The Story I'm Telling Myself Is...

Episode 11 of the This One Time in Real Estate... podcast, hosted by Mark Gellman, titled "The Story I'm Telling Myself Is..." was published on March 28, 2025 and runs 16 minutes.

March 28, 2025 ·16m · This One Time in Real Estate...

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Summary

We've been talking a lot about challenges lately on our team and in one-to-one conversations. Ignoring or avoiding challenges doesn't usually make them go away. The best way to deal with these scenarios is to block and tackle and face it head on, or if it's something you can't figure out on your own, seek support, expertise, and accountability from someone else. Get the elephant out of the room. There is nothing wrong with needing to ask for guidance and if you're experiencing some sort of conflict with someone in a personal way, be straightforward about it. Again, ignoring something doesn't make it go away. This is super important for conflict resolution. When you feel a certain way about something or you're talking to someone that is upset about a situation, phrase it as that's a story you're telling yourself and is that the consensus for everyone or just your interpretation? This phrasing: "the story I'm telling myself is..." can be super helpful in conflicts between different personality types. I Personalities over-communicate, but D Personalities might be more short or brisk in their conversation. This can lead to a disconnect right off the bat even if those individuals are not actually at odds with each other. Being able to understand personality types and how they communicate is not only vital in your personal life, but also in how you procure and work with clients. The best real estate agents are able to be chameleons and adapt to their clients. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Face challenges and conversations head-on.

Episode Description

Get the elephant out of the room. There is nothing wrong with needing to ask for guidance and if you're experiencing some sort of conflict with someone in a personal way, be straightforward about it. Again, ignoring something doesn't make it go away.

This is super important for conflict resolution. When you feel a certain way about something or you're talking to someone that is upset about a situation, phrase it as that's a story you're telling yourself and is that the consensus for everyone or just your interpretation?

This phrasing: "the story I'm telling myself is..." can be super helpful in conflicts between different personality types. I Personalities over-communicate, but D Personalities might be more short or brisk in their conversation. This can lead to a disconnect right off the bat even if those individuals are not actually at odds with each other.

Being able to understand personality types and how they communicate is not only vital in your personal life, but also in how you procure and work with clients. The best real estate agents are able to be chameleons and adapt to their clients. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Face challenges and conversations head-on.