The Struggle of Divorce: Part 9 - Being Alone But Not Lonely

Alone by not Lonely. Rejection and abandonment are primary feelings associated with divorce. Others might be sadness, displacement, confusion, shame, betrayal…When the chain of hurt to anger is not broken, loneliness often fills in the gap left by unresolved needs. Loneliness is not due to the reality of singleness; it is a belief about being single; will I ever find someone new; will I get hurt again if trust again; will anyone every want me; am I actually lovable?  Identifying self with loneliness is a recipe for depression and anger. Lonely people tend to repel others, and so the loneliness deepens. The cure for loneliness is to be alone but not lonely. This is something you CAN choose to accomplish.