The Ugly Truth About Being the Nice Guy - Dr. Robert Glover

The Nice Guy and the jerk are doing the exact same thing. Same shame, different mask. This is part one of a five-part week with Dr. Robert Glover, best-selling author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, and we start at the root. Glover argues nice guy syndrome has almost nothing to do with being polite. It comes from a belief formed before you could speak, that something is wrong with you, and it shows up as a set of hidden deals you make with the people around you: I'll do this for you, so you owe me that. FREE THIS WEEK: We built a companion field guide for the whole series. It's the main points from every episode plus copy-and-paste prompts you can drop into ChatGPT or your journal to actually do the work. Grab it at frontrowdads.com/niceguy.   IN THIS EPISODE: - Why the nice guy and the jerk are driven by the same thing, and why your first boundaries make you swing into being a jerk - The two types of nice guys: the "I'm so good" and the "I'm so bad" - The night his wife read him a book about shame and told him it was him - What shame actually is: an inaccurately internalized belief you formed before you had words - The dessert he ate that he didn't want, and the door he held that wasn't kindness - The three covert contracts, and how they quietly turn into resentment and rage This is part 1 of 5. Coming this week: boundaries for men, decoding your wife's emotional statements, brotherhood and male isolation, and attracting the feminine as a married man. Hear Glover's full conversation at frontrowdads.com/444. His book is No More Mr. Nice Guy.