Well, we certainly don't tell them they're triggered. That never helps. Instead we get to offer our own peace and calm as we approach them with curiosity and compassion. And when we know we won't have that available to give, we use the "pause" that we would've agreed to back when we were both in a regulated state.Link to Order of Operation EpisodeOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Following up the last episode titled, "The Science of 'Triggered'", we talk about what the four most common triggered responses are (Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn), what they look like in action and ultimately what growth and healing looks likeOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

"Triggered" has become a buzzword in our culture in recent and it's been commonly used to describe an experience for which someone else is responsible and therefore someone else's responsibility to manage. In this episode, we break down the science of what's happening physiologically when we get triggered and the truth about what we're invited to into when it happens, especially in relationship to our spouses. Our self-awareness around our own triggered states is the first step to treating the people closest to us like Jesus would: in self-controlled, vulnerable love that is not full of connection-breaking self-protection.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we talk about how our connection with Jesus has grown and been shaped over the past year through small, consistent action.How to Build a Bible Habit That Sticks! - VideoCrisis of Faith episode - Marriage LabOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we talk about one of the central tenets to experiencing life-long sustainable change both within yourself and within your relationships: learning to engage your inner scientist instead of your judge. The judge is your inner critic focusing on the results, casting judgement and contempt towards who you are based on your behavior. The scientist is your inner curiosity focusing on the variables, looking for creative solutions for the underlying reasons behind your behavior.When we learn to choose curiosity over contempt, we find more solutions, but even better, we learn to engage ourselves and others with the kindness that God gives us that leads to sustainable change (Romans 2:4). Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we talk over how we intentionally plan for a peaceful holiday season when you both have different ideas about what that means. If you would like an assist in your planning grab a copy of Jenna's Peaceful Christmas PlannerSupport the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we discuss how often our logical conversations can turn into emotional ones and what to do when that happens. Refer to our episode: How to stop fighting over stupid stuffFor the Peaceful Christmas Planner, email [email protected]. Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we dive deep into the art of sharing pain with vulnerability and compassion. We also address the common challenge of feeling a deficit after sharing and how to turn to the Lord to fill those emotional gaps. This episode is packed with practical exercises and guidance to help you speak your pain effectively while maintaining love and connection in your relationship. Tune in for powerful strategies that can transform how you and your spouse communicate during difficult moments.Previous episode links: 7 Unhelpful Habits About Sharing Pain10 Helpful Habits About Sharing PainCore Emotion WheelOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

How many times has conflict in your marriage led to a huge blow up? One person starts off by trying to share their heart and an hour later you're both left with more hurt than where it started? There's a reason this happens. Most of the time it can be found when the order of operation is broken. The order of operation in math states that to find the correct answer to an equation, you must know what order to solve it in. When our conflicts go awry, there was likely a break in the proper order which is as follows: 1. One person is the designated speaker (let's say they are the ones holding the proverbial "talking stick"). They share their pain2. The other person is the designated listener (they are not holding the talking stick). Their sole responsibility is to validate and understand what they speaker is sharing.3. When the speaker feels heard and understood, then and only then should the talking stick be passed. And it must be passed by the speaker, not taken by the listener.In this episode we list the ways we commonly break the order of operation and leave the speaker feeling invalidated or unheard. See if you can recognize where you've broken the order so that you can catch it next time.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we interview Jill & Mitch Martin who’ve been empty nesters for the past 7 years and what connection has looked like for them before and after their kids left the house.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we talk about the culture shifting power of apologies; offering them freely and frequently. This is different than fawning which is apologizing for anything and everything in an attempt to appease or placate. This also different than admitting guilt or wrongdoing. The kind of freely-given, frequent apologies we're talking about are those that begin with a recognition that my actions affect my spouse. And there are plenty of scenarios in a given day when I miss the mark. Not because I sinned or had ill-intent, but because I'm human. It's an exercise in radical ownership that my actions and words are powerful and even when they are pure-intentioned, they may affect someone in a way they weren't meant to. Offering frequent and freely-given apologies, nurtures empathy and tells your spouse, I care how I affect you.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

