EPISODE · Aug 4, 2026 · 38 MIN
The Tower I Built (And Why I'm Leaving It)
from Unwritten with Steph · host Stephanie Shanks
Send us Fan Mail After four years of living alone — building a life, a business, and a version of herself that finally felt safe — Steph is signing away her lease and moving in with her boyfriend. In this episode, she gets honest about what dating after 40 actually feels like: the judgment single women face, the walls she built after two marriages that left her feeling "not enough," and the moment she realized her safe, beautiful apartment had quietly become a tower she was hiding in. She talks triggers (freeze vs. fight), the little girl who wallpapered a closet to feel protected, and why real connection — not more solitude — is the next stretch of her growth. This one's for anyone who's ever built a life so safe it stopped letting anyone in. Support the show https://www.stephshanks.com https://www.instagram.com/unwrittenwithsteph https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephshanks/ https://www.youtube.com/@stephshanks https://www.tiktok.com/@stephshanks?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc https://www.facebook.com/stephshanksphotography
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Send us Fan Mail After four years of living alone — building a life, a business, and a version of herself that finally felt safe — Steph is signing away her lease and moving in with her boyfriend. In this episode, she gets honest about what dating after 40 actually feels like: the judgment single women face, the walls she built after two marriages that left her feeling "not enough," and the moment she realized her safe, beautiful apartment had quietly become a tower she was hiding in. She tal...
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