EPISODE · Jun 19, 2025 · 5 MIN
The Problem Isn’t Your Standards—It’s the Context
from Untethering Shame · host Kyira Wackett
If you’ve ever been told your standards are “too high” or felt like backing off meant giving up, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, Kyira unpacks the real issue behind perfectionism and burnout—not the ambition itself, but the context in which our standards are created. We’ll explore how shame, external validation, and scarcity shape our goals, and how radical acceptance can help you rewrite the script to live more aligned, sustainable, and whole.In this episode, Kyira explores:Why high standards aren't inherently badThe hidden cost of overfunctioning and performance-based worthThe difference between narrowing your focus and broadening your viewHow to identify the areas of life you're starving while feeding othersWhy tending to “low ROI” roles like rest and creativity is essential to thrivingReflection prompts:Which “plants” in your life are you overwatering—and which are being neglected?Whose approval are your standards designed to earn?What would it look like to set goals rooted in your truth, not your shame?📝 Ask Me Anything: Have a Question?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).Submit anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.Stay Connected:Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode.YouTubeWebsite
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If you’ve ever been told your standards are “too high” or felt like backing off meant giving up, this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, Kyira unpacks the real issue behind perfectionism and burnout—not the ambition itself, but the context in which our standards are created. We’ll explore how shame, external validation, and scarcity shape our goals, and how radical acceptance can help you rewrite the script to live more aligned, sustainable, and whole.In this episode, Kyira explores:Why high standards aren't inherently badThe hidden cost of overfunctioning and performance-based worthThe difference between narrowing your focus and broadening your viewHow to identify the areas of life you're starving while feeding othersWhy tending to “low ROI” roles like rest and creativity is essential to thrivingReflection prompts:Which “plants” in your life are you overwatering—and which are being neglected?Whose approval are your standards designed to earn?What would it look like to set goals rooted in your truth, not your shame?📝 Ask Me Anything: Have a Question?Nothing is off-limits (well, almost nothing).Submit anonymously or with your name — whatever feels safest for you.👉 https://forms.gle/1uYJ87Y2Vag6KYCeA🧠 If this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who might need it. Let’s break the silence — together.Ready to take the next step?Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace.Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs.Stay Connected:Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode.YouTubeWebsite
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