The true benefits of ambivalence | Allan Zuckoff

Join me on 'Compassion in a T Shirt' with special guest Dr. Allan Zuckoff, a clinical psychologist and expert in motivational interviewing. We dive into the concept of ambivalence, its associated discomfort, and how people often get stuck. And we discover the benefits of ambivalence, including how it can signal the need to slow down and promote resilience. Allan also shares practical tips for navigating ambivalence, such as self-affirmation and exploring core values. This episode is a rich conversation for anyone looking to understand and harness the power of ambivalence in their personal transformation.TIME STAMPS:00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:49 Defining Ambivalence04:36 The Discomfort of Ambivalence06:25 Ambivalence in Decision Making08:52 Dialectical Thinking and Ambivalence13:52 Ambivalence and Uncertainty27:12 The Cycle of Avoidance and Impulsivity33:24 Self-Trust and Decision Making44:27 Benefits of Ambivalence54:01 Embracing Discomfort and Indecision54:39 Benefits of Distress Tolerance55:55 Emotional Resilience and Ambivalence57:00 Understanding Complicated Grief59:22 The Role of Ambivalence in Grief01:03:04 Cognitive and Emotional Ambivalence01:07:57 Exploring Vertical Ambivalence01:09:53 Values Card Sort Exercise01:24:06 Self-Affirmation and Confidence01:32:08 Practical Takeaways for Handling Ambivalence01:42:34 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsLINKS:Finding Your Way to Change: How the Power of Motivational Interviewing Can Reveal What You Want and Help You Get There (Zuckoff, 2015)https://amzn.to/41pHaIsAllan's recent blog on the topic of ambivalence:https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/fueling-the-fire-of-change/202502/what-does-it-mean-to-resolve-ambivalenceIf you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://amzn.to/4knPv7hSay hi on social:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindlTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindlInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/-13VaRLmvrI*Affiliate Disclaimer:Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support!Video hashtags:motivational interviewing, ambivalence, self-compassion, uncertainty, tolerance, change, behaviour,