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EPISODE · Jul 1, 2026 · 6 MIN

The Importance of Communicating Our Needs

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Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ It is a quiet tragedy that many relationships fail not due to a lack of love, but due to a failure in a basic yet vital skill: the art of emotional communication. This film explores why we struggle to speak our needs until we are at a breaking point, and how we can learn to express our most intimate truths with gentleness and self-possession before our affections are irreparably damaged. Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/the-importance-of-expressing-our-needs/ “It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we fail to master a basic-sounding hugely important skill that would probably have been in place if our childhoods had given us the right experience: the art of saying how we feel, relatively close to when we actually feel it, in a way that can be heard, with gentleness and self-possession, before our affections are irreparably affected. In a better arranged world, we would have been trained for this from an early age. Alongside lessons in physics and geography, we would have learnt - in our Emotional Communication classes - exactly how to speak about our most intimate needs without causing upset…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Diego Lodeiros https://thebrightagency.com/uk/animation/artists/diego-lodeiros Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ It is a quiet tragedy that many relationships fail not due to a lack of love, but due to a failure in a basic yet vital skill: the art of emotional communication. This film explores why we struggle to speak our needs until we are at a breaking point, and how we can learn to express our most intimate truths with gentleness and self-possession before our affections are irreparably damaged. Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/article/the-importance-of-expressing-our-needs/ “It is tear-inducing just how much can go wrong in love because we fail to master a basic-sounding hugely important skill that would probably have been in place if our childhoods had given us the right experience: the art of saying how we feel, relatively close to when we actually feel it, in a way that can be heard, with gentleness and self-possession, before our affections are irreparably affected. In a better arranged world, we would have been trained for this from an early age. Alongside lessons in physics and geography, we would have learnt - in our Emotional Communication classes - exactly how to speak about our most intimate needs without causing upset…” OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Diego Lodeiros https://thebrightagency.com/uk/animation/artists/diego-lodeiros Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ ​ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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