The Upside Down: Choosing Pain and Finding Compassion

Tam Callaghan had a realisation that made her feel a bit silly at first, and then completely changed how she understood her own anxiety. She was choosing it. Not consciously, but choosing it all the same.  In this episode she unpacks the idea that anxiety can sometimes be a way of avoiding responsibility for choices we've made, and why staying in worry feels safer than sitting with the discomfort of ownership. She also gets honest about using worry as a hobby, what happens creatively when she chooses action instead, and why compassion for yourself and others is the piece that makes the whole thing actually work.  In this episode:  The realisation: why she was choosing anxiety over responsibility  The Upside Down: anxiety as a way of avoiding ownership  Which pain do you choose? The Mark Manson idea that ties it together  Using worry as a hobby and what it costs  What opens up creatively when you choose action over worry  Trauma, habits and why some reactions are automatic, not chosen  Drama, externalising pain, and the compassion that changes everything  Being bravely loving to yourself as the conclusion  Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast  Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/  Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio  Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast.  ———————  Chapters  0:00 Intro & what to expect  0:17 A surprising realisation  0:46 The Upside Down — choosing anxiety  0:58 My history with anxiety  1:52 Noticing I was choosing anxiety  2:40 Example: training and responsibility  3:36 Which pain do you choose?  5:05 I worry as a hobby  7:02 Unlocking creativity — choosing action over worry  9:35 Addendum: compassion & Stephan Bodian  10:02 Trauma, habits, and automatic reactions  11:42 Drama, externalising pain, and compassion  13:01 Conclusion: be bravely loving to yourself  ———————  #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Anxiety #Worry #PersonalGrowth #MindsetShift #InnerWork #SelfCompassion #Responsibility #MarkManson #WhichPainDoYouChoose #PodcastAustralia #MentalWellness #Creativity #BravelyLoving