Stephanie: The Truth About Domestic Violence and Child Custody

A lot of what people "know" about family court turns out to be wrong, and believing the myths can cost you your case before it starts. In this episode, a New York domestic violence attorney joins Lisa to separate what people assume from what actually happens in a custody fight.She takes on the belief that the court is simply biased against one gender, and explains why the outcomes are messier than that. She and Lisa cover why being the "primary caretaker" doesn't automatically win custody, why abuse claims face skepticism (and how documentation changes that), why child support and visitation are legally separate, how CPS reports get weaponized, the risk of venting online while your case is open, and why electing judges who understand coercive control shapes every outcome.This is strategic education, not legal advice for your specific situation.✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ✅ Why the "court is biased against one gender" story is more myth than fact ✅ Why being the primary caretaker doesn't automatically win custody ✅ Why abuse claims face skepticism, and how documentation changes that ✅ Why child support and visitation are legally separate questions ✅ How CPS reports get weaponized in a custody battle ✅ The real risk of sharing your story online while your case is open ✅ What actually counts as evidence a judge can act on ✅ Why electing informed judges shapes every outcome in family court⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper) 0:00 Intro 1:00 The myths people believe about family court 12:29 Custody and domestic violence: what really decides it 26:41 Child support, visitation, and CPS as a weapon 36:38 Sharing your story online, and electing better judgesCTA (spoken): Facing a custody fight with an abusive ex? Book a free discovery call at beentheregotout.com. Books: Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/ · When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183 Tags: domestic violence custody, child custody myths, family court, primary caretaker, child support, cps, coercive control, documenting abuse, high conflict divorce