The Real Reason Couples Fight About Money

An episode of the Put Yourself First podcast, hosted by Kat Horrocks, titled "The Real Reason Couples Fight About Money" was published on November 24, 2025 and runs 70 minutes.

November 24, 2025 ·70m · Put Yourself First

Summary

Money gets framed as this boring adult task that we all have to get through, but the truth is… it’s one of the biggest triggers for conflict, shutdown and resentment in relationships. And most of the time, the argument isn’t about the bill, the purchase or the spreadsheet. It’s about upbringing, safety, communication and how you both feel in the partnership.This week, I’m joined by wealth coach Sara J Maxwell to break open the REAL reasons couples argue about money and how to build a healthier, more connected dynamic together. Sara brings twenty plus years of experience in financial services, plus her powerful Couples Talk Money programme, which blends money coaching and relationship work beautifully.We cover everything from mismatched earning and privilege to those “you’re the spender and I’m the saver” patterns so many of us fall into. We talk about childhood money stories, triggers, fairness, resentment, breadwinner dynamics, and how to make money dates feel easy rather than awkward.If money conversations feel tense, avoided or full of emotion for you, this episode will help you understand why… and what to do about it as a team.You’ll walk away with practical tools, deeper self awareness and so much compassion for both yourself and your partner.This conversation is full of those “oh my God, that makes so much sense” moments. You’re going to feel so seen.💗 In This Episode We Explore• Why couples REALLY fight about money and what sits underneath the arguments• How your childhood money story shapes every financial decision today• Spender versus saver energy and why opposites attract• How to open up money conversations without triggering each other• The power of self first reflection and curiosity• What to do if you earn more or less than your partner• Navigating inheritance, privilege and imbalanced wealth• Why resentment builds in unequal earning situations and how to dissolve it• Money dates that bring you closer, not further apart• How to set shared financial goals that feel good for both of you• Why learning to talk about money often improves intimacy too🌟 Connect with SaraWebsite: https://www.wealth-coach.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourwealthcoach_/Couples Talk Money begins again in January.✨ Links MentionedMake 2026 Magnetic free challenge - https://www.khorrocks.com/challengeKat on Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/kat_horrocks/

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