This episode shares one of the simplest and yet most profound keys to changing the culture in your marriage. Gratitude. Now hear us out! We will share how gratitude provides one of the greatest ROI's in relationships, how we will face internal resistance to it, what it looks like to create practical habits and real life stories of it at work in our marriage.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, Jenna and Aaron share the secret sauce to seeing change in your marriage. It's simpler than you think. Just more humbling.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, Jenna and Aaron talk through a conflict they had that morning. This particular one was not a new dynamic in their relationship and had created disconnection many times before. However, this time they successfully paused in dysregulation, intentionally moved towards connection and set some boundaries.Main takeaways:If your buttons are getting pushed, remember, they are your buttons and you are responsible for themIf you are the one unintentionally pushing buttons, it's not your fault that they have those buttons, but choose kindness and stop pushingBoundaries are meant to protect the connection, not just yourself.Pausing when you get highly dysregulated (read: triggered, highly emotional) can keep your conflict from becoming War (war = for there to be peace, only one person can be right or win; conflict = for there to be peace, two people can see it differently)Nurturing fondness for your spouse through intentional gratitude can change your heart and lead to quicker connection when there is conflictOur Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode we explore the pitfalls of comparing your spouse to others and the negative impact it can have on your relationship. This comparison can create feelings of judgment and inadequacy, leading to a decline in positive affection and increasing resentment. By idealizing other people's spouses, you set unrealistic expectations and can inadvertently foster a sense of longing or even lust for qualities that are not present in your partner. This pattern is dangerous for creating, healing or maintaining connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of focusing on the positive attributes of your spouse and being mindful of how comparisons can erode the foundation of your relationship.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Take 10 week to invest in building better habits with Jenna's Mastery Course  <click to-register: open NOW>Class starts Oct 1, 2024-Can passivity be the silent killer in your marriage? In this episode, Aaron and Jenna get real about their own struggles with passivity, sharing how ignoring, avoiding, or delaying discomfort led to feelings of being stuck. Through candid personal stories, they shed light on how this behavior can evolve into rationalizations and bitterness, affecting everything from relationships to personal growth. Aaron also provides insight into his upcoming online small group for porn recovery, where passivity is a common issue, while Jenna talks about managing her impulsive reactions and learning to take measured, thoughtful actions.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

Take 10 week to invest in building better habits with Jenna's Mastery Course  <click to-register: open NOW>Class starts Oct 1, 2024-In this episode of Marriage Lab, Aaron and Jenna dive into the realities of maintaining a strong connection in marriage, especially during transitions and busy seasons. They share personal stories and insights on how small, consistent habits can significantly impact a marriage's health. They discuss how even brief disconnects, like those experienced during family trips or shifts in routines, can affect a relationship. The couple emphasizes the importance of being intentional in creating connection points, even if they are as simple as a short morning walk or sitting together outside. They also address common issues such as one partner feeling like they are always the one initiating connection and how to shift perspectives to maintain a proactive and hopeful approach to fostering intimacy. The episode offers practical advice on finding small but meaningful ways to stay connected, advocating for consistency over grand gestures.Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn

In this episode, we talk about our tells around defensiveness. What are the signs that we are becoming defensive as a listener, specifically when our spouse is sharing pain? Here are a few we identify within ourselves:The desire to edit the details of what the other person is sharingInterrupting the speakerJudging the speakers thoughts and/or feelingsFeeling anger (frustration, annoyance)Wanting to explain myselfThese are signs that our defenses our up and our ears and empathy is off. What are you tells around defensiveness?Finally, we talk about what to do with that defensiveness. Explore what you are actually defending to find out what needs attention within yourself!Our Pre-Marriage E-course is like coaching from your couch. What’s inside?✅ 6 bite-sized video sessions (30 min each)✅ 50-page workbook to guide real conversations✅ Topics on communication, conflict, intimacy, money & moreDon’t just plan your wedding—prepare for your marriage!➡️ Buy the course  [cl Support the show-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------GRAB Jenna's Summer Course Here >>> Become a sponsor of our shows <<<This helps Jenna & Aaron to continue to be able to prioritize making content for you! We appreciate it so much.Simply click on this link & you'll support both of the Zints' podcasts!!patreon.com/TheHabitLabCheck out our website ZintSquad.com for coaching individual and couple's coaching appointments, Online Small Groups, Aaron's book, Jenna's Habit Lab Mastery Course and more. Please review, subscribe and share your favorite episodes with a friend!Links:Online Small Group - Porn Recovery CourseCouples Coaching, Habit Coaching, Porn Recovery Coaching, Emotional & Relational Health CoachingBook: Numb to Known: The Surprising Path Away From Porn