The Struggle of Divorce: Part 10 - How to Forgive and Move On

How to Forgive and Move On. Forgiveness is necessary for you to move forward with life post-divorce. Forgiveness does not mean you are going to re-friend your spouse. But, to be truly free, you must find a way to: Forgive yourself, forgive your ex-spouse, forgive others in order to live life without bondage to anger or spite, without being controlled by bitterness, or consumed with exacting a price for your pain. Unforgiveness leads to contempt. Contempt is the polar opposite of Love. Love sees the best in others. Contempt sees the worst. In regard to contempt, a client recently reported he had a epiphany into contemptuous behavior (lack of forgiveness and holding grudges). He said, “I realize that treating someone with contempt is an attempt to put a bullet into someone’s heart to make them pay for the hurt I perceive I had suffered from the behavior of another”.