The Unseen Guest: How Past Wounds Shape Your Marriage Conflicts

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (March 25, 2026), Paul explores how past emotional wounds quietly shape conflicts in marriage—affecting desires, avoidance, and personality tensions like introversion and extroversion. He encourages honest conversations with your spouse about why you feel the way you do and the promise to work toward healing together. Paul explains that admitting the influence of past pain isn’t selfish, and that pursuing healing—sometimes with a trained third party or story work—can make compromise easier and the marriage stronger.