How Perimenopause Increases Divorce Risk — and What to Do Before It Gets There

Divorce isn’t the end of your story—it might just be the beginning of the most self-empowered chapter yet.In this episode of The Forties Formula podcast, hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with SHUMEI HOON, a seasoned family lawyer, and SOPHIE LEUNG, a trauma-informed confidence coach, to explore divorce through both legal and emotional lenses.If you’ve ever wondered how women navigate identity, parenthood, and self-worth during a major life transition, this conversation offers validation, clarity, and hope.What you’ll learn:• Why more women in their 40s are choosing to leave emotionally unfulfilling or toxic marriages• The critical role of financial independence, self-awareness, and emotional exhaustion in divorce decisions• What legally constitutes “unreasonable behaviour” in Singapore—and how it plays out in custody and asset division• How unresolved childhood patterns can silently shape your adult relationships• The power of viewing divorce as a temporary “failure” that’s actually a launchpad for growth, healing, and future love• Practical tips: the 4 things to reflect on before you initiate a separationWhether you’re married, divorced, or simply rethinking what relationships mean to you in midlife, this episode reminds you: your needs, voice, and identity matter—and it’s never too late to start living in alignment.👉 Support The Forties Formula Podcast by subscribing, sharing this episode, and leaving a rating & review!_____Special Thanks to Our Sponsors:🥩 The Meat Club – Get $12 off your first order with code TFF12🌯 Guzman y Gomez – Want to try their limited-edition Chicken Rendang for FREE? 🍛 Leave us a review, DM us a screenshot, and be one of the first 10 listeners to grab a code!_____CHAPTERS03:20 – Why Divorce Rates Are Rising for Women in Their 40s06:45 – Financial Independence and the Midlife Awakening09:30 – Emotional Exhaustion and Shrinking to Save a Marriage14:50 – Infidelity, Value Clashes, and the Reality Behind Breakups21:00 – Legal Grounds for Divorce: Adultery vs. Unreasonable Behavior25:40 – Divorce Logistics: Assets, Custody & International Law31:00 – What to Know About Child Abduction Laws in Expat Divorce34:20 – 4 Essential Steps to Take BEFORE You File38:00 – Trauma Bonds, Support Systems & Emotional Recovery42:10 – The Future After Divorce: Self-Trust and Second Chances45:30 – Conscious Uncoupling and Co-Parenting Realities52:15 – What Women Fear Most After Divorce54:30 – What's YOUR Forties Formula?