EPISODE · Apr 30, 2025 · 23 MIN
The Nice Guy vs The Kind Man, with April
from Date Like A Nerd · host Alex | Dating Anxiety Coach for Nerds
😇 The alternative to being a Nice Guy™ is often considered to be a Bad Boy 👨🎤 Because many people think that the problem is being a good person. And, sure, some people might be attracted to that... in the short term. But if you're looking to build a healthy and loving relationship, you may want to look into becoming a Kind Person, instead 😌🖤 In this episode, April returns to share what made her fall for her husband Scott. It wasn't his wealth (he lived in an RV), or being a nerd (he watched Star Trek and played video games), or his physique (we'll just believe her with that). It was him being "the kindest man she'd ever known." 😍🤔 What sometimes goes wrong with Nice Guys™ is giving with unspoken (and not agreed upon) expectations (a.k.a. manipulation) and a lack of boundaries. Some examples could be giving gifts or doing favors for someone you don't have a close relationship with, often at the expense of your own problems, expecting them to like you or do something for/with you 🎁❌ If you feel like you've been rejected for being a Nice Guy™ and you have to turn into a Bad Boy, give this episode a listen. You'll find many ways to become more attractive as a kind, good, and generous person 💪🎧 Listen now and trade the Nice Guy™ for the Kind Person!🖤 FREE GUIDE: Where (And How) To Meet Your Player 2 Organically 🎮 200+ ideas and a guide to help you on your Relationship Quest! Download it for free at https://www.datelikeanerd.com/where📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discordApril's Nerd Love Story: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/podcast/nerd-wedding/Boundaries Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/shields-boundaries/Vulnerability Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/be-like-a-barbarian-be-vulnerable/Socials: https://www.instagram.com/legiodith13https://www.threads.net/@legiodith13https://bsky.app/profile/legiodith.bsky.socialTimestamps for lazy nerds:00:00:00 Intro00:00:41 Being a Nice Guy00:04:52 Kind Person Behaviors00:09:07 Working on Your Mental Health00:13:31 Weird Acts of Kindness00:17:18 Boundary Problems with Nice GuysContact:[email protected] or@datelikeanerd on social media
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😇 The alternative to being a Nice Guy™ is often considered to be a Bad Boy 👨🎤 Because many people think that the problem is being a good person. And, sure, some people might be attracted to that... in the short term. But if you're looking to build a healthy and loving relationship, you may want to look into becoming a Kind Person, instead 😌 🖤 In this episode, April returns to share what made her fall for her husband Scott. It wasn't his wealth (he lived in an RV), or being a nerd (he watched...
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