the first pillar of self-esteem: the practice of living consciously

this week’s video is a deeper dive into the first pillar of self-esteem - the practice of living consciously!The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem x Being Hot & Having Fun Sentence Completion Exerciseshttps://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem-x-being-hot-having-fun-sentence-completionThe Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Brandenhttps://amzn.to/496J0SD (*) affiliate linkBaddie Book Club detailspatreon.com/amberakilla00:0001:44 - the first pillar of self-esteem04:42 - bringing awareness to our internal world07:32 - the practice of living consciously08:55 - radical self-acceptance for the human condition09:13 - you are the creator09:38 - being responsible towards reality10:23 - self-esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves10:40 - your opinion of yourself is more important than other people’s opinion of you11:45 - living consciously to overcome cringe12:25 - dealing with shame around envy and judgement12:43 - acting on what one sees and knows13:14 - creating mental space for your own unhingedness14:11 - being in the state appropriate to what you are doing14:57 - your purposes and values dictate the standard of selection16:00 - living responsibly towards reality16:10 - wishes, fears and denials do not alter facts17:57 - using your feelings to point to important facts rather than confusing feelings with facts18:19 - changing your relationship with your emotions19:04 - jealousy in friendships case study20:47 - alchemising jealousy into inspiration21:32 - what you perceive, what you interpret it to mean, how you feel about it23:41 - fear and pain being treated as signals23:51 - the earnest intention to be conscious23:54 - adjusting your actions to your goals24:18 - my first loyalty is to truth, not to making myself right24:24 - a lifelong commitment to learning24:38 - the willingness to create win-win relationships25:37 - a desire to understand our full context26:58 - internal and external awareness are two different skill sets28:34 - when you reach an impasse and need a guide30:12 - who is defining “being hot & having fun” in your life?30:48 - do i know what i’m doing when i like myself vs when i don’t?31:06 - give yourself the opportunity to notice32:33 - i have to think that the practice is worthwhile34:59 - which actions are producing desired results and which aren’t?35:32 - notice what’s exciting vs what’s draining36:23 - accept that other people’s interpretation of reality could be different to yours37:22 - your values come from your experience, you can mistakenly draw irrational conclusions from your experience38:54 - sidenote on addictions40:48 - consciousness and the body41:42 - train yourself to notice your thoughts41:12 - freeing the body contributes to freeing the mind44:22 - an orientation towards life that exists on a continuum45:24 - looking to where pain and frustrations are46:13 - garden analogy