The Trauma Bond Rollercoaster

The type of abuse or attachment within a trauma bond can look different for every relationship, but the cycle is the same. They all still cause damage to the area of the brain that is responsible for executive functioning, but specifically emotional regulation. Last episode I mentioned the sympathetic limbic system. When the amygdala sends a signal to this system, it pushes you into the fight or flight response which triggers the panicking, worrying, fixating, craving etc. You aren't stupid or weak, you are being affected by trauma. You are in survival mode at this point. But you don't have to stay stuck there. When you hit your rock bottom of toxic relationships, you develop this internal motivation to really work through your trauma, heal, and begin setting healthy boundaries so you never end up in a situation like that again